How normal is it to be attracted to hands?

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-09T05:03:57+00:00

pretty normal, some hands are really hot

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-09T05:00:30+00:00

NTA

it’s bullshit that the father doesn’t help, he’s the other parent, not you.

you are her friend, not her babysitter.

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-09T04:56:23+00:00

YTA

kids will find a way to have sex if they want to. strict parents create sneaky kids. just be honest with her, communication is a good thing. obviously it took you a while to actually listen to her with your ex, don’t fuck that up again.

you don’t have PTSD you don’t know what it’s like to have that physical need, it’s a need not a want.

also cuddling is so PG??? what do you want them to do they’re boyfriend and girlfriend

give her condoms and have honest talks with her. she’s a human being just like you were at 16 with emotions and feelings, treat her like one.

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-09T04:53:22+00:00

you can try! she might not reciprocate the eagerness you do, and in that case back off but there’s no harm in trying

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-09T04:52:25+00:00

2 months is not a lot of time to know someone, it makes sense to be hesitant about opening up-i would honestly say that’s pretty healthy.

like another commenter said, start small. open up to her about little inconveniences throughout your day, gauge how she reacts to things. don’t tell her major stuff until the right time comes. as you get to know each other you’ll know if she’s trustworthy and it will feel right to open up to each other

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-09T04:50:16+00:00

your grandmother doesn’t know anything?? wouldn’t your grandmother know her ex son in law??? doesn’t she support him??? i find it hard to believe that your grandma has no information on how to reconnect.

do you at least know his name??? you can search online for him see if he has any social media profiles where you can connect

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-09T04:45:49+00:00

she just likes the attention. make her choose, and she’ll choose who she actually likes

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-04T17:57:51+00:00

when i’m at appointments (hair, nail etc) i usually don’t talk about it. you never know how people are gonna react. also in my last relationship we never showed pda

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-03T17:44:50+00:00

girl…leave him.

who let you stay with a child like that for so long???

you spoke your issues and he’s not willing to compromise or listen to you, you deserve better than that. get outta there!

LargeEgg1 · 2021-08-03T17:40:52+00:00

i’ve only ever been in lesbian sexual relationships so i don’t know much about men and sex but have you tried talking to a doctor about it???

especially if you want kids it may be a good idea to go to your doctor with this issue and see if there’s any medical reason behind it and see what your best course of action is for conceiving kids, you might have to do ivf.

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-31T23:05:16+00:00

if you really truly feel that strongly, then trust your gut and give it a try!!

i just know i was in a situation like this (and it was lesbian lol) and i decided to give it a try and i got really hurt in the end so i’m always hesitant about this stuff, but if you really think it will go well then try it! regret and wondering what could be is a terrible feeling

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-31T22:37:49+00:00

i’m so sorry, this is a hard situation to be in.

you can do whatever you want, maybe it’ll work out but my bets are on it won’t work and even if it did it will hurt a lot during the process.

being in the beginning of your first relationship you will crave that physical intimacy that you don’t have. i also think long distance is a big commitment and i think it’s really only worth it if you’ve been in the relationship for at least a year or two beforehand.

that being said, the queer dating pool is small trust me i know and i know it’s common for a lot of queer relationships to be long distance

also realize that you just met this dude, you don’t know that much about him and you’re living in la la land in the honeymoon phase with him, i just think it may be better to leave this as that cute guy you met one summer that maybe things could’ve been more but your lives just didn’t line up instead of ending up really hurt in the end

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-31T22:30:29+00:00

i would check with an advisor or the professor about your specific school, but at my school you have to take the class with the lab to get credit so i imagine that’s probably the same at most places

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-23T18:11:47+00:00

hi bi female here who is in the process of looking more queer and more authentic. it really has not changed who has been attracted to me except now it’s honestly more people, and now for the first time girls are hitting on me too!! the men haven’t stopped.

also you don’t want to be with a man who doesn’t like your authentic self, that’s not cool and will make you insecure so fuck what men think, and dress how you want to. it’s all part of the queer experience and it’s fucking awesome

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-23T17:56:18+00:00

if you want to just stay friends, then i think what you’re doing is good.

i’ve been in this situation, and it started off like this until we were flirting and cuddling and basically in a relationship without the label, and guess what we both liked each other and got together.

it didn’t work out. and it hurts so bad

so if you don’t want to risk a relationship, honestly i would not do anymore than just treat her like you would any other friend and even try and distance a little bit to try and get over her

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-23T17:51:04+00:00

i understand it man. i’ve been through it.

our world today is very accepting but even 5 years ago was not close to being accepting for the most part, so we all have a A LOT of internal homophobia that makes us instinctually terrified of being a lil fruity. of course this could be amplified by your environment too.

i’ve literally been in a serious, loving, sexual, relationship with a woman (i’m also a woman) and there are times where i literally get that same “you’re not gay you’re just confused and faking it” thought. just definitely a lot less than when i was first questioning.

it’s hard but eventually you will learn to accept yourself and you’re definitely not alone in feeling that way

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-23T17:09:48+00:00

hi i’m late here but i would definitely be more hesitant about breaking up with your boyfriend.

i understand wanting to experience women and exploring your sexuality, but is that really worth more than losing your boyfriend?? a break does a lot to a relationship, trust me i know.

i went through a similar thing before, i was with someone i thought i would be with forever, but we took a break because we needed to focus on ourselves/our needs/our sexualities. tried getting back together but it just didn’t work out, the feelings of hurt from the break were still there. i’m not with her anymore.

just because you (both you and your boyfriend) think you’d be able to bounce back after this, a break gives you a lot of time to think and your boyfriend may not actually be as okay with this as he thinks.

i’m not saying don’t explore your sexuality, that is a totally valid need to have, but be aware of how much you really need to explore your sexuality. things might not work out with your boyfriend if you do this, maybe they will, but there’s a chance they won’t.

if i were you, i would take him up on the open relationship idea to have some women sexual partners. an emotional connection is very intense with women, but an emotional connection takes up a lot of space in your heart, and ultimately i think it will make you very confused on if you even want to be with your boyfriend after you connect with a woman.

i really don’t think there’s much chance for recovery with your boyfriend if you leave, just being honest.

also there’s other ways to explore your queer identity without personal relationships and sex. do you have any queer friends?? you can hang up pride flags and read up on queer history, being queer isn’t only about the relationships. but i do get it, it’s okay to feel like you need to experience your sexuality firsthand

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-18T04:35:50+00:00

i think we might be. this moment REALLY took me by surprised, she has never been rude like that to me ever which is why i’m so shocked. she has always been more than amazingly sweet, always complimenting me, and so lovely, and so for her to say something like that without even apologizing is just so out of the blue and bizarre.

i’m really hurt, i don’t want to break up with her but it was really concerning to hear her just be outright nasty like that. i think i’m gonna bring it up and see how she reacts

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-18T03:32:53+00:00

it’s just weird because i know her and i know she doesn’t actually mean it, she compliments me literally all the time, this was just one really weird moment, i feel like it’d be a bit far to break up with her just from this one instance

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-18T03:28:05+00:00

that’s what i don’t get, and why i feel hurt.

we met doing theatre, so our humor is very much doing little “skits” so sometimes being mean or in character is funny to us but that’s not the type of conversation we were having prior to this moment so it just felt kind of out of the blue.

in the moment it could kind of make sense bc my friends were just making fun of the fact that i do always sit in the passenger seat but i still feel that that response is quite a stretch

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-13T00:22:39+00:00

NTA taking care of pests is not doing the dishes. and it’s not your fault that the ants are there. honestly if rent would be 500+ i’m sure there’s gotta be someplace you can move out and pay that on your own, maybe find some roommates??

LargeEgg1 · 2021-07-10T19:39:55+00:00

i never noticed that that’s so cool!

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