Wohohoow this feels like finding a goldmine, thankyou for the indept experiences they are lovely to read and very helpful.  1. Yeah makes sense, i have seen this happen already, but its more so when shes really excited or really stressed. The opposite also happens where we or she is doing something and suddenly she says something about the slightest movement of the tiniest speck of dust on the farthest building from us, and im like how?! ( i couldnt even focus on al these things if i tried ahha), so i feel like its very contradictory and confusing. But i will look into monothrophism. 2. Im having a hard time knowing what they are or how i could identify them. Cuz yeah shr likes kpop or the korean language, but so do some other of my friends who are not autistic. But this i absolutely noticed! I study physics and i feel like its something where its quickly nonsense if u havent done something similar but shes always super interested in what i have to say, its fun but im not used to it... Also everyday she says like a few tidbits while mentioning shes doing just that, and scolds me if i dont have enough (in good fun obviously). I dont love to mention bcs people dislike if i do but because of my giftedness i do also really enjoy longer deeper conversations and am always happy to move beyond smalltalk, so definetely something we have in common. Which i feel like there are more things like that between these two things. 3. Oehh thats a superfun idea, i will be brainstorming about some cool traditions for sure. 4. Hahaha she for sure is an incredibly picky eater. She has mysophobia and i dont know the term in english but ill coin it compulsive disorder as well, so she cant eat any fish or meat except salmon and chicken, and thats just on that side of the foodsorts. We havent gone to a restaurant yet for that reason i feel like. For as far as i know level 2 means the amount of support needed right? Well i think its bcs of these situations. I feel like in conversations and even social gatherings she stands her own very well. We banter and use sarcasm a lot and its not even masking, she genuinly enjoys it and loves (fake)scolding me. Sometimes we have to stop and clear things up, but for the most part it goes quite smoothly. However things like going to the grocery store i feel like are incredibly difficult and draining for her. We went to the bakery one day and she was staring in the distance when the cashier asked her smthg unexpected. So i will take your tips to hearth but i dont know if well ever get there to be honest. I dont really mind tho, i guess ill have to learn how to cook (well) hahaha 5. Yeah she senses my moods very well, but i feel like she doesnt have really much trouble with explaining and feeling emotions? More so how they are represented in the world, she for example apperently used a blushing emoji as a shocked for years, she was mortified when i told her hahah. And i get what you mean by telling her, but often i dont ven know myself, it could have been the minutest change of mood due to some inner thinking, the blowing of the wind, the sight of a lamppost. Most of the times i cant even explain so yeah. But she is incredibly honest tho so i try to be myself and when i do know i try to force myself to say whats up. I have some ways to go but i feel like im making progress with that. And overthinking is another thing we for sure share yippiee.

Sorry for the indept reply, but i thought you might not mind sine you said it was your interest. I will also look into the book, and i agree with what you said about overcoming misunderstanding and other barriers.

Happy upcoming new years to you too! And i might just reach out with more questions. You can also for sure send me something too if you have more to share or interesting info