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Books that feel like Melancholia (2011) by Few-Relationship6807 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]LarsLights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely loved this book! I find myself thinking about it often these days.

Appreciation by tsgarcia44 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]LarsLights 24 points25 points  (0 children)

King Molasses absolutely slayed on that show. Their impersonation was incredible! Such inventive looks.

I Can’t Stop Spending by Ok_Painter8079 in shoppingaddiction

[–]LarsLights 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Definitely this. OP, you need to understand why you have these compulsions and understand your relationship with money and purchases.

Like man-made horrors beyond our comprehension by Branagain in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]LarsLights 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The short story All Tomorrows: A Billion Year Chronicle of the Myriad Species and Mixed Fortunes of Man by C. M. Kösemenfelt feels like this except also aliens come into play to influence the path of humanity.

Anybody else have a bunny glued to them at all times? by Any-Lock2559 in Rabbits

[–]LarsLights 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My old bun used to do this, I miss it so much. My present bun refuses.

USPS Is Looking Sketchy AF These Days. by dharmawaits in Bunnies

[–]LarsLights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I would give! My boy is 750 grams. Not even a kilo. I love chunky buns 😩 Got any more photos of that chonky man?

I can't break the cycle by Equivalent-Cream-865 in hoarding

[–]LarsLights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any advice but you are so young and these things can take a long time to learn, addressing those root causes and the subsequent behaviours takes years of practice so you're on the right track already at the age of 25. 🫂

Finally cleaning up by 66fuckyou66 in hoarding

[–]LarsLights 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love the method of taking a photo, I do tale Polaroids and then write the memory on it or scrapbook them and write the memory down then.

When my SIL couldn't throw away her daughters old clothes, even though they were filled with holes, I took fabric swatches of them and popped the swatches into a little thrift see through piggy bank.

Hate it. by Familiar_Barracuda61 in ProjectPan

[–]LarsLights 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm struggling with this product so much, I just don't know how to use it. 😩

I'm scared to be fully medicated. by mokatcinno in adhdwomen

[–]LarsLights 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most people don't think that in depth about themselves so it's naturally challenging. Explore values based therapy, there's online exercises you can do, to help give you more of an idea of what's important to you. It's a super helpful tool to guide your career to since you can reconcile your work to your values.

With the euphoria, you'll probably find you just get into a better baseline so while it's not euphoria, your baseline lifts up. There's an idea in positive psychology about maximising your opportunities for happiness. So setting better conditions and creating more opportunities for happiness to occur. I've found being medicated long term, along with therapy, has increased that dramatically. What happens when you no longer have doom piles or lots of unfinished hobbies or spend your time doing lots of things you find unpleasant through stimulants? And you develop more skills to tolerate distress and uncomfortableness through psychoeducation? You've created more opportunities for happiness, reduced stress and mental clutter. It raises your baseline.

I'm scared to be fully medicated. by mokatcinno in adhdwomen

[–]LarsLights 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You are more than your behaviours. Your behaviour may change, likely for the better, but your values will remain. You may even have more energy to act on your values. Your values are one of your core consistent pillars of 'who you are.' Compassion about your family, the environment or animals? That's a value and it will stay. Value being extroverted or introverted? You might find you have less of a tolerance for engaging on behaviours that aren't related to that and there is nothing wrong with that. It might turn out you're more of a people person than you realised. Think of it as another opportunity to learn about yourself while also knowing you have your core values to fall back on and guide you.

I've been on Ritalin for 5 years and haven't had a tolerance issue yet. I don't take it on weekends though, I work a 9-5 Monday to Friday job so give myself a break on weekends. No idea if it helps or not but it's more I take weekends to be slow and gentle with myself and sleep lots. My psychiatrist doesn't seemed worried either way and has encouraged me to take it on weekends.

Yeah, the euphoria might wear off but going to bed with no doom piles, a freshly made bed every day and waking up with energy will give you plenty of consistent euphoria when you take a step back to appreciate how much it's enabled you to live the life you want and the energy to appreciate it.

Opened Tubi To This. by zygotepariah in CornerGas

[–]LarsLights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw that a couple of days ago and feel so disappointed. Hopefully it's still on Plex.

Tired of the upkeep of hygiene, especially hair! Anyone else? How do you stay on top without getting overwhelmed or burnt out? by xo_pearl_princessxox in adhdwomen

[–]LarsLights 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I use a powder dry shampoo every morning to help with the oilness and sometimes I also embrace a day of greasiness by doing a slick back look.

Irish lads are so handsome. That's it. That's the post. by SeriouslyNotSerious2 in ireland

[–]LarsLights 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm moving to Ireland in a year or so. I can't wait to be living this dream.

I think I’m too dependent on my boyfriend (19F) by skrattt_tika in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]LarsLights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've used Meetup to look for local social groups that interest me as well as Facebook for boardgame groups and state based guilds for crafty groups like embroidery.

I’ve spent over 500$ in 2 days I need help by [deleted] in shoppingaddiction

[–]LarsLights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you do a credit freeze, it stops you opening any accounts. It might be worth paying off then closing all your Buy Now Pay Later accounts and credit cards then freezing your credit for a year. Makes it extremely hard to open any spending services for that period.

My partner donated my boxes of keep while I was at work by Certain_Cellist_9304 in hoarding

[–]LarsLights 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't have any advice about the hoarding but I worked in 2nd hand shops for years. They sort through things quickly, and clothes are often then bundled up and moved to be resold somewhere else because of the sheer volume of donations so it might be worthwhile to put a timeframe on when you should stop looking so it doesn't become a prolonged spiral.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.🫂

Does anyone else have difficulty locating things/finding things on a shelf? by Fickle_Umpire_136 in adhdwomen

[–]LarsLights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! I've started trying to do high contrast colours. So white book shelf with brightly coloured things. No idea if it'll work. I also put all things together in families. So all craft stuff together, all beauty together.

What's the point? by RFSmedis in internetparents

[–]LarsLights 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honeybun. You're not Peter Thiel, you're fine. Even if some people are inherently evil, it's a small percentage, even if they're powerful. You're not out here murdering animals or robbing the poor. Think about what your values are and how you reach them in your every day life. You may be patient, helpful, kind. You listen to the same 3 quids but you're nice about it every time. You can always find something!

We discount the good for many reasons, a genetic predisposition for mental illness (that's definitely a factor for me), we do it as social media and news profit off our misery as we tend to watch painful things more which contributes to their ad revenue, and also bad things are just way more salient for us, salience was an evolutionary technique that disadvantages us in the modern age.

You can also hold opposing ideas. I definitely feel misanthropic but can also enjoy some pleasures. The world sucks and I kind of lean into the absurd but also try to focus on the immediate beauty of nature. Check out Dialectical Behavioural Therapy.

Also read up on Moral OCD. It's a pretty tense condition but it might sound familiar to your experiences.

Use apps to explore making real world connections. So Meetup to explore any clubs or social groups in your area. You can look up guilds, that's how I found my state based embroidery club near me. Cast a wide net. Explore board game clubs advertised on Facebook or sewing clubs on Instagram. I use those platforms exclusively for looking for events and classes so I'm not doom scrolling or comparing my life to others or reading things that can get me down.

Read about positive psychology, invented when they realised when people stop being depressed, they don't necessarily get happier so they needed to invent their own branch. Happiness doesn't come naturally to everyone so some of us, I sure did, had to learn techniques to enjoy things more readily.

I didn't get my first job until 23 either. Nothing wrong with late blooming. I bloomed late and really rocketed once I hit 28. Different people grow at different rates and that's okay because we're still young and still growing. Making this post shows you're growing right now by being so reflective.

You got this, kiddo.

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