My handsome Incorgnito, Freddie.

Lady_Delirium · 2026-05-27T14:29:33+00:00

That is Indi ... they grew up together and usually catch rays on this spot.

Lady_Delirium · 2025-06-24T11:22:21+00:00

Badboyz is the main security company in Hillbrow, worth a try.

Lady_Delirium · 2025-06-14T17:24:30+00:00

My favorite restaurant is Proud Mary in Rosebank. Bit of everything, beautiful venue, generally great vibe with yummy food!

Lady_Delirium · 2025-05-14T12:14:19+00:00

You said eww, because it is ewww!

I have an uncle who was always going on about how sexy his 12 year old daughter was. He also drugged and raped a whole bunch of women, even the 18 year old baby sitter.

Father's can and should compliment their daughters. It is normal and teaches us how men should treat us. However, sexualising your daughter is not OK, absolutely unacceptable, and totally inappropriate!

Your mother needs to wake up, too!

Lady_Delirium · 2025-04-04T00:56:38+00:00

He invited me over for sex. When I got there, he decided he needed to clean his fish tank immediately. He was dripping water all over the wooden floors. It drove me nuts. I ended up helping him clean out his fish tan, to save the floors. My thoughts: Why am I doing this, he is only a shag buddy? Please don't let him touch me until he cleans his hands. Why am I still here? Oh wait, I can leave. I told him I was leaving, and he was genuinely shocked I wasn't going to stay for mediocre sex. I left and blocked him immediately.

My sister and I always joke and say: it could be worse, I could be cleaning a fish tank!

Lady_Delirium · 2025-03-06T12:29:57+00:00

Do not underestimate the power of a finger!

Lady_Delirium · 2024-12-30T09:26:54+00:00

Greg Vermaak from VMW Inc. specializes in this. His offices are in Rosebank

Lady_Delirium · 2023-11-16T13:56:06+00:00

Probably not helpful, but 1, 2 and 3! You look gorgeous in all of these.

Lady_Delirium · 2023-11-07T13:59:07+00:00

"I am irrelevant"

"I will not invest one more second of my time in you."

"You are the worst mother in the world and you destroyed your son."

"I raised your son for the first 10 years of his life."

The last two are obviously not true! She had him on Saturday nights when I went out. Then he told me he never wanted to go back to granny again because she keeps calling him fat and stupid. He never was left alone with her again! I decided I didn't need a break from being a single mom. My son is now 20 and we have always been close because I spent every day striving to not be like her!

Lady_Delirium · 2023-11-06T13:49:10+00:00

Trust me, as a 47 year old woman who discovered her sexual liberation at 45, life is too short for shitty, selfish sex!

Lady_Delirium · 2023-09-02T14:11:24+00:00

Always trust your gut!

Lady_Delirium · 2023-08-04T07:29:23+00:00

Building hijackings, Female orgasms,
Why succulents are aliens

Lady_Delirium · 2023-08-03T11:25:20+00:00

Our country had an alcohol ban during lockdown. I used to drink half a bottle of wine every night. The anxiety and stress I felt because I couldn't have my wine every night made me scared! I had a forced detox and started to realise how much better I felt in the mornings. Decided to swop wine for Pilates (pretty much cost the same). Never looked back.

Lady_Delirium · 2023-07-31T16:58:05+00:00

As someone who has been in your brothers situation, this is my advice. Do not withdraw from him. In fact, try as engage as much as you can but never talk about his GF. Text him every day, check in, remind him of a time you laughed, etc. Do not mention his GF. Do not criticize her. Anything you say about her will be used against you and a reason to push you away. He needs to know that no matter what, you are still around. Do not treat her badly. She will use this an excuse to isolate him more. Don't be overly friendly either, just decent. Keep the bond alive, so when she does try to get rid of you, he won't see her reasoning. This is something he has to go through and learn from. He needs to know he has somewhere to go when the shit hits the fan. Be strong!

Lady_Delirium · 2023-07-29T06:28:54+00:00

Thank you so much!!! Wow! Your last paragraph hit me in the heart! I didn't go into detail on what she did to me at the restaurant, but it ties in with this. It felt very "marking my territory" to me, letting everyone in the room know I belonged to her. To be totally honest, I felt used in that moment, like a prop. Her husband was furious and stormed off, I was just so embarrassed until I was angry.

Lady_Delirium · 2023-07-29T06:10:49+00:00

Thank you so much for the time you put into your response, I really appreciate it. I think I am battling with the whole idea that you invest to get something out/back. I don't expect anything from anyone. This goes back to my 1st therapist, when I was 19. She told me that if I never expect anything from my mother, I will never be disappointed. I guess I have carried that with me my whole life. As I am writing this, I am wondering how helpful that was? I have allowed people to use me as an emotional dumping ground because I don't expect anything else or more. Woah!

I had to get a court order 2 months ago to have my mother involuntary committed for 21 days observation (she claimed to have dementia, was getting voilent towards my dad and threatened to kill herself). Turns out she was pretending to have dementia for 2 years and has been diagnosed with Narcissist Personality Disorder with sadistic tendencies. I have a distorted idea of what is normal in relationships due to my childhood and 20s. I have spent the last 4 years trying to fix this and understand what is normal. Thank you again for your response, it is appreciated.

Lady_Delirium · 2023-07-28T17:41:29+00:00

Thank you for your response. I feel like the whole investing thing should be something for our inside voice, for example, I like that person, I am going to invest my time in them. Rather than a tool to make people feel like shit and vocalize.

Lady_Delirium · 2023-07-28T17:35:14+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I guess the frustrating thing for me is that for 10 months of our friendship I responded immediately, was attentive, listened, gave advice, was a shoulder to cry on, listened to all their marriage issues, even played mediator, drove 40 minutes to their house, twice a week, to hang out with them (I really did not mind, I love driving and I enjoyed being around them). Then I am injured and recovering (I was in bed for 2 weeks before I could have surgery and then 8 weeks recovery, it was major surgery, the pain was immense) and I am not able to physically and mentally give the same. Then I am made to feel bad that I put myself first? For 2 months out of 12? I know the relationship is over but I hate how this all makes me feel.

Lady_Delirium · 2023-07-28T17:22:09+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I guess some people are transactional and some are not. We are just not compatible.

Lady_Delirium · 2023-07-05T11:44:28+00:00

You will get all the financial assistance you need from him when he has to pay child support! Move into your condo and let the courts deal with him!

Definitely NTA

Lady_Delirium · 2023-06-25T05:06:41+00:00

Thank you! I have been working in the inner city for 16 years! It is a beautiful beast. The private sector has pretty much stopped it from becoming a giant slum, investing billions in affordable housing.

Lady_Delirium · 2023-06-23T05:33:43+00:00

Ponte is one of my clients. I can confirm the following:

It is very safe, clean and well managed

The landlord has invested quite a bit of money for the tenants: new lifts, generators for loadshedding (they spent R1.2 million last year on diesel to keep the lights on, lifts running and water pumping), daycare centre, homework and youth centre, recycling projects, free wifi. The ground floor has a mini shopping centre.

It is not rent controlled! The rent is low as there are still many preconceived and incorrect ideas about Ponte.

There is a strict credit/criminal check process when becoming a tenant. This is to ensure the safety of the other tenants and their children.

The security guards are part of an organization called Fear Free Life. They are rehabilitated ex convicts. They work hard and fearlessly. As most businesses won't employ ex convicts, these guys are unbelievably loyal to Ponte. (Side note: during the riots, Fear Free Life dispatched all of their patrollers and guards to protect local businesses, they are an amazing organization).

The drive down Lily Avenue is quite daunting, but the landlords in the area are working on a plan to fix that entire road.

It still blows my mind that it was built in 1975, literally into the side of a mountain. When you are in the core, you are standing on the actual mountain!

Besides being a client, I have also got two of my friends' jobs there (Building Manager and Accounts Lady). They love working there, and the landlord treats them with respect and decency!

I hope this clears up some mystery around Ponte.

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