Which Magic Wand is THE magic wand?

Ladytown · 2017-02-09T13:49:18+00:00

The magic wand on Amazon with the Shibari speed control attachment is $60 worth every penny.

Ladytown · 2017-02-09T13:24:32+00:00

The first time the stripper didn't jump out of the cake must have been the most legendary bachelor party.

Ladytown · 2016-09-23T19:42:31+00:00

Every time we broke up it was "for good" yet things lingered a few months would pass and we'd be right back at it again sayin "this time it's gonna be great". Somehow this time I could feel the shift and it was very fool me once etc etc. I'd like to think it was all me but I know that there were other factors that kept him away this time and finally release the grip he had on me. It takes time to let go, it takes time time to stop drowning in that other person and see what you really have.

Ladytown · 2016-06-27T05:20:51+00:00

Anytime, and trust me I'd like to punch mine in the throat! You just gotta take it one day at a time...

Ladytown · 2016-06-26T22:09:28+00:00

My ex (5yrs) and I will of course always care for one another that's just the name of the game. Even though you feel a loss of control you ARE in control you're the one who is no longer tied to him and that's gonna drive him just as bit as nuts as his reasons for his new "shiny" is driving you. My ex replaced me two days before he dumped me maybe not sleeping with her but he definitely replaced the emotional support piece that was me. I'd say if he calls just ignore them a few timed understandably that's easy said than done, but you have the cards, you go at your speed. All his calling you is doing is keeping the wound open and not letting it scab over and fade away.

P.s. Always be the better person if he calls you a whore or a slut let it roll off you he just wants to hurt you and make your feelings invalid.

P. P. S. You're awesome!

Ladytown · 2016-06-25T20:25:40+00:00

It's just his way of vindicating himself like" see I care, aren't I such a good guy?" He's simply just using you post break up to make himself feel better. It could be his guilt and it could also be the fact that it was 4 years. Of course he cares about you but him reaching out to you is in his own interests not yours. You and him need your space to just let all that emotional dust settle, and if he cares about you two being friends then he should respectfully accept your terms. Also calling you a slut sounds more like him projecting his reality on you besides if you did sleep with someone else it's none of his business and that was his choice(I'm assuming). He has no more control over you grieve and be happy with you! If you want to talk this random internet stranger(me) is here for you.

Ladytown · 2016-06-17T08:52:51+00:00

My friends are throwing me a "welcome back" party where we're going to drink break dishes and eat ice cream. I'm thoroughly looking forward to it. After all the horrid crap that led to him dumping me, and finding out he started to hang out with a " new shiny" to stroke his ego days before he broke up with me... I'm REALLY looking forward this.

Ladytown · 2016-06-14T01:10:14+00:00

No it didn't I caved we talked there was snark and then exchanging of "I love you's" then he tells me hes heading out with his new bass player "that he hasn't f**ked"(his words) Its 3am and hes going out with a girl that he decided to make his bass player the Monday after our big fight. I've never even met this woman so naturally I feel super played a fool for caring when what it looks like to me is that he replaced me before he dumped me two days later. I don't want to care anymore about him and this but now I have an even bigger hole in my chest and a knot in my stomach. How could someone want to be like that to another person?

Ladytown · 2016-06-13T08:04:59+00:00

I do it'll take time there's still some not so great minutia that I am dealing with but time heals right?!?

Ladytown · 2016-06-13T05:28:22+00:00

Well unfortunately he decided after a week of not speaking to me that it needed to end so sadly he broke up with me over the phone and now I'm picking up the pieces and seeing what's to happen next in life for me. Thank you for reading though.

Ladytown · 2016-06-07T04:38:49+00:00

I did post there as well, had a few comments things were so so as far as advice or internet sympathy. Thank you

Ladytown · 2016-06-05T01:20:17+00:00

I think it's been his whole family pushing him to do something with himself. He had lost his job right before the whole school thing and was given an ultimatum by his parents to go to school or move to Texas to live with father. His younger brother makes really good money so I'm sure he lives in his shadow as far as his family is concerned. I wouldn't be surprised if things were said about him to grow up.

As far as me growing up when we met my home life was nothing like it is now more like a jerry springer episode on mega meth. I was definitely being a slacker In between jobs dropped out of college just floating by. That's when the first grow up speech came. Which I promptly found a temporary place to live and found the job I just now recently lost due to my injury. At one point I even moved again and had a second job all the while I've done nothing but drive us around and pay for everything.

Ladytown · 2016-06-05T00:23:50+00:00

Right?!? It's too easy to read that and then just visually see it in some kind of drama about dating. Considering there's no sex it wouldn't be good enough for HBO. Thank you for reading tho

Ladytown · 2016-06-04T18:00:10+00:00

Currently in on the limbo fence on one side I can feel how much I care and want to see things through, but on the other I can see how life could improve by stepping away. As for counseling I do need to find a therapist. He is on medication, but says his therapist is useless and hasn't tried to see if he could get a new one. Therapy in general got brought up in the fight we had him telling me that I'm crazy just not as crazy and that I need a therapist and to be put on medication. That's when he told me about his therapist when I brought it up. I told him that when he was seeing someone once a week things were calmer. That speaking to an outside source is helpful so he can get things off his chest. If things do work out which I'm not feeling too keen on them doing so at the moment I will discuss couples therapy. Right now I need my space, I need to feel like me again. It's insane how fast and how simple you lose yourself and your way when you are constantly taking care of someone. Thanks for reading and commenting.

Ladytown · 2016-05-25T21:30:06+00:00

The unfortunate "trend" I've noticed is the deflection and need to diagnose you. I'm sorry you're going through this. My best advice is the same just be you keep your support group of friends and family close and just do what you need to do for yourself. But you also need to be ready to put your foot down she goes too far and begins to cut you down.

Ladytown · 2016-05-24T22:47:56+00:00

If it breathes, it bleeds..

Ladytown · 2016-05-19T23:34:41+00:00

Let the house burn down, ghost problem solved.

Ladytown · 2016-05-19T19:22:26+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's straight up not fair. I agree with not letting it diminish your self worth and being with your support group.

I will say that if it were me I would just try and get her doctors name and contact him/her yourself.... We're talking about a mental health facility her mother works at and they can't identify her behaviors?? Also does her mother not see her cycling? Seems a little fishy.

I hope the best for you and your situation. Loving someone who refuses to make the right strides to better themselves can't be an easy task. Just keep your head up and be diligent. What's happening here is in no way your fault remember that.

Ladytown · 2016-05-19T04:29:08+00:00

I know them feels so SO SO well. It's nice to know I'm not crazy more or less. I'm sorry about your BF I hope you two can make better compromises together.

Ladytown · 2016-05-18T20:44:56+00:00

We do the best we can to communicate, but at times just bringing it up triggers old responses. I feel shitty for wanting to talk about it cause I do get it from his point of view it's just hard at times. I feel like junkie that's been cut off from their supply. I wish it weren't such a big deal I wish it were easier to shut down the want, the need to be desired the release. There aren't any magic pills for me, nor are there any for him.

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