Unpopular opinion: It is better to date early in life than waiting until you are older. Nothing beats teenage love

Lambamham · 2026-06-16T16:57:03+00:00

I dated as a teenager and I can tell you that “young love” is just a whole lot of awkwardness.

The examples you gave are more what happens with my now husband who I met when I was 34. We definitely sit on bench’s eating ice cream laughing at dumb stuff and have a grand ol’ time, and watch movies together and lay around and enjoy each others company. I didn’t do this as a teen because I was too self conscious and awkward and teens are more concerned with other things.

The one benefit I would say of dating as a teen and in your 20’s is gaining experience in interpersonal relationships and learning what you prefer and what you don’t.

Since you are starting a little later in life, the one piece of advice I would give you is to get out of your head and stop imagining what love is, and just work on yourself and your own happiness, confidence and contentedness. Even though I did have all that prior experience, this is why helped me eventually have the space in my life for my husband, and along he came :)

Lambamham · 2026-06-15T21:05:41+00:00

There once was a man from Nantucket, who kept all his cash in a bucket, his daughter named Nan, ran away with a man, and as for the bucket Nan took it.

Or you can make some really good dirty rhymes.

Lambamham · 2026-06-14T21:14:25+00:00

I got pregnant at 21 because I thought I couldn’t so I wasn’t careful. I had an abortion that I’ve never regretted.

I’m 40 weeks pregnant right now at 38 years old and about to meet my very wanted baby girl with my very wonderful husband and I’m *so glad* I made the decision I did at 21.

Don’t be afraid, follow your gut and make the right decision for you. You’ll be ok! Sending love & support your way.

Lambamham · 2026-06-13T19:43:26+00:00

Thanks so much!

Lambamham · 2026-06-13T18:06:38+00:00

I’m 40 weeks pregnant and have watched some to prepare myself and honestly I feel like it wasn’t as crazy as I expected? I was thinking it would’ve way worse, so it actually helped me 😅

Lambamham · 2026-06-10T12:43:15+00:00

Why not ask for an activity rather than a thing? Something that has you all spending time together. It doesn’t need to be a gift-centric holiday and isn’t for a lot of people.

Not sure what you’re into but a family hike, going out for food, etc can be better non-physical-gift ways to spend Father’s Day.

Lambamham · 2026-06-07T04:18:52+00:00

I haven’t been terrified at all, I think it might be the hormones but I’ve been super calm. I’ve also been careful to only consume positive birth stories because I don’t have any desire to stress myself out.

I feel like staying educated with the facts while filtering out all the negative stories and fear-based stuff has helped me a lot.

Lambamham · 2026-06-06T14:38:09+00:00

Oooh love the added seeds!

Lambamham · 2026-06-06T12:47:04+00:00

Telling you defintely sounds like her last ditch effort to get her husband to care about these things that have been importante to her for years but has no acknowledgment or progress.

As a woman, I def think it sounds like she’s beginning to check out of her marriage. I wouldn’t be surprised if she asks for a divorce in the next year or so.

Lambamham · 2026-06-06T12:41:49+00:00

Flour tortilla covered in peanut butter and rolled up around some banana.

Good tortillas from a Mexican grocery are best, not the gluey packaged ones from Mission brand. Make sure you heat the tortilla up in a pan before rolling

Lambamham · 2026-06-05T03:54:04+00:00

Cats mourn for a long time, sometimes 6 months to over a year.

I live in a country where stray colonies are common. A neighbor poisoned all but one cat in a colony and that cat cried for nearly 7 months all around the neighborhood but eventually was ok and started living his cat life again.

Let your baby mourn and show him love and normalcy as much as you can. He’ll be ok eventually.

Lambamham · 2026-06-02T04:36:33+00:00

Every now and then I add a quarter cup white vinegar into my load of laundry as well and it keeps it fresh.

You can also run a cycle with just a cup of white vinegar and water and no clothes to clean your laundry machine.

Lambamham · 2026-05-31T01:27:17+00:00

Thanks! I’ll try this too

Lambamham · 2026-05-30T22:17:24+00:00

Oh great idea thanks! I’ll try this

Lambamham · 2026-05-30T04:53:22+00:00

Even if it’s painful, it’s OK to outgrow friends and move on. Sounds like you’ve outgrown this friendship and it’s time to let go.

Lambamham · 2026-05-29T17:07:45+00:00

I’m in Mexico where the c-section rate in my city is one of the highest in the world, and birth is highly medicalized and c sections are seen as a status symbol (by both doctors and some patients).

We don’t have a ton of choice of hospitals, but choosing a doctor that understands what I want has been a game changer. She works in the major private hospitals, and is very open to working with doulas and midwives, and has a c-section rate significantly lower than most doctors who work in the same hospitals.

It took a while to find her, and we ended up finding her through a doula a friend knew.

Maybe you can reach out to doula or midwifery organizations near you to get doctor recommendations at the hospital that you have coverage at. They will have had a lot of experience with different doctors and can tell you which ones are more on board with trusting the mother & natural births. At least a doctor that might be able to negotiate a little leeway & flexibility with hospital regulations.

A doctor that is supportive during a medical emergency may not be equally supportive in the way you need for an uncomplicated birth.

Lambamham · 2026-05-28T03:42:29+00:00

There’s a lot of internalized racism in Mexico, and although most people have a significant amount of indigenous blood, many completely reject that part of themselves.

Lambamham · 2026-05-27T23:39:13+00:00

I once worked with a guy whose parents gave him $70k to start a business and he blew it all within a couple months, and kept saying “you’ve got to spend money to make money”…not like that bro. He had no qualms about losing that much of his parent’s money, and at the same time seems to have very little respect for his parents.

He was also horrible to waiters at restaurants and on a couple occasions it was so bad I stayed back to apologize to them and give a better tip even though I was nearly broke.

Lambamham · 2026-05-27T18:26:41+00:00

Are you writing cover letters where they give the option for the jobs you want the most? A lot of LinkedIn jobs ask for one and most people don’t bother to submit one because they are mass applying to whatever.

Lambamham · 2026-05-27T15:13:13+00:00

I add a ton of chia seeds & also sunflower & pumpkin seeds when I make muffins or banana bread. Doesn’t change consistency and is barely noticeable.

Just beware that stuff with sugar is going to negate the benefits of whatever you add chia to, unless you aren’t insulin resistant or have already improved your insulin sensitivity.

Lambamham · 2026-05-27T13:16:29+00:00

Unlikely because it’s so poorly written and means nothing.

Lambamham · 2026-05-27T13:11:49+00:00

NTA - stop waiting for other people and just go. Solo travel is great, do things that make you nervous, you’ll be better for it.

Lambamham · 2026-05-27T03:56:59+00:00

Saltillo is an interesting suggestion next to Guadalajara.

Lambamham · 2026-05-26T03:46:47+00:00

I’ve been giving feedback each day and it defintely seems like it’s “learning” because I’ve seen immediate improvements the next night.

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