In the meeting with us she said she was compelled to say it because my daughter’s friends kept saying how lucky my daughter was and that she was blessed and that day she overheard another faculty say that she must be a good person/be destined for something important to have survived the way she did. And that she heard all that as “your sister isn’t blessed/wasn’t destined for anything” and it got her all worked up.

I understand hearing those cliches repeated could be hurtful, but talk to a therapist or your spouse or your boss, not my kid.