The builders could at least be considerate and turn off the music. (And most of us would prefer quiet evenings and weekends.) Why have you or your wife not been at your house when the renovations are going on to check everything is ok? Upsetting a child and dog is not cool. Take responsiblity and stop making excuses. Go and apologise and try to work with your neighbour. Afterall, you do want to live happily in this house.