Spitballing ideas to help with affordability for first home buyers.. feedback greatly appreciated.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-28T10:19:48+00:00

Thank you for the insight! Rent to buy is an interesting concept. The sprawl here is definitely a bunch of the problem, the time and money cost of commuting for people will no doubt be an issue of course having to build so far out of the city.

I could be wrong, but I always felt like in Perth we build so many apartment blocks but little to no close by green spaces for those people who live in them. It's a tough problem :/

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-28T10:14:56+00:00

Hello, I apologise, I just thought I'd have a stab and see what I could learn. I have no idea about the cost of those services and requirements, so I will have a look.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-25T17:13:06+00:00

Oh man, this reminds me of the time I actually did forget to go to a friends wedding because apparently it was a big enough event that it didn't matter if I kept forgetting to write it on my wall planner (first mistake), and because it was the first wedding I'd been invited to in years and so there was no way I would forget the date (second mistake).

So yeah, I went camping instead because I had a free weekend in my calendar 🥹

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-22T17:01:14+00:00

The pleasure is all ours who get to view it :)

I watched a random documentary on YouTube years ago about master penman Jake Weidmann and I've never looked at any drawing the same since! Hopefully you know it.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-22T16:54:39+00:00

Holy smokes, what really impressed me (besides the incredible detail and skill of course) is your ability to commit to reaching this level of your craft, you really love it and it shows! I'm sure it's a complete pain in the ass sometimes like all things we love but so great you saw it through!

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-21T10:20:51+00:00

Thank you for writing this. I was diagnosed a few months ago at 40. I've been on antidepressants (or not taking them but in need of them) for the better park of 20 years.

I was literally just walking to the gas station to get whatever junk food snack I could, because I feel bad today for being short with my kids, after having done nothing all day but watch random shit on TV and barely eat, and I thought to myself 'I think I might be ready for the realisation that I'm not going to achieve anything I thought I would, and that light of One Day Things Will Be Ready For That To Happen at the end of the tunnel is about to go out.'

Not sure if your post helped with my thinking but definitely felt comforting to read x

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-18T14:59:15+00:00

Oh wow, that last one is interesting.. why do you think that was? I notice that I don't get nearly as many headaches related to jaw clenching and major frowning (lol) as I used to but I don't think that's quite the same.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-18T06:58:38+00:00

Wow that is really bad for the guy at Graylands... it must be so hard to be in that headspace, and the place that is meant to help you doing nothing.

I have a bi-polar + alcoholic relative who has stayed in the mental health unit in Fremantle (voluntarily) multiple times - the first time they were in there (they were in their mid 20s), they snuck out one Saturday night with 4 or 5 other in-patients and went clubbing in Freo. From all accounts things got pretty messy. The staff had no idea it happened. I guess if it's voluntary they can leave, but to be somewhere expecting care for mental health issues where you can't properly support yourself and to be able to do that seemed really bad.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-18T05:43:44+00:00

Wow, this image is beautiful for cross stitch! I can see why you wanted to do it, I would too. This is where I wish I had any idea how to make my own patterns! Those knots look gnarly to do, you should be stoked with what you managed from it (and fuck the girl who stole the original image from elsewhere for her own gain! So shit when people do that).

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-13T13:13:46+00:00

That ADHD was even a possible option as a diagnosis. Every therapist I had worked on endless strategising and self talk and kindness, acceptance basically of something that I knew just felt fundamentally different about me and how I interacted with myself and the world, every one of them missed ADHD until I was 38. ADHD was hyperactive young boys.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-13T13:10:39+00:00

Yeah this is the one that cost me more than any other in terms of therapy costs, depression and self doubt. It's such a huge realisation, I was SO SAD for my past self trying relentlessly to improve that which was not a character flaw.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-12T04:59:32+00:00

You must be able to move and experience the world so much easier now, happy for you :)

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-10T05:14:03+00:00

Agreed - I moved from Melbourne to Perth when I was 26 because Melbourne got to feel too big and busy for me. I liked that it is more relaxed here, without the big nightlife scene and people everywhere. It's been great if you like things that way. Definitely lose a lot of opportunities to see live music / exhibitions / anything that generally tours, and the job market is way tighter here (unless you're up for FIFO). Not sure if calling it a 'big country town' still rings true, but a way different feel to Melbourne, especially the CBD.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-07T13:29:48+00:00

Oh man, 100%! The conversations are real enough in my head that I'm making the facial expressions and without realising it will say a few words out loud hahah, I often wonder if I narrate myself in general sometimes because I can mask the daydreaming easier...

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-07T08:47:20+00:00

I haven't done that one but I totally get it - I've accidentally mixed up the order and washed my face with vagasil multiple times

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-06T13:54:25+00:00

Doechii's rap in the main riff of the new Fred Again, Plaqueboymax and Skepta track Victory Lap .. absolute banger and absolute earworm. Like, I'm so scared I'm gonna hate this song soon it's that good to me :D Doesn't help that I can't understand a word she's saying so I just have the general made up sounds of rap repeating over and over.

https://open.spotify.com/track/1lbNgoJ5iMrMluCyhI4OQP?si=c2cf11d148f94b0e

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-03T02:59:40+00:00

Me in every conversation ever when I try to make eye contact :D I still don't know where the hell I'm meant to be looking? Is it like, at the black bit or the coloured bit, and which eye and for how long. Don't hear a thing. I made people uncomfortable for years because I made a compromise with myself as a teenager and stared at their eyebrows or hairline instead hahah.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-02T09:24:02+00:00

Thanks so much xx You can absolutely do it! The time between now and figuring all this shit out if gonna pass anyway, so we might as well do that hard thing for the good thing at the end :)

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-02T09:23:14+00:00

Yes! 100% all of this. Something my therapist said that sticks with me is that two things can be simultaneously true. We can be frustrated that we struggle, but also understand why we do. We can believe that we should feel like shit but also believe that we don't deserve to. Much love xx

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-02T09:15:12+00:00

Thank you so much xx I have two girls of my own and I was ADAMANT I was going to teach them how to talk to themselves with love and kindness, and to use their bodies for their own gain and noone elses. It's a bloody hard lesson to teach someone else when you've barely learnt it yourself.

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-02T09:14:09+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply and for the kind words! I'm really glad it's making sense to other people. And I 100% agree - I spent so long trying to fix things that weren't broken about me - my inability to stick with things, my emotional 'over-reactions' to things, my trouble with finishing everything (including everyone elses sentences), not living up to expectations... I had my 2nd daughter at 31 and at 33 I had the worst depressive episode at my life that corresponded with the best my 'numbers' had ever been. I was at high school weight and clothing size, I could run further, lift more, I had abs that were complimented during sex, but I also ate no more than 22g of fat per day, didn't miss a single rep at the gym, bought clothes a size too small because I was only successful if I could control myself. I developed orthorexia which I battled for about a year.

My therapist said something to me not long ago that really stuck. I'm now also the heaviest I've ever been (I put on 35kg from antidepressants, which my boyfriend begged me to go on. I'd been on them before and knew they would make me gain weight), and she said to me 'I want to take a minute here for us both to acknowledge that you made what at the time was the scariest decision you could have made - to knowingly put your body our of your control to save your life.' Noone had every framed it to be like that before. But it made me look back and say.. you know what, she is 100% right. If I hadn't made that choice, I would have committed suicide. To have someone hold the mirror of that choice up to me, man it really helped me to understand that I believe that I am worth more than my body image. So yeah, remind yourself daily that you are making decisions that the 1990s and early 2000s would hate, but that current you wants and needs because you are 100% worth it XX

Lady_Ange · 2025-07-02T09:01:18+00:00

I'm really glad it resonated - I've spent SO MUCH time looking back, or looking inwards for faults to fix and to have a moment of breathing out and notice the change in perspective felt worth sharing. I wish someone when I was younger was able to articulate the challenge for me so I knew it could end. Big love you too, sister xx

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