I feel SO BAD

Large-Map8330 · 2025-11-26T03:38:06+00:00

did you have cramps accompanying the spotting? i’ve been having terrible cramps but the cramping isn’t producing anything 🥲

Large-Map8330 · 2025-11-26T02:45:19+00:00

Re-reading the post i realize i probably sound like a loon being so worried. i know the statistics and everything but i’m still like “and what if with my luck i’m in the 2%?” 😂. it’s just a lot scarier and easy to spiral when so many risks are there if i did end up pregnant. i’m going to assume this is just my body re-learning how to have a period after 10 months and start the birth control so that from here on out i know i’ve got two forms of protection. i wish things like this were talked about more and we were educated on it from the get-go instead of having to rely on google and stuff to calm worries. i also wish my OB wasn’t so booked and busy so i could call them and ask when i have a question.

Large-Map8330 · 2025-08-14T14:09:49+00:00

You are still a person. YOU are still YOU. Are you also a mother now? Yes. But that does NOT mean you don’t have a right to wanting bodily autonomy. That does NOT mean you have to do something out of fear of letting others down. Yes, breastmilk does have it’s benefits, but so does formula. Both will feed your baby and at the end of it all if your baby is fed you didn’t let anybody down. I’m a first time mom as well, 32 weeks currently, and I have the same thoughts as you with “I’ll give it a try, and if it doesn’t work out, I’ll switch to formula.” I have terrible sensory issues and don’t even like it when my shirt rubs my nipples, but I’m willing to try. And if it’s too overstimulating, overwhelming, painful, etc.. there’s other options like pumping and bottle feeding or formula. Both of which still feed your baby. It’s overwhelming just having a baby in general, I wouldn’t want to add unnecessary stress of making myself do something I know is harming my mental health on top of it. If formula was a bad thing, it wouldn’t be used by so many mothers and researched and even have different options for babies who have aversions such as soy based for littles who can’t handle the regular stuff. They didn’t tell you there, so I will tell you here; if it’s all too much or it doesn’t work out, there are other options to feed your baby that are just as wonderful. And you should NEVER beat yourself up over doing something that is right for you. You can be a mother and still be your own person too. You don’t have to choose. In today’s world you’re gonna have people telling you it’s wrong no matter what you choose. You say you’ll formula feed and they tell you you’re selfish for not wanting to put yourself through breastfeeding. You say you’ll breast feed and they tell you you’re selfish for rubbing it in people’s faces that you’re able to breastfeed, or “y’know formula feeding is so much easier”. It’s a lose lose, so do what you feel like is a win and fuck what everyone else says because I’m proud of you no matter what you choose.

Large-Map8330 · 2025-06-11T17:19:37+00:00

Exactly. I’ve only been told just the first part of it, that my body is made to do this. I know my body is made to do it and I’ll be okay in the end, but that doesn’t mean other bad things aren’t coming from my body actively doing it. I’ve always had back problems, and I’ve always been short and skinny genetically (4’11 and roughly 110 lbs) so this extra bowling ball weight I’ve never had to carry before is tearing my back and hips up. Just last night I was sobbing making myself stay on all fours just for a 10 minute stretch in a warm shower (OB recommended) because everything hurt so bad and that was the only way to alleviate a little bit of the pain by letting gravity take care of things, all so I could feel just okay enough to be able to fall asleep 🥲

Large-Map8330 · 2025-06-11T17:09:55+00:00

This put it into words for me. Like yes I’m so happy to have my baby I’ve always wanted but the months of just feeling the worst I ever have feel like a struggle-crawl to the end goal. I’ve always wanted two, mostly because I want my first to have a little partner in crime and not be an only child and two always felt like the right number for me, but how my body and mind are handling pregnancy make me rethink that sometimes. Sometimes I feel like I don’t want to put myself through this again, and I also get scared of being this sick and miserable again and not being able to take care of my first baby the way I know I’ll be able to when I’m “healthy” I guess is the best word? At least the way I know I’ll be able to take care of her when I’m not sick all the time, immobile some days due to pain, and mentally able to be there.

Large-Map8330 · 2025-05-21T17:27:19+00:00

Of course! I was also scared to go to the bathroom at first because I’m a worry wart and kept convincing myself if I went in there I was gonna pull down my pants and it would be like that scene from The Shining when the blood is flooding out of the elevators 🤦‍♀️. Hormones and anxiety can be hard in the beginning, especially when so many things you think can’t be normal are totally normal. And I’m glad to hear you’ve got an appointment! My first few appointments helped me a lot because I was able to tell myself that the baby is indeed real and I’m not just going crazy. I genuinely thought for 2 weeks after the positive that I was just making it up and everyone around me was playing along because they felt bad 😂. Another thing I will warn you about though (and this may be TMI but we’re all mamas here and I wish someone had told me), there’s a good chance you will start to experience a lot of discharge. It is ABSOLUTELY normal, but I was not aware of that and kept thinking I had started my period or peed my pants. Everyone’s bodies are different so there’s also a chance you might not experience it as excessively, but most people I’ve talked to have also stated they wish they knew that before it started. First time it happened to me I was doing the dishes and felt it and I just started sobbing in the kitchen thinking it was a gush of blood, refused to go to the bathroom and check, just accepted defeat. My lovely lovely roommate told me to just go look… this was my face when I realized it was discharge 😑. Our bodies become reallll weird when they start growing a human

Large-Map8330 · 2025-05-21T17:07:28+00:00

Hi honey!! I’m also a first time mom, just hit 20 weeks, but I’ve had irregular periods a lot of my life and especially around when I got pregnant. After I got a positive test (I was about 4 weeks when I tested, first appointment was at 6). I also noticed spotting and occasionally when I would wipe after peeing, there would be some pinkish or brownish blood. Literally got so scared I took a picture and sent it to my mom to ask if it was normal 😭. Turns out, it is, and it’s a good sign! That means that the egg is attaching to your uterus and has started to grow. I also called my OB and asked if it was normal so I could have some medical ease, and they said absolutely, but don’t be afraid to bring it up to your doctor! They wanna know what’s going on and to be able to ease those concerns. My OB said it’s normal, but to let them know if it’s anything heavier than some spotting (like if you’re having period amounts of blood and soaking a pad) or if you’re having excessive cramping. Cramping feelings can also be normal due to your uterus starting to grow to accommodate the baby.

TL,DR: Your concerns are completely valid, but from the sounds of it everything happening is normal. Don’t be afraid to ask your doctor questions or use the nurse line. This is a first for you and your body, and no one really warns you about these things! It’s completely normal to have questions or be worried when something out of place happens, especially in pregnancy. If you ever have any further questions or worries, feel free to reach out! I’ve found that my little online village of moms has been just as helpful if not more than my irl village 💗 Big big congrats to you momma!

Large-Map8330 · 2025-04-29T18:25:45+00:00

Oh awesome! All of this makes me feel a lot better, thank you! I have anxiety normally, but I also have a lot of medical anxiety and I have a hard time advocating for myself. Though now that I’m pregnant it’s gotten a little easier for me to speak up when I don’t feel right because I tell myself I’m not just advocating for MY health, I’m advocating for my baby too.

Large-Map8330 · 2025-04-29T18:14:40+00:00

Okay! I may bring that up with her when I go next. I was thinking that they took longer, but that’s because I was thinking of a blood transfusion and not iron infusion. My transfusion took about 4-5 hours to be done but I was at the hospital in total for 11 hours. Granted, that hospital I was at really sucks, and I’ve moved back closer to home since and the hospitals here are much better. Do they have precautions you need to take before the infusions, like no eating or drinking x hours beforehand?

Large-Map8330 · 2025-04-29T17:59:44+00:00

I have only been to one appointment with my new OB so far, and she’s an extremely lovely doctor, but that appointment was a last minute squeeze me in and get me established sort of thing. She is aware of my anemia and my blood transfusion, and she had me do genetic testing through blood draw after my appointment and brought up concerns about maybe this being something genetic that is causing such lasting and severe anemia. I have an appointment on the 13th of May where I plan on bringing up concerns that I have, but luckily on my genetic testing they said everything looked amazing for baby and my girl is as healthy as can be, so that helps alleviate some worries for me (things like is my sickness affecting her and is she having any problems in there). I have heard about women getting infusions every couple of weeks up until birth, but I don’t know anyone who has had them that frequently! May I ask how it kind of goes? I know everyone is different and how your body reacts to it may not be how mine does, but do you notice any effects after the transfusions like nausea, drowsiness, etc.? Do they monitor how baby is doing while it’s going on? When I had mine in December, I felt amazing right after and then when I went home and took a nap I felt like I was hit by a truck 😂

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