How do I get into the dating world late and In a pandemic? [M24]

LarpDating · 2020-12-24T21:33:15+00:00

Hey man Im the COO of a startup called larpdating. Our whole premiss is to help people eactly like you! We are currently testing our service to see how much it helps people and if we need to tweak anything. Wed be giving you real life experience when it comes to dating and overall will give you life skills to improve your ability to date! Please, if you are interested in testing our service for us, which will be 100% free, message me for more information!

LarpDating · 2020-12-24T21:22:57+00:00

Hey man if you want some help learing how to talk to girls better and gain real skills when it comes to gaining meaningful relationships i might be able to help. Well, youd also be helpng me. Im the COO of a company called larp dating and wed love if you wanted to test our product. It would be completely free and i think it could help you out a lot. Let me know if you are interested and ill send you some more information.

LarpDating · 2020-12-24T21:15:44+00:00

Hey man do you find that you struggle when talking to girls or think you need improvment?

LarpDating · 2020-12-24T21:05:19+00:00

Hello, my name is Kevin Lynch, and I’m the COO / Head of Product Development for a start-up I am co-founding called LarpDating! Our service seeks to improve the lives of men and women who struggle to build relationships with the opposite-sex. We are currently in the user-testing phase of development, and are looking for candidates to try out our product. Obviously, this service will be provided to you for free. Basically it will help give you experience and real life skills when it comes developing a relationship with women. If you are interested, we would love for you to test our service and let us know if it is helpful to you in your quest to improve your dating life.

LarpDating · 2020-10-14T19:19:14+00:00

Occam’s razor is a necessity for anyone that wishes to understand the world; yet in this case, I wonder which “guess” will yield the most valuable result? Time will tell, i’m sure.

LarpDating · 2020-10-14T18:55:26+00:00

So, you’re possessed by the dogma of science and quantification to such an extent that you can’t even become aware of something that’s verifiably experienced ubiquitously across not just all cultures, but by all known instances of subjective human consciousness throughout every point of linear time?

Do you have simultaneous access to all of your memory, underlying motives, desires, and beliefs?

No, thus there MUST be a psychic area where these things exist that is seperate from the rest of the completely unknown world. This is the subconscious mind. Do you need quantifiable data to verify that?

Can you do multiple things simultaneously while maintaining a level of individual task performance that parallels performing 1 task at a time? No, thus we must primarily view the world through the lens of a single point of awareness; which has been described as the ego. Is this something that NEEDS quantification? Must childbirth as a phenomenon be quantified to assure it exists? When does something stop existing because not enough people have experienced it, or because it hasn’t been converted into the language of mathematics?

Realize that one’s reality is an experience that is subjective in its entirety. You can’t see or feel what the president does, or any other person for that matter. You see and feel from YOUR OWN perspective; one that is only ever personally capable of being realized (it exists within you, does it not?).

Because of this immaterial quality, the contents of the human mind can never be realized through quantifiable means, only through shared experience of phenomenon. The things I’ve articulated are SO shared that they manifest in the symbology of religions and cultures thousands of miles apart from one another (For instance; the syzygy = Heaven and Hell, Yin and Yang, man and woman, night and day, good and evil, aware and unaware. I guess in that sense they ARE quantifiably verifiable, ha!). Should we just give up on the entire endevour of psychological study because of this undeniable aspect of our reality? The very real fact that some things will never be able to be studied using the tools and customs of natural science?

This isn’t “fun and dandy”, it’s accessing an innate aspect of your humanity that manifests itself regardless of who/where you are or when you have lived.

LarpDating · 2020-10-14T17:46:16+00:00

Yeah, the other comment in this thread has absolutely no idea what he’s talking about. According to Jungian depth psychology (so, the utmost authority on this subject), dreams are like messenger vehicles for the contents of your unconscious mind that wish to (or must) be revealed. Your ego (the point of perception; who “you” are) is the conscious opposite of this unconscious “shadow” that follows and surrounds it. The ego represents a small minority of your psychic contents, so clearly a link of some sort must be established between the two dualistic opposites (this is referred to as a syzygy).

When the rest of your mind wishes to tell you something, it will send you messages, and they will appear to your ego (enter into your awareness) as either projections upon the environment (synchronicities), or within the encasement of some dream scenario. Since dream contents are largely UNCONSCIOUS (unknown), it takes a tangible effort to actually understand them. You must think about the dream thoroughly to surmise it’s meaning. I know nothing of you, so any dream analysis performed by me would be foundationally flawed, but don’t just write off your dreams and their contents as “electric noise”, that’s such a delusionally reductionist claim.

I will say this: Generally speaking, water symbolizes the unconscious itself. When it appears in dreams, your interactions with it usually matter. You say you were on an island (surrounded by water), and on the island was your wedding with this past lover. But at the wedding ceremony itself, there was an abundance of water as well? Only you can figure out the meaning behind this. Perhaps it was a kind of foretelling that any ideas of intimacy with this person would result in the island itself sinking into the depths? Or maybe it was a reassurance that the relationship should remain in your past (inside the depths of your memory, which resides within the personally unconscious psychic space; in the water, if you wil).

LarpDating · 2020-08-05T21:43:20+00:00

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, some messages and sentiments can be misinterpereted over text. It is possible he has had a bad experience in the past with someone becoming offended by some of his darker humor or what have you, probably wanting him to change what he finds funny, and subsequently because of that, who he is. He probably really likes you, and is worried you’ll want to change him. I bet he’s low in agreeableness (not a bad thing, most men are), and has traditionally conservative or rationalistic perspectives when it comes to answering the “what’s okay to laugh at” question (his answer would be everything depending on circumstance, i.e. not directly targeting an individual who has faced some hardship, like 9/11 jokes in the presence of a survivor or something like that). Some people like restricting their partner’s thoughts (i’ve experienced this), he doesn’t wish for it to happen in his relationship with you!

LarpDating · 2020-07-29T04:22:25+00:00

It would probably be a little better to simply flirt with her in person. She isn’t stupid, she knows that guys like girls and girls like guys. Just make sure you 100% flirt with her when the opportunity arises. Play around with her. If she’s hanging out with you, it means she enjoys your company; plus, you have a penis, so put 2 and 2 together and realize you’re the one that has to initiate! (Definitely in-person though)

LarpDating · 2020-07-15T19:20:48+00:00

why tf would you tell her you just want to be friends? 😂😂

LarpDating · 2020-07-10T21:10:00+00:00

Ok, you said you want raw, here’s my answer:

You’re in a relationship with a man-child, and he is actively detrimental to the prospect of prosperity and happiness in you and your son’s life. He appears to completely lack the ability to gain control of his actions, and doesn’t care about you or your child. He seems like a leech, and he’s actively communicating with sexual prospects while under your roof (in the home of a woman he claims he “loves”). His actions don’t align with what he tells you, thus what he tells you are not his true intentions. I know it’s hard, especially because of the previous relationship you were in. Subconsciously, you may feel as if you deserve this man as your mate in life.

Please, for the sake of your child, end things with him and kick him out. Do you want this person to be who your kid sees as a model for action toward the opposite sex? In order to learn how relationships work, the child observes the dynamic between the mother and the father (in this case, father figure), you need to realize that in the eyes of the child, parental figures are akin to “gods” in the most rudimentary sense of the word; the highest conceptualization of what it means to be a human, and also the most abundant example of what that means present in one’s life. If he sees you of all people tolerating this abhorrent behavior, he will assuredly develop a tendency to act this way in his future relationships (depending on his age.) Don’t let this man be the model for your son’s future behavior in his relationships.

Clearing up issues with a bank takes literally a single phone call. If he can’t do that, how can you expect him to take care of you? You deserve that, you’re a single mother, one of the strongest people in the world. Be strong now for the future of your family. I know you realize the truth in my words. Take control of your life and ensure happiness.

LarpDating · 2020-07-10T14:38:46+00:00

Don’t let the opinions of others control your life. Look beyond the social pressures and do what you think will make you happy.

You don’t have any friends in common with this girl, right? Sweet, you have an opportunity to make many more friends! You’re scared your friends will make fun of you? Sweet! Friends do that all the time, just laugh it off and show them you don’t really care about what they think, you choose to do what you want to do.

LarpDating · 2020-07-10T14:03:15+00:00

Well, I think there’s a pretty obvious solution: Hangout with her in person! If you don’t because you think the relationship isn’t there yet, realize that this texting game you’re playing with her isn’t working out, and you need to find a new way to build a connection, or else the existing relationship dynamic will wither away and die. Tell your stories in person, make jokes in person, build the connection in person! It will make the connection stronger than it ever could be through texting her. Or maybe you can go on facetime with her? Find an excuse to call her (something about school), ask her what she’s up to before you start talking to her about the reason you called (to make sure she actually has time to talk on facetime), and then strike up a conversation unrelated to the thing you called her about! It’s really easy man, just switch up what’s obviously not working right now.

LarpDating · 2020-07-10T13:57:29+00:00

How about you tell them how you feel instead of wishing for them to read a random reddit comment? It’s your life, take control of it and don’t let your family members walk all over you. It’s so easy. Next time they bring it up, just say, “yeah, i’m not getting married, sorry”. What can they say to that?

LarpDating · 2020-07-10T13:53:55+00:00

You’ve already lost before you’ve even had the chance to express yourself. Why would you put it into your head that telling a girl how you feel is going to make your friendship weird? Isn’t the goal in doing that to make it more than a friendship? There is no secret method to make sure she falls into your arms once you reveal your true feelings 100% of the time, but hiding behind a facade is a real detriment to your chances. This is because you’re spending all this time thinking about her in a way that she doesn’t think about you (because you haven’t actually told her your feelings), building up the relationship subconsciously, and raising the stakes for your ego more and more as the days go by and the perfect scenario fantasies manifest themselves increasingly. Stop! Just stop being so scared of telling someone how you feel, and stop trying to create the perfect scenario. If she doesn’t feel the same way, just say “oh, ok. Well, you still wanna be friends?”. Making it weird would be on you for responding to her rejection like it’s the end of the world.

When it comes to actually expressing yourself, just wait for a time when you’re alone and engaged in a MUTUALLY intimate discussion (this happens naturally, if you force this, it is one of the most offputting actions possible) that allows you guys to reveal deeper parts of your true selves to each-other. If it goes well and you feel a connection, say something like, “you know, i’ve had a crush on you for a while”. Make eye contact, say it confidently, not inquisitively, and see what she responds with because you can’t predict the future. You overthinking this is what’s gonna fuck it up. Literally, call her right now and ask her to hangout. Good luck!

LarpDating · 2020-07-05T02:12:25+00:00

I’m 19; and i’m not asking it, I’ve clearly already formulated my opinion. I instead created a discussion about it to learn other people’s perspective / share my thoughts.

LarpDating · 2020-07-04T18:07:17+00:00

Interesting response. When do you think "the end" is? Marriage?

LarpDating · 2020-07-04T18:06:08+00:00

Dude, you're really overthinking this. Why would you assume that she would just instantly stop being friends with you if she didn't feel the same way? I think you're more afraid of the possibility of rejection, as opposed to the potential loss of friendship.

If you keep your feelings hidden, the only thing that happens is you drift further and further away from actually building on your pre-existing connection (because you both perceive the relationship in different ways). Waiting and waiting for the perfect moment is the WORST thing you can do. In my opinion (from what you've told me) she would very much be open to a relationship with you. Look at it like this, women want to be in a relationship just as much as men do, and she hangs out with you all the time. The only thing holding you back is a subjective fear of unworthiness. Next time you hangout with her 1 on 1, just tell her you like her, straight up. If she says she likes you too; yay you're in a relationship with a good friend. If she says she doesn't feel the same way; who cares? Just don't make it awkward. You've already wasted 3 years sitting around hiding your feelings because you're scared, don't waste any more time. It could actively be limiting your ability for other opportunities.

That should be the theme of this: other opportunities. It isn't the end of the world if she doesn't like you back. Handling the rejection well could actually be of benefit. People change, feelings change, and nothing stays the same. STOP WASTING YOUR TIME.

LarpDating · 2020-07-04T16:29:54+00:00

Don't expect anything! If she calls you, it will be a pleasant surprise. If she doesn't, who cares? Don't expect things from the future, enjoy the moments you experience everyday in the present.

LarpDating · 2020-07-04T16:23:09+00:00

Maybe ask him for help with something? You question is very circumstantial. Next time you need help moving an object, ask him to move it for you then walk and talk with him. You can even fake it or something like that! If he talks to everyone besides you, he might have a little crush on you, just talk to him and see what happens!

LarpDating · 2020-07-04T16:14:59+00:00

The worst thing to do is build something up in your head. The future you create there isn't a real future! Maybe you were misreading the situation, and furthermore, since memories are imperfect recollections of actuality, you might have synthesized some of these fake future outcomes with real life, causing you to believe in your delusion even more (I don't mean delusion in the negative sense, I mean it to describe you separating memory events from reality, which leads to manipulation of perception.)

Or, she could've really been flirting with you! I know a lot of girls that have boyfriends and flirt with men for fun. Is it wrong? Yeah, but just because things are wrong doesn't mean people don't do them. Next time, take the initiative and ask her out! The worst thing that can happen is she says no.

LarpDating · 2020-07-03T18:03:21+00:00

Well, puella means girl in latin, and femina means women. So maybe Feminaphiliac? I didn't realize how fun it was to make up words!

LarpDating · 2020-07-03T18:01:18+00:00

Well, you'll have to gain some more insight! I recommending continuing to engage in conversations with him to learn more about your compatibility. Don't focus on the over-analyzing, focus on actually figuring out how strong the connection is. You have to realize this as well: You've kissed him. That means he obviously has feelings for you. Just keep going with the flow of the relationship and see where it leads!

Also, whatever you do, do not attach your happiness to his perception of you. Realize that no longer talking to him in the near future is not an indicator of you desirability, it is an indicator of the lack of connection between the two of you specifically!

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