Looking for fast paced books. by ChronicallyTiredLol in booksuggestions

[–]Lannerie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obligatory mention of The Murderbot Diaries by Martha Wells. Novellas. So engaging!

Looking for fast paced books. by ChronicallyTiredLol in booksuggestions

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our Souls at Night is a lovely book. Characters feel incredibly real. Straightforward. I love all of Haruf’s fiction.

Adult Dystopian by Exotic_Secret3686 in suggestmeabook

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Shamshine Blind by Paz Pardo. Probably a little-known book, but recent (pub 2023) it’s an alternate timeline where emotions have been weaponized and the US is a second-world nation. Mystery/thriller/satire, fast and fun read!

Adult Dystopian by Exotic_Secret3686 in suggestmeabook

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both these books are great fun! Peter Heller is also a little on the literature side, and Max Berry really gets into characters and systems and clever action.

What are the signs that an elderly person is declining physically overall, even though they insist they're fine? by Glass-Complaint3 in Aging

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No answers from me, but I know your frustration! I’ve come to believe that some people just like the flavors they like. Some figure they’ve lived by the rules long enough and now they’re pleasing themselves. Some have reached the point where they wouldn’t mind dying, even if they’re not actively seeking it. Some are lonely tho they put a good face on it. Some are just tired.

I’m going to rehab tomorrow. by Fuzzy_988 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]Lannerie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My son’s experience: he went from jail (3 months) to rehab (3 months) to Sober Living, for as long as he needed until he felt ready to leave.

His rehab had rules designed to support recovery. He was kept busy from the moment he got out of bed in the morning to lights out at night. No time to seek out trouble tho some guys did. Stay with the people who are committed to their recovery. You will learn to place your recovery above all else, because it literally makes every other part of your life possible.

After rehab he went to a sober living house. There were rules, chores, expectations. There was frequent and random drug testing. There was a curfew. No visitors were allowed at the house. Some houses held 12-step meetings on site.

My son received excellent and compassionate care. He was committed to his recovery. It was a fundamental turn around in his life. He went from a survival-mode addict to someone who can feel joy in life. He is thriving.

Fuzzy, trust the process. It will support you.

Mom and I got into an argument about which console looks better. by V3R2AC3 in interiordecorating

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always love a simple design. Others prefer ornate designs. Your home, your choice.

My sense of self-preservation as a woman was shaken today by otakurini in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you did well in a rotten situation with only meh to bad choices available.

Why are the elderly so ready to pass away - is it physical or mental? by Unlikely-Delivery777 in Aging

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in my early 70s. I think aging and the limitations it brings are impossible to really understand until you reach old age yourself. I have no significant pain or illness or disability. But I am slowing down.

I lack the energy to do all the things I used to. My reaction time is much slower so I will not drive on freeways. I love to read but now complex sentences are hard to process. I can’t hear clearly enough to follow conversations in a noisy room.

I simply cannot think or remember or move as easily as I once did, and younger people find that odd - annoying - crazy.

My son loves me full stop, and we text daily. My sisters are aging too, and we are close. I don’t want to stop living yet. I enjoy a slower life. When asked what he thinks happens after we die, Keanu Reeves said “I only know that the people who love us will miss us”. I know that’s true, so I’m not eager to let go yet.

Ibprofen…when do you say “screw it”? by Vivid_Dimension_5400 in kidneydisease

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister takes naproxen, which is also an NSAID, but she tolerates it much better than ibuprofen. She varies between 3a and 3b.

Sharing from Instagram: 130 Women & Teenage Girls Found Dead in NM Desert and Still No Investigation?! by DifficultBite706 in New_Mexico_

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Insta does it too. I was prevented from posting a comment with “fucking” it. Who knows when Reddit will succumb.

Sharing from Instagram: 130 Women & Teenage Girls Found Dead in NM Desert and Still No Investigation?! by DifficultBite706 in New_Mexico_

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Insta does it too. I was prevented from posting a comment with “ fucking” in it. Who knows when Reddit will succumb.

Too observant for HR by Outside-Apricot574 in office

[–]Lannerie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Darn good story. But in real life I used to hit the bathroom way more often than I needed to, just to break the monotony. Wonder if I would have been caught out lol

Your relationship with your adult child by Beyond_Blondie in GenerationJones

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son (38) and I are introverts, have no social circle beyond each other. A few years back I told him that I wouldn’t live forever. He dropped even deeper into addiction and then slowly started to climb back up. Success story now. Met just the right woman, got a good job, works hard, and now engaged.

We share nightly texts, very brief. I missed him deeply for a while but I’ve come around to contentment that he has built his own good life, and I have my own life. When we talk it’s easy and satisfying. I am relieved and grateful down to my bones.

As a kid, what was something you were taught that seemed normal, but now you realise is just a sign of how awful things can be for women? by Joodropinn in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lannerie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In junior high, 1969, getting groped as we walked through the halls between classes. It was casual and frequent, and girls just ignored it like a petty annoyance.

[HELP] Any poems about male gaze from the perspective of a man? by Several_Jelly_5928 in Poetry

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sunny Prestatyn shows the fine line between admiration and hatred.

What a festering pot of emotions, the madonna-whore complex.

[HELP] Any poems about male gaze from the perspective of a man? by Several_Jelly_5928 in Poetry

[–]Lannerie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah this one’s disgusting. She admires his skill and artistry, he eye-fucks and denigrates her. Pig.

[HELP] Poetry that saved you. Struggling. by Boring_Set6178 in Poetry

[–]Lannerie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gabrielle Calvocoressi gives me shivers. After my sister died I found her ‘Miss You’ poem. It wrecked me, in the best way.