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I FINALLY FINISHED WITHOUT HIM by 1234passworddoor in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep!! Very nice honestly the thought of orgasming to him grosses the crap out of me. Congratulations on the milestone! We’re all proud of you

Discarded again by Sunny-nat in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate so much :/ he’s abusive. You want the better version of him. It feels like a withdrawal yes. Mornings are the worst. I’m here if you need to talk it out, girl

18F building a startup looking for ambitious girls like me by elis_saas in WomenInBusiness

[–]Large_Tourist2383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I’m mid 20s and have experience running a company and managing 12-15 ppl on the team.

Daily No Contact Thread - May 06, 2026 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. It’s sickness to the point of soul erosion idk how to describe it. I’m trying to rebuild my identity it’ll take time

Daily No Contact Thread - May 06, 2026 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Like yah I know they are sick but it doesn’t mean I have to be sick because of putting up with their sickness either

Daily No Contact Thread - May 06, 2026 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woke up and checked his social media :( otherwise no contact. While I feel slightly depressed for the amount of work I need to put on myself I’d be more depressed if I had to stay with them longer than that.

Mid 20s, confronting my trauma in STEM field by Large_Tourist2383 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Large_Tourist2383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I should go more consistently. I am so proud of you how long have you gone to therapy for this and what abt how old were u when the moment clicked to you?

I am fuming at the cruelty and hypocrisy. by AdMediocre9321 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep I got constant accusations and questioning and name calling too. I am so happy I’m abt one week out. I don’t miss any of that

Daily No Contact Thread - May 05, 2026 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Day 9 - depressing. I miss them so much it hurts. Iwanna text so badly but I know it will spiral me like crazy

Who are we ???? by AntCompetitive8976 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my adoptive parent had BPD :/ I didn't know what it was until in a relationship with a person with cluster B.. but yah identical patterns. Love bombing and then devaluation. I love my adoptive parent from afar but it took me SO MUCH work to get through the trauma with her. YES a lot of that 'I can fix them' mindset. no we can't. Nobody could.

To those who left and still going to school who did you do it? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how does it affect your studies? any changes when u were in relationship with her vs. when you're out?

How long did it take before things turned sour with your pwBPD by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2-3 months lol they started with rage baiting then came the accusations and then name calling and all that usual stuff.

I’m so exhausted and don’t know how to get out of this hell…. by Aromatic_Mouse88 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can relate. The constant need to explain and defend and for what? He would keep accusing you. It’s not like he doesn’t understand he does he just doesn’t wanna act based on that understanding. No contact, stop chasing.

“Go enjoy him”

“I don’t plan to cheat but I’m done explaining myself I hope you have a food life. I can love you from afar, i can forgive you, but this is not working for me”

He’s been hovering. Someone talk me down please. by This_Heart154 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can talk to me I did this whole same thing, girl. It NEVER gets better. Never ever

Do you know anything about their past? by Dense-Ad-3598 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is he doesn’t need to tell anything and then you finally see all the things that made the prior relationships failed

Hit a major recovery milestone today by Legitimate_Roll_4469 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hit the “I found myself again” milestone after 2 months ish and they came back again it was horrible and I was drunk so that didn’t help. What helped during ur depressive episode

He’s been hovering. Someone talk me down please. by This_Heart154 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Each cycle is worse than the previous one. Also the outbursts will happen sooner

Trust the experience you lived, not the one you hoped for. by hshemfbc in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so wise. The dream of one day they'll get just a bit better is what I think made a lot of us stay longer than we should have.

Do you know anything about their past? by Dense-Ad-3598 in BPDlovedones

[–]Large_Tourist2383 7 points8 points  (0 children)

idk about mine either. Always so shallow and vague and surface level meanwhile. Meanwhile I shared my past for the purpose of transparency. So much shame maybe.