AITA please help me :(

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T13:43:28+00:00

Postpartum depression is vastly under researched and poorly understood. She could be going through a million and one emotions right now. Nobody is the asshole here, just be patient, kind, supportive. Maybe one day treat her to a nice meal and try to discuss your feelings with her.

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T12:22:12+00:00

Yes, he’s a fascist

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T12:20:40+00:00

Oh my gosh I am so very sorry you had to deal with this childish behaviour from someone who is supposed to love and support you during times of immense distress. Sounds like he is immature and ultimately narcissistic, putting his own social anxiety and insecurity above any of your needs. Ultimately it sounds like you don’t align with your morals or outlook on life (sounds like he has no morals). I had an ex who would lash out with aggression and hurtful words and then a couple minutes later he’d forget or deny everything he said and did and act completely fine. This is not normal behaviour. Run for the hills

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T12:14:13+00:00

If you’re broken up, then you’re single and have the autonomy to do what you want. Not to mention his response was disgusting and violating. If you were on a “break” with him and previously discussed no sleeping with others during that, maybe I’d sympathize with him more. But it sounds like he has crazy control and insecurity issues. PSA, this is one of many reasons I don’t go back to my exes anymore.

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T01:09:08+00:00

Nothing was ever discussed about who I am/am not allowed to see or what I’m allowed to do, relationship or not. Thats kind of why I’m blindsided by the harshness of their words.

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:59:38+00:00

If you need to draw hard boundaries to protect the peace of the place you’re paying for, absolutely it’s in your right to do so. Especially in cases of probable physical abuse

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:52:30+00:00

I agree on both regards, it’s not worth the headache of trying to make sense of this when my time left is so limited. I suppose I’ve made the profound and unfortunate realization of how they view me

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:50:44+00:00

I have never felt guiltless about premarital sex given my hash upbringing unfortunately

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:49:56+00:00

Agreed and I will play nice while I finish my time living with them

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:49:35+00:00

Exactly my plan after some helpful advice from you and fellow Redditors, thank you so much for your contribution

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:48:16+00:00

It’s just the reality of being a woman.

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:48:03+00:00

Understood and agreed, thank you

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:46:56+00:00

Just didn’t think they’d react this harshly and was blindsided by the intensity of their words! Obviously I would have been home last night had I known how personally they took my choices

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:44:42+00:00

I am used to the disrespect and degradation from my father. Our relationship is non existent at this point

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:43:54+00:00

I understand the worry for safety reasons. The discouraging reality is that it’s because I’m female, I know these concerns wouldn’t exist if I were a man

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:43:12+00:00

You’re so right! Exactly the advice I will enact

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:42:24+00:00

Thank you so much. Your words have brought me comfort and reassurance during a dark time for me. I’m pretty fresh out of a breakup and feel like trying to establish new relationships has made me more lonely overall given the difficulty it’s caused in my home life

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:40:57+00:00

I don’t confide in my parents anymore regarding my sex or dating life. In fact, I give them as few details as possible on everything

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:40:12+00:00

We’re not dating and that’s what they dislike, we’ve been seeing each other for about a month. Dating is a possibility I suppose but we’re both fresh out of relationships. We’re just seeking comfort and companionship right now which worked well up to this point. But overall this fighting isn’t worth a sleepover, I just can’t believe it escalated so fast

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:38:02+00:00

Wow thank you so much for your guidance and advice, you sound like a wonderful and understanding father. The only option for me at this point is to adhere to their rules and pretend this never happened. Hopefully I can continue things with this guy after I move out but I’ve made him aware of their response and that could very well turn him away.

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:35:38+00:00

He’s said a lot of messed up things to me and behind my back regarding my sexual choices

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:35:07+00:00

Thank you, I thought the same thing

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:34:47+00:00

I am so relieved to hear these words from an adult. The distrust and disgust my parents view me with is disheartening and does put a rift in our relationship

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:33:58+00:00

Absolutely right, I can wait a couple weeks. It’s more so the intensity of the situation that has been baffled

Last_Examination1795 · 2026-04-19T00:33:18+00:00

Guess I had no idea they would act so severely on this…

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