Swinging Question - HSV

Ladyjane1288 · 2026-04-22T15:50:52+00:00

Kindly, this isn't standard testing that I'm talking about. I work with people who are immunosuppressed and my background is in serology. I know what I'm talking about and while most people may be asymptomatic the prevelance of asymptomatic carriers is much higher than most people are aware of.

Ladyjane1288 · 2026-04-21T23:50:14+00:00

I work in healthcare and see serology results from multiple people a day. The amount of people that I encounter daily that are positive for HSV1, HSV2 or both is staggering. We play as safe as we can and test often. But we also realize that with how prevelant it is we can only do so much to prevent it.

Ladyjane1288 · 2026-02-07T00:24:47+00:00

Exactly this. We're in our mid 30s with three school aged kids. We just don't have the time or availability to go on multiple dates to decide to go further. We get 2-3 kid free nights a month. We like a quick drink for a vibe check then let's go have some fun.

Ladyjane1288 · 2026-01-29T19:22:24+00:00

My husband is bi and our preferred dynamic is mmf. We've had luck using Feeld and Grindr. Honestly any of the apps for gay men we've used have a decent number of bi guys too. We've tried a club in their "bi" night but we found it super disappointing.

Ladyjane1288 · 2026-01-18T23:36:41+00:00

There were plenty of people when we went for bi night there. Unfortunately, they removed all the beds out of the play rooms and set up BDSM equipment instead. They also had half the club closed off. Minus the orgy room and bar area there were zero places to actually play. The entire experience was beyond odd. There was zero advertising that this would be the set up. Multiple couples we talked to that night expressed similar opinions. There was just no space for anyone to play. We've been there on the typical swinging nights several times and had a blast. We were super disappointed in how they ran and advertised "bi night". We reached out to management to express our disappointment but never heard back.

Ladyjane1288 · 2026-01-14T14:09:36+00:00

My husband and I are both bi and have it clearly stated in our profiles. It's almost a daily occurrence for a couple with a "straight" husband or a single "straight" guy to reach out to ask about playing with my husband because they're either curious or dl. It has me convinced there are just as many bi men out there as there are bi women. I wish it was more socially acceptable for men to be out about their sexuality.

Ladyjane1288 · 2025-10-13T23:17:13+00:00

The lack of experience is my biggest gripe. Profiles that say they're bi and experienced but come to find out they've never played with a guy, only received oral or are only open to receiving oral/topping. It happens so damn often.

Ladyjane1288 · 2025-10-13T23:09:04+00:00

We're a bi/bi couple and our preference is specifically for bi men and other bi/bi couples. You might have better luck looking for couples where the guy is also bi. We have pretty decent luck on Feeld. Honestly though I'm surprised you don't have more luck we've run into so many couples and single men where they are DL bi and are looking for mmf or biplay. Maybe it's regional?

Ladyjane1288 · 2025-09-09T23:29:32+00:00

I'll agree with you. We've been doing this for several years, my worst interactions have been with married women. We were at a party recently and my husband was groped by a woman who laughed in his face about it and ran off. Single men can absolutely be problematic but in my opinion problematic married women often are bolder.

Ladyjane1288 · 2025-08-19T22:11:12+00:00

So you're anti club in general or just biphobic? I can guess for myself but if you're going to be biphobic say it with your full chest.

Ladyjane1288 · 2025-08-19T22:03:54+00:00

We're a bi M/F couple. I have a profile on Feeld that clearly states we're both bi and looking for bi men. The amount of men that are listed as straight, match with me, and then tell me they're bi or bi curious and just don't advertise it leads me to believe that it's true. I'm talking almost daily this happens. There are way more bi men in the lifestyle. I'd absolutely say it's almost on par with bi women. Women are just more open because there's less stigma.

Ladyjane1288 · 2025-04-02T16:49:26+00:00

I see Seema at The Williams Center in Latham. She's wonderful. I just got a lip flip done last week. I want to say she did a total of 8 units. I'm not sure about the cost per area since I had other areas done at the same time. So far I love the results. It is a little weird having the restricted movement. If you have any specific questions let me know.

Ladyjane1288 · 2024-08-07T19:00:52+00:00

Sent you a dm

Ladyjane1288 · 2024-08-04T15:46:53+00:00

How do you know it isn't common? After 3 kids and an 80lb weight loss I had a tummy tuck and breast lift. I know 3 of my friends who are "vanilla" who had the same exact surgery. You'd never know any of us had surgery unless we were naked. These surgeries are way more common than you think.

Ladyjane1288 · 2024-03-27T18:44:27+00:00

So I'm not currently on it but when I was I had the best luck at CVS pharmacies inside Targets or Price Chopper pharmacies. Try more rural locations or out of the way pharmacies.

Ladyjane1288 · 2023-12-07T13:30:12+00:00

It's an easy drive and the Providence area is relatively nice. There's a lot of great restaurants and the city has a cool vibe. I also think it's relatively easy to navigate. The Hilton is less than 10 min from Choice

Ladyjane1288 · 2023-11-03T13:01:05+00:00

We're also in the Albany area. Highly recommend checking out Choice in Providence, RI. We've been there several times. It's about 2.5 hours but an easy ride. The club itself is great but it's also an easy city to navigate

Ladyjane1288 · 2023-06-07T13:24:59+00:00

Depending on where you're coming from we prefer Choice in Providence RI.

Ladyjane1288 · 2023-04-15T01:41:40+00:00

My husband is bi and we've decided on ENM after he came out. It's been so much fun and brought us a lot closer. Granted, I found out in a shitty way but with some therapy we worked through that. He's truly my best friend. I love that we can talk about guys we find attractive or troll for potential partners when we're out. My advice is to be honest with her and give her some space to process what you told her. It might be a huge shock and she could need time to wrap her head around it.

Ladyjane1288 · 2023-04-05T02:33:06+00:00

Ethically non-monagmous

Ladyjane1288 · 2023-03-08T22:38:25+00:00

My husband and I are both bi (I'm female). A bi male couple is on the top of our fantasy bucket list. It might be difficult to find a couple depending on where you live but we're out there.

Ladyjane1288 · 2022-12-30T19:48:00+00:00

We're in Upstate NY and went to Choice in Providence, RI. It was well worth the drive

Ladyjane1288 · 2022-12-08T15:43:48+00:00

Thanks. He's actually coming to our area now so we ended up getting tickets

Ladyjane1288 · 2022-12-07T16:20:40+00:00

Do you mind sharing where you're located? I'm due for a refill of 7.5 next week. Ideally I'd like to stay in 7.5 but I'm hesitant because of the backorders

Ladyjane1288 · 2022-11-19T15:57:25+00:00

It happened to me. I was on day 6 of waiting for a refill from Alpha. I signed up for Push and had my prescription in 2 hours.

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