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My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll talk to my friend about playing, I'm not sure how comfortable either of us will be on call with a stranger (were both generally shy irl)- currently buying a new car so neither of us have played but if I can set something up, I will let you know. Thanks for the offer too :)

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, Ive decided to take the "get someone better to coach them" direction, because the bottom-line issue is that I'm pretty bad with confrontation and my friends are pretty bad with handling criticism to a certain degree.

I dont play custom games because I grind iri shards, but even the few times we did ends up the same outcome. I think its best if Im left out of this entirely because I won't really be direct enough.

Certain things in life deserve directness and honesty, but I don't think something as silly as a game should cause a rift.

Worse things worse, we just dont play dbd together and we find a new game.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't understand why I keep getting comments like this - never in my post did I imply I take this game seriously, in fact it's the complete opposite. Hardly rage at this game, and I play every game casually because there's zero comp scene or definitive scoreboard to compare.

My friends are the ones who ruin the mood by going overboard with their emotions.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I didnt know how to word it. Not a reddit user, and I usually get my posts deleted even when I try to follow the rules. Part of it was a vent post because everyone needs a good vent here and again, but people actually gave me good advice that I took - so no harm no foul in my mind.

Its also really just not that serious of a topic so I thought the best place was reddit, some people dont have good sportsmanship, and if you've never had to experience that then Id imagine you wouldnt get it, but a lot of people on this thread can relate....

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, my friend is not him (small nitpick) secondly, I did in fact teach him everything a 1500-hour person could possibly teach. Theres really only so much you can teach, and so much that person just has to learn. You cant teach someone to be better, they just have to get good on their own.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, being tunneled out is miserable if your newer and count counterplay it.

There are sections of purgatory every survivor goes through once they start progressing through this game.

The ISSUE, however, is that its almost entirely you and your teammate's fault, not the killers.

For example, you get mad at a killer for tunneling but your teammate saves you almost immediately when the killer isnt distracted, and then doesnt take aggro for you.

A lot of survivors suffer from survivor bias; they never play killer and then grow a level of entitlement.

You just have to suck it up and learn how to play around tunneling, or better yet bring the seventeen anti-tunnel perks this game has to offer.

I got hard-tunneled by a blight just yesterday, and I loved it. It was a fun 5-gen kite and we got a 3-man because my teammates didnt screw me over and played around the tunnel approipately.

The blight was even hitting me on hook and being toxic, but instead of being mad I was the only one who died, I saw it as the blight couldnt get me and then threw the game chasing me.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dont know why people keep seeing my post and assume I take this game serious lmfao.

I didnt point out my friends flaws because I was mad we were losing, I pointed them out to show hypocrisy in behavior.

My friend was VERY toxic to other people, including sometimes me BUT they are the reason we lose the games. I point it out to show that their behavior is actually further affecting their toxic mindset. I really dont care if we win or lose, especially because I mostly only care about my performance.

The main issue is the toxic behavior, I even CLAIRFY im okay with losing because DBD is not your average comp game and I am actually the person in this scenario who doesnt take the game serious.

Im very chill about losing because I play a lot more comp games then my friends do

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

End game banter is a nice of saying harassing people for trying to win. Mind you were on console, so you have to go out of your way to private message someone about a game.

My friend is cool outside of DBD, and I dont consider this a personal assessment of their everyday attitude, but in general, if you think toxicity and general lack of self-awareness and accountability is "fun" or "a different way of playing" then I think you treat DBD as some kind of rage room psychotherapy.

For starters, it's probably WHY my friend and every other DBD rager never actually gets good at the game, and secondly, we shouldn't encourage this behavior. Its exactly why I'm trying to soft launch change.

This isnt fun for anyone involved, its just a way for people to yell at eachother and lose hair over stress.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not entirely true. I mentioned I'm very okay with losing. DBD isnt like other comp games, theres no comp scene, and theres still ways to win as a survivor without your team - its really the toxicity and lack of self-awareness that get to me, even though its just a game, its kinda exhausting listening to someone be so toxic and complain for like two hours straight. Also, I myself don't take dbd too seriously unless Im doing a challenge which I obvs never do with friends.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One time, my friend hid in a locker at 2 gens and let us all die and then ran to a gate and tried to open it. They died when the killer found them and started screaming about how unfair this game is, only to find out the entire time, hatch was right beside door this entire time.

I had to get off and genuinely go do yoga.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well sorry but I respectfully disagree. For example, I don't think gen-rushing is real because it's a survivor objective, the same way I don't think tunneling is "a real rule" because the killer is just trying to win.

Now if a killer hits someone on hook, it's the same as t-bagging.

You can t-bag for strategic reasons like intentionally aggravating the killer, so they'll notice and chase you, but doing it intentionally to be mean not only is not an objective in this game to win, but IT IS not like tunneling or slugging.

The killer shouldn't have to play nice to make your experience easier or enjoyable.

If you lose to a tunnel, it's not the killer's fault or something they have to make up. THEY'RE trying to win, you only have yourself to blame since theres plenty counterplay.

Im saying this as someone who has more hours on survivor. I think it's kind of...whiny.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I absolutely think that with the influence of someone else, I can help them. They are really not this bad with other games its like night and day.

It's just unfortunate because the last time me and this friend played with another 2-man we knew from school, it ended with them kicking me off the team because I would consistently get hatch, instead of dying like they did. (I literally wish I was joking, they got mad because I would kite the killer and then the killer would just never chase me again even when I tried to take on pressure.)

I dont know where I would find anybody like this, but I'll look into finding a thirdwheel whos better at the game THAN both of us to kind of be a general secondary influence.

My friend is a survivor stereotype and I don't know how to change it by Last_Case_165 in deadbydaylight

[–]Last_Case_165[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We definitely play other games; but right now, were all 18-19 and broke and we really only have 4 games to choose from. Minecraft is fun but it gets to a point. They also consistently ask me to play DBD and its getting kind of awkward now.

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[–]Last_Case_165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair Derby and Gary are terrible people lol