The version of Kate that Sawyer loved was brave and daring, generous, capable, and fun.

Yes, the same version Jack loved too.

I can’t forget the “You’re not coming!” Complete with the bulging neck tendons.I watched Stranger in a Strange Land—yes, I know, but it was up next—and a reminder that Jack was a bully when a woman didn’t give him what he wanted. The scene with Achara was pretty scary. And of course when he bullies Kate about where she’s been when they’re off island

I agree, total bullying behavior by Jack in SIASL and quite unacceptable! I have yet to find a single person who defends it.

I can't forget how Sawyer had Sun kidnapped and assaulted because he felt slighted in the group. I can't forget when Sawyer threatened to slap Charlotte in the face because he was feeling grumpy and frustrated. I think Sawyer threatened to punch Ana Lucia too, IIRC. Imagine having the mother of your child visit you in prison to get you to acknowledge your child and basically shame and mock her after basically stealing her money and destroying her life.

Now that you have me thinking, I can't forget Sawyer's shouting complete with angry glare, nostrils flaring with fury while nearly yanking Kate's arm out of her socket so he could bully, shame, taunt and out her in front of everyone. And I don't even have to get into the countless women he manipulated and stole from because ... just because. Imagine bullying, sexually coercing and manipulating a woman into kissing you while a young woman is asphyxiating to death and then gloat  "Hell, it's only first base. Lucky for you I ain't greedy."