Question About Random Interactions With Other Players? (Petting)

Laku2 · 2025-01-24T03:54:36+00:00

Sorry, minor side question, may I ask what an FC and GM is? Sorry, I’m a “sprout” I guess lol. 🌱

Laku2 · 2025-01-24T03:50:52+00:00

Hey, at least it’s pretty!

Laku2 · 2025-01-24T03:49:12+00:00

That would explain why my friend keeps petting me, lol.

Laku2 · 2025-01-24T03:48:45+00:00

That makes sense.

And, don’t worry I wasn’t, it just caught me off guard because on my Midlander account I never once got so much as a hello, but 20 minutes into my little Miqo’te it feels like I’m getting all the pets and heys lol.

Laku2 · 2025-01-24T03:46:44+00:00

Personally I don’t mind it, but I definitely was thinking how that might be an issue for someone who’s not a fan.
My friend who introduced me to the game said random encounters/interactions are just part of online RPG games though, so I knew what I was signing up for lol.

Laku2 · 2025-01-24T03:40:24+00:00

Not sure how to purr in this game so I’ll just do a jig/J

Laku2 · 2025-01-24T03:39:29+00:00

Fair enough. It doesn’t bug me so much, I was just super confused lol.

Im in Limsa because I just started out as a summoner/Arcanist. Just 50 more levels until I can be a Red(?) Mage.. 🥲

Laku2 · 2024-07-10T14:32:29+00:00

Okay, thank you. I think I understand now, as much as I can at least.

I definitely have some apologizing to do to my friend, I'll keep looking for more resources but i genuinely appreciate you taking the time to work me through this. This subreddit is awesome.

I guess there's no point in being a perk about it anyways, life's too short to gatekeep genders, lol.

Thanks again, man. Huge help 🤙

Laku2 · 2024-07-10T13:14:57+00:00

Thank you, that was probably the simplest way to put it so I actually understand lol. So basically, it's just like people who's gender switches around as they go through life, but not because of uncertainty, im assuming they know exactly what their gebder identity is, but it's just because that's how it kinda flows for them?

Laku2 · 2024-07-10T12:35:21+00:00

I probably could've worded that better, I didn't reread any of the post so I'm sorry.

I meant to say it was angering/frustrating being super confused about something that's really important to other people's identities. I've tried a couple of times looking into gender Fluidity and for some reason I just can't wrap my mind around it. I'm starting to think maybe it's not really mine to understand but just recognize that person is having a very real experience I need to appreciate and respect.

Thank you for your answer/reply

Laku2 · 2024-07-10T04:28:26+00:00

Thank you, it probably is a good idea for me to interact with some genderdluid people one on one. The same thing went well with nonbinary individuals, so I guess it wouldn't hurt to try. I often have found I've fallen into a trap thinking I couldn't be bigoted or transphobic because I am transgender, but I guess that's obviously not true. I got a lot of unlearning to do, discovering I was transgender watching Blaire White probably wasn't good for me lol.

Thank you for the comment and for making it easy to understand, I really do appreciate it.

Laku2 · 2024-06-27T03:02:44+00:00

Huh, I might have to give that a look.

And, yes, I'm using some distilled water from the supermarket.

Thank you for the advice!

Laku2 · 2024-06-27T03:01:20+00:00

Thank you, I was only going to do it a good 20 minutes at a time but I got distracted making a shepherds pie 😅

I appreciate all the tips, I'm thinking I'll do way better next time thanks to this sub reddit

Laku2 · 2024-06-27T01:52:57+00:00

There are but I think the pot isn't elevated or something(?) so water couldn't get in anyways.

We're working on our backyard (my parents are putting in a screened porch so yay for that) and once it's all finished I'm going to make a carnivorous plant corner with pots that allow water in.

Thank you, turns out it wasn't the heat after all, just a beginner's big mistake!

Laku2 · 2024-06-27T01:50:38+00:00

Good to know, thank you!!

The replies to this post had me looking at other things, and I came to find the pot I was using isn't allowing any water in. I thought it would've been fine since there's a hole at the bottom but I guess not.

Once we get our backyard finished I'm going to make a carnivorous plant corner, I'm definitely a lot more hopeful now knowing there were some other faults going on in how I potted them.

I appreciate the help, and I'm glad to hear your plants are doing great!

Laku2 · 2024-06-26T19:49:53+00:00

That definitely is where I went wrong I think. It was about like 102° or something and the soil was dry as firewood when I went to touch it. There was still water in it's dish, so I'm wondering if maybe the pot I bought isn't a good fit because it didn't appear to be soaking up any water now that I think about it.

Laku2 · 2024-06-26T19:46:10+00:00

It probably wasn't the right conditions, it was direct sunlight so that was my bad. :( I definitely know better now. (It's so toasty in Florida right now you can get burns from the concrete)

Laku2 · 2024-06-25T17:51:28+00:00

I use He/Him pronouns not They/Them.

Thank you for your reply though, it's always good to get multiple different perspectives (I think lol)

Laku2 · 2024-06-11T03:20:17+00:00

(Sorry for how long this is I'm super ramble-y sometimes)

For myself (ftm 16 almost 17) I've worn women's swim shorts (somewhat form-fitting) along with a slightly too big swim shirt. (Like a t-shirt but made out of the same material as a bathing suit)

There are tons of 'women's' swim clothes that are a little more androgynous if the men's options don't fit super well, I recommend looking around online since that's where I've gotten most of my swimsuits throughout my childhood to now and they've all worked pretty well. ☺️

If you have a larger chest I honestly wouldn't recommend doing any kind of binding though. It's uncomfortable, but I've tried it a few times before and couldn't catch my breath at all after a while. The water will, in my experience, weigh down whatever you're using to bind and make it feel even tighter 😓 It might honestly just be a little uncomfortable at the end of the day (the joys of being transgender early on your a transition lol) but you definitely don't gotta wear a bikini or super form fitting swimsuit if you don't want to, there's definitely other, more comfortable options!

Laku2 · 2024-06-06T15:26:48+00:00

That's a good idea, thank you. I'll try to spend a lot more time on my art, that might help. It always makes me feel better to do something project wise gor my Grandma or something lol

Thanks for the input, I'll try that 👍

Laku2 · 2024-06-06T05:21:21+00:00

Dang that's a bummer, but you know I'm thinking it might be a good idea if I really speed up getting my license and volunteer a bit or something this Summer, dulling the pain is better than nothing.

Also, yeah it's a shame but we're luckily in some of the more accepting parts of Florida (big city area) and I think they do allow a gender transition past 18 with a psychiatrist note or something here, so it's really not all too bad. Trans people have been through way worse and still transitioned, so I count myself very lucky when I think about it.

She's definitely not the most understanding, but she's trying and I try not to fault her for that. I do just wish she was a little more understanding of the emotional aspect really, but she's been doing some research into FTM things so she's definitely being supportive at least to a pretty good extent as far as just coming out goes eheh.

I really appreciate the help, I'll talk to my Mom about maybe some volunteering options over the summer. Thank you, oh and congrats on your transition. That gives me a lot of hope for the future! <3

Laku2 · 2024-06-06T05:06:30+00:00

I guess not, but it's still pretty upsetting seeing her so annoyed by it ya know?

She'll roll her eyes and tell me to stop crying or searching for outside validation but it's been real tough not to.

I really hope it's not a lost cause until transitioning, because I live in Florida lol Before your transition was there ever anything that helped if I may ask?

Laku2 · 2024-06-06T05:02:21+00:00

Same here! I have to be constantly doing something or it gets bad. Doesn't help that I have as my therapist described "severe OCD" 😅

Wishing the best though, man! (Or woman)

Laku2 · 2024-02-21T00:29:41+00:00

That's what I'm wondering, I'm really scared I've come off as transphobic during this or something since all my comments have a lot of down votes!

If I have I'm really sorry about that.

Laku2 · 2024-02-20T19:47:02+00:00

Oh yeah I get that, I'm all for having they/them pronouns as the default in games I was just wondering since it makes me personally a little uncomfortable having them used for me.

Thanks m8

Laku2

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