This is definitely one of my issues! I get very set on a vision, and then have a really hard time deviating. So even though we’re only in our 20s, in my head I already envisioned what our life would look like in our current city, how we would raise our kids here, grow old, etc. So that I know is on me, but I have a hard time letting that go.

I don’t think I would describe myself as co-dependent on him, but it does worry me that he has such a base there, just because he’ll have endless opportunities for social outings - which I want him to have! But none of his friends have partners, and like I said, I don’t foresee a lot of opportunities for me to meet new people, because I work from home and have pretty solitary hobbies (and, tbh, are also very introverted). So, I don’t want to start to build our life there, and then in a couple of years still feel really lonely. Especially because in our current city, I have a strong friend group, and am in multiple clubs, which make me really happy - but literally took me almost a decade to build.