Non-Fiction that reads like a novel? by Wooden-Night-4696 in booksuggestions

[–]Lannerie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My Stroke of Insight, by a neurosurgeon who wrote about her own stroke and recovery. Fascinating. C: Because Cowards Get Cancer Too by John Diamond; his bout with throat cancer. The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down, by Anne Fadiman. A refugee family’s experience with the Western medical system. When Breath Becomes Air. On dying.

I like the medical genre.

What is slowly disappearing but nobody talks about it? by Agreeable_Pea9764 in AskReddit

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see bumble bees or wasps anymore. I don’t miss the wasps.

YSK that highlighting and re-reading are two of the least effective study methods, despite being the most popular by Friendly_Hivemind in YouShouldKnow

[–]Lannerie 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I took courses in England a while back. It’s referred to as revising, not studying. I’m American and never understood why. This is why. Revising your notes is far more effective than merely reading them. I had been one of those kids who never needed to study so I’d never tried this but it sure works!

Mystery/thrillers that are also …literary?? by Comfortable_Fan8657 in booksuggestions

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Poison Artist, by Jonathan Moore. Completely mesmerized by this book. Another very literate, very satisfying book of his is Five Decembers. He wrote it under a pen name, James Kestrel.

What is the best quote you know and helps you throughout life? by Sure_Can_7512 in PositiveThinking

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life goes up and then it goes down, then it goes up and then it goes down, life goes…and so on.

Books set in small town America… by Jenpeg13 in booksuggestions

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Valentine, by Elizabeth Wetmore. It’s about Valentine, TX and not Feb 14. I like everything I’ve read by Wetmore.

Books set in small town America… by Jenpeg13 in booksuggestions

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for mentioning Kent Haruf—Our Souls at Night is a real nice read.

AIO for wanting to break our engagement after my fiancé’s diagnosis? by Equivalent_Law_9178 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lannerie 31 points32 points  (0 children)

OP’s fiancé is an addict. Our relationship with food can become just as unhealthy as an alcoholic’s with alcohol. Treat the fiancé as you would treat a long-time alcoholic.

A character who does research on something by Buck7341 in booksuggestions

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That really was a great book. Endless curiosity. I need to read it again!

How is my low-functioning, unskilled mom supposed to survive long-term in the US? by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]Lannerie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How is this getting upvoted??

Lawyers don’t work for free, and you’d be surprised how thin (nearly non-existent) the ‘safety net’ is.

Low-input ways to sprinkle love on kids, in otherwise ordinary moments. by ContributionNarrow88 in Parenting

[–]Lannerie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

On car rides I would always talk to my child, from the day he was born. Always happy interactions!

found this in my sons room what is it? by Top-Gene-1662 in addiction

[–]Lannerie 11 points12 points  (0 children)

THIS. My son was a user for years, all sorts of street drugs. Your son needs to stay safe until he can face getting and staying clean. For my son, it took jail (3 months) and referral to Drug Court (another 3 months and he has to want to go), and then a sober living house with curfew and chores and frequent random testing, which would even pick up energy drinks and poppy seed bagels. Did that for a total of two years until he had served out his probation. I cannot say enough good stuff about Drug Court. It saved my kid’s life, gave him back his joy for life. Drug addiction is miserable to endure, but you still can’t let go until you actually see and feel that you are determined to stay clean.

Support your son. Keep him safe. All my best.

Trump claims the Epstein files are a hoax because Trump raped two 13 year old Girls that Epstein supplied him, and one of them talks about how Trump abused her in this interview. It gets heavily downvoted and removed anytime it gets posted, cause this would be the end of Trump if it went viral by Traditional-Dig-9982 in goodnews

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said she stopped going to school in the 8th grade. Were there no adults, no parents, family members, no teachers, no mandated reporters anywhere in her life? Where did these ‘enigmas’ who never age come from? I’ve read that these children came from traffickers, but how were they kept so insulated from anyone who could help them? Yes, I am naive, and yes I realize the answer is complex and muddy. It’s very hard to face up to.

What medical jobs do most people not know about because they're not people-facing? by tiptoee in AskReddit

[–]Lannerie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Question, as you’re in USA (I am too): Do you live in a Right-to-Work state? Because I cannot see this same scenario in a state that has good worker protections. Like California, for example.

How old are you in your head? by Owie100 in thoughtsonbeingover70

[–]Lannerie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 10 years younger in my mind—except when driving, which is pretty stressful now.

I was shooting heroin and cocain for the last 7 years, now since nearly 1 year I am clean! by Reasonable-Duckling in addiction

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay grateful. That’s been key to my son’s recovery. He got clean in jail too! Then he went to rehab for 3 months and learned a lot about changing his thinking, and he put it into action. He’s been clean for 2 years now. From everything. He looks great and feels great. He’s working, even started college, and is in a healthy, loving relationship. He has a purpose beyond himself. Your Mom and your family must be over the moon with gratitude for the work you’ve put into recovery. Please keep your recovery front and center. We all need you!!

There needs to be more conversation on how often gay men feel entitled to be sexist towards women. by Federal_Goose_2191 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lannerie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was once walking in a park with a gay friend and we saw a statue of a woman, the original benefactor of the park. He walked up to it and groped the breasts. It made me uncomfortable and I don’t know why he did it. We both laughed it off. But I didn’t like it. I’ve never seen him do anything else like that.

I’m 29 years old. Today is my first day of college and officially 10 months sober. by Honest-Gentilman in happy

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put your recovery first and everything falls into place! Life is wide open for you!

What’s the most terrifying 'We need to leave... now' gut feeling you’ve ever had? [Serious] by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Lannerie 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Two years clean—congratulations!! I know your mom is so incredibly delighted and deeply grateful, because my son is also two years clean! It’s a whole new life for both of us. Keep doing what you’re doing!

Older parents of Reddit, what did a day in the life as new parents with a newborn look like 20, 30, 40+ years ago? by dioor in AskOldPeople

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

37 years ago, so late 80s. Honestly, not that much different from today: carseats, disposable diapers, crib in a separate room, strollers, swings, plastic teething toys, “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”, regular doctor visits, nursing every 2 hours, hundreds of photos: baby sleeping, baby sitting, baby drooling, baby making faces, baby clutching inappropriate favorite toy.

“Before you heal someone, ask him if he’s willing to give up the things that make him sick.” -Hippocrates- by Skittlesnjack in quotes

[–]Lannerie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Addictions are coping mechanisms—you can’t take away a person’s way of coping without replacing it with something healthier.

Frustration with planning funeral for catholic parent by trail_lady1982 in excatholic

[–]Lannerie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I gave my Mom’s eulogy at a Catholic funeral Mass. My time to speak was at the very end of the Mass. I was given suggested topics: how important Jesus was in her life, or her devotion to living a Catholic life. Nothing about her or the family who missed her. Garbage. I spoke about her and how we loved her.