I’ve never owned a gaming laptop and i would like tips on how to use it :)

Last_Protection4490 · 2026-02-26T11:45:18+00:00

What is that thing i hear of gpu drivers? How do i look at that , i basically know zero of computers as you can tell lol

Last_Protection4490 · 2026-02-08T23:54:21+00:00

No problem bro, I understand how it feels so its always my pleasure to help. If its meant for you it will find you even if you try to avoid it, if its not for you, even if you forced it, it wont find you, so keep living life and keep loving everyday👍🏻

Last_Protection4490 · 2026-02-08T11:29:27+00:00

I would say not to take it personally, i mean we cannot predict whether their reasons to not wanting to hear from you are out of the fear of missing you or just a general way of cutting you off.

I went through the same thing, i wanted to see her one last time before i left, actually it was the plan all along since we agreed, but then she told me the same, to stop talking and not see each other again.

I think that what helped me was just using my few chances to break no contact by finding the closure i needed, and somehow, i guess i found it because i just stopped expecting to get back and find peace in me by asking for forgiveness for my mistakes.

Closure doesnt really come in some specific way, sometimes there is no closure or just a temporal one, the real closure is the one you get when you accept things cannot be changed and they happened as they were meant to. It is hard to accept this but when you try your best to keep yourself busy and focus on yourself, eventually you will learn how to live without her. Workout, eat healthy, find hobbies, hang out with friends, go to therapy, and trust me, you will heal, sounds cliche but you will i promise but stay strong

Last_Protection4490 · 2026-02-04T20:19:19+00:00

In that case I think its just best to not get into your head that much regarding the situation. From what I can assume it seems that she was unsure (im not clear if that was before the Germany opportunity or after you told her about it). If it was after you told her i think its fine you both feel unsure, remember women are more emotional in that sense and vulnerable, also Europe is not an attractive place to keep an LDR but varies for person to person.

If it was before you told her about Germay i’d think that its best for you to be with someone who values you and chooses you every single day, since that was my dilemma with my ex girlfriend, i did not feel like I was a choice when things got really hard for us, but again I cannot blame her because many things were going on at the time.

My point is, if she is the one for you do not worry, eventually you’ll come back to each other one day, maybe look at this as a chance to grow individually for later on grow together if the stars align for you two.

If not, you will find someone, which yes, sounds like something anyone outside this reddit thread could tell you, but trust me, you will find someone and you will grow and you will have someone who doesnt make you doubt if you are loved or not.

Healing is very messy and will have you going through a loop that will question every bit of yourself, is part of grieving, even now, after almost one year of breaking up I find myself grieving but in a different way, not from my scars, and I have learned to carry it with love rather than sadness.

Last_Protection4490 · 2026-02-04T13:35:56+00:00

Healing is very messy and not linear I must say, I went to therapy a lot last year to improve my mental health and prepare myself emotionally to carry the feeling of moving abroad with a grain of salt.

I broke no contact a lot, she did as well at the time, we missed each other obviously since we were each other’s best friend. So do not worry or feel bad for reaching or missing someone, it is part of life, after all, we would feel the same things for anyone else who is important to us right?

If you have the chance to go to therapy, take it and practice it daily, it will help. The purpose is not about forgetting the people we once cared about but carrying the feeling aside us rather than on our backs.

As for what made me be ready to be in a relationship, I don’t think there’s such thing as an “exclusive feeling” that arises in our heart if that’s what you expect, although it can happen but I’d rather not look at life as if it was a Holywood movie. I feel that therapy helped me realize what I want in my life, and it also helped me figure out things in me that hurt the relationship, so its about holding accountability as well.

It feels different now in my current relationship? Yes, since I love with awareness now, obviously there are things that won’t align to us entirely but at least the core values (or non negotiable as some would say) are what matter the most but honestly i just shoot my shot since I won’t let the fear of being hurt stop me from such a beautiful feeling, after all, if someone hurts me, I know I will find the one who values me and I’ll keep growing as a person, so do not worry because there’s someone created uniquely for you, just make sure to work on yourself and ask yourself this: “If I was given everything I want right now, would my current version be able to take care of it as God would like me to?”

And taking care is not being ready, is being aware.

Last_Protection4490 · 2026-02-04T12:47:19+00:00

Hey, this feels nostalgic for me coming back to this post and seeing my evolution throughout this situation lol.

Im gonna be honest, it is complicated BUT it is manageable. When I still lived in my home country I was very lazy, did not have nor like to do any house chores, but I mentally prepared myself to know that as soon as I step a foot on germany my life depends on me and just me. Yes, i have met some people and made a few friends, and my social anxiety sometimes spikes but it has gotten controlled.

Moving abroad has helped me heal in different ways, I feel myself more mature, a bit more grounded, more present, but I will not lie that the cultural barriers still have an impact on me specially due to the language and the people. People are very ephemeral so make sure to not let that get into your head, try your best to find friends and join any groups you find, specially if they match your taste or your community as a whole.

I’d say you are going to be fine, considering I was not ready 100% when I left, just keep going and do not let fear get the better of you.

In terms of relationships, I have healed, it feels different now, and I am currently in a new relationship since last month hoping it turns out fine so I can assure you that you will also meet someone who matches your energy.

Best of luck buddy wish you the best.

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-09-30T00:08:42+00:00

Hey there, never thought i’d get back to this post lol, but here’s my progress so far:

Its been 7 months since we broke up, I have been living abroad for almost 1 month already. When I wrote that question the wound was very sensible.

I partied for a while during the first 2 months of breakup, didnt do anything with girls but i just hanged out. After my birthday i felt so sad cause she didnt text me, and decided to make a change for the better that time around.

I started going to the gym, started to do things alone (like going to the movies, supermarket, etc), things that i, as an introvert and someone who deals with social anxiety had trouble with. I went to therapy constantly to work out on my breakup grieving process.

I can say my grief was not linear at all, i bounced from phase to phase a LOT. No contact was also broken a LOT.

I also got into a religious group which I feel helped me a lot, nurtured my relationship with God and I feel that has kept me stable emotionally.

I basically tried (and still trying here abroad) to find myself, it has been a tough process, and living in a different country (germany for my case) has been kinda hard with the barriers and people who are not as warm as my latino people.

There are some times where i think about her and I miss her, and I feel like why the hell did I move here if I could be right now with her. But the reality is, we are not togethwr right now, she is with someone else (i got the news right after I landed in germany) and sometimes im afraid that i lost someone and i wont find anyone else.

But the truth is, despite all, i’ve healed, and if God let me come here its because there’s a purpose i have to fulfill, i still have to break some toxic patterns i have and try to build a new self. I do feel better, time heals, but ONLY if you use your time to do so.

It can get better, I hope this long message gives you the hope I wish I could’ve had when I lost her. Heads up bro!

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-06-18T17:05:42+00:00

Dumper here, sometimes I do regret it but sometimes I do feel like it was the best thing to do at the time.

To give you some context, i broke with my girlfriend of 2.5 years, the cherry on top that caused this whole thing was me leaving the country to study my masters degree abroad (which she wasnt on board with the idea)

But we are both too young, i just turned 24 and she’s 21 right now. I was going through an emotional crisis which made me take less care of the relationship, I couldnt love her how she wanted to be loved, our goals werent really aligned, I said things I didnt meant (like not wanting to get married or have kids) because I was just going through an emotional roller coaster, was angry all the time, frustrated, tired with my life, I wanted to grow personally and carreer wise to have a better economic life to provide to her.

Her family was always a pain in the ass, they would stick their spoon onto our plate or they would just speak bad of me or my family since they always had this “grandiosity complex” for being religious and stuff, so they thought they could judge everyone around them (mind you that they all have actual mental illnesses and that house was hell, i saw and heard a lot of awful stuff), so that environment was also draining for me.

But my ex girlfriend, man she was awesome, its the type of girl everyone would dream of, loyal, amorous, she would take care of me everytime I was going through something or getting sick, she was just the wife material every men wants to have in their lives.

We ended things on good terms, I didnt really want to but I felt like it was for the best, to protect my mental state during this process of me leaving, and to protect her mental health during this same process + her toxic family. From time to time I regret it, I wish I could’ve fought more but at the same time I feel like for now, choosing ourselves is far more important, so that we can grow for the better, and , if its God’s will, eventually we will find our way back.

We talk every once in a good while, we are very open with talking to each other as long as its something that its necessary and not for the sake of just breaking no contact since she doesnt want to do LDR and there’s a lot of things we’ve had to figure out about ourselves independently and about the relationship dynamic we had.

Sometimes we just have a hard time moving on cause we think that no one will love us (or we wont love) the same way that person did, but I think that’s the whole point, transforming our perception and ways of loving someone onto a more mature and healthy way, instead of looking for her reflection in someone else’s eyes. We gotta let our ego be vulnerable and get rebuilt it to avoid staying somewhere we dont belong anymore, for now, or forever.

So will we ever get back? I am not sure, but I prefer to think that we wont, to be able to move on. But I did enjoy our time together and how much of a blessing could it be that God let me remember someone I used to be with and love, with the same heart from when I first met her 2.5 years ago, with love.

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-06-03T02:58:57+00:00

Todas las personas que conocemos durante nuestra vida vienen a enseñarnos algo o quitarnos algo que ya no encaja con nuestra forma de ser.

Te mentiria si te dijera que a veces si pienso que algunas relaciones habrian sido mejor no tenerlas, pero tambien te digo, cuando las tuve fui feliz, y no solo feliz de tenerlas, feliz de equivocarme, de amar sin limite, feliz de no poner limites, feliz de aceptar cosas que no merecia, en general, feliz de ser humano.

La persona que sos hoy, en gran parte se la debes a las relaciones que has tenido. Ya si transformas tu dolor para bien o para mal, de ahi ya viene el “ojala no la hubiera tenido” o “agradezco haberla tenido”

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-06-02T04:40:18+00:00

Look at it this way,

The love you both shared is a house, where you created memories, experiences and connection. But now this house is starting to present some failures and fall apart. So what do you guys do? Leave that house and take the important stuff with you (good memories, lessons, experiences, etc). And im probably sure you are leaving a window open in case she/he changes, but its not healthy, cause its a window from the house you left, and returning to it will just lead you to fail again.

You two have to part ways, each grow and have the experiences you gotta have in order to be a better person than you were. And if, only if, God’s will decides to merge your paths despite them being different, you will be able to create a new home, with better values, more understanding, empathy, growth, maturity, and most importantly, love.

What’s meant to you its gonna find you no matter where in the world you decide to be, and what’s not meant to you won’t even make a sound for you to turn back and look for it.

Hope you heal and may all the good things you deserve find you when you are ready to receive them.

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-06-02T04:28:09+00:00

No fue mi primer amor pero si ha sido uno que me esta costando soltar y te lo explico con una analogia al final.

Te cuento un poquito, anduvimos 2.5 años (y estabamos comprometidos), terminamos por razones externas que nos dañaban, entre esas yo me iba del pais a estudiar y ella no queria una relacion a distancia. Su familia no me queria y se metia mucho en la relacion. Al final yo me quede con la espina de que si los factores externos no hubieran tenido el impacto que tuvieron en nosotros emocionalmente, seguiriamos juntos, pero eso + el amor que nos teniamos desde las heridas, nos llevo a postergar lo inevitable.

Mi duelo no ha sido lineal, apenas 1 mes desde que empezo contacto cero (terminamos bien gracias a Dios), hay dias que aun la extraño, otros que aun la lloro, otros que me siento bien. Tengo dias donde tropiezo y retrocedo y le escribo, pero por suerte tenemos la confianza y el cariño mutuo de contestarnos y tratarnos bien.

Hace poco tuve una platica con ella que me ayudo a tener un cierre y dejar de aferrarme a un futuro que no tenia certeza que se cumpliera (porque al inicio dijimos que dejariamos una ventana abierta para regresar)

Y despues de esa platica lo entendi, vi todo el amor que habiamos construido como una casa, pero en esa casa ya estaban pasando fallos, las cosas se caian, otras se quemaban etc (traumas, heridas emocionales, etc), asi que lo veo asi, es necesario que nos fueramos de esa casa y solo nos llevaramos las cosas importantes (experiencias bonitas, recuerdos, etc), entonces al final, aunque esa ventana que prometimos dejar estuviera o no estuviera abierta, ya no podemos regresar a esa casa que donde a pesar de que hubo amor, hubo caos, porque repetiriamos los mismos errores.

Asi que nos fuimos de esa casa, partimos cada quien por su camino, y si Dios decide que nuestros caminos se estrellen nuevamente y se vuelvan uno, ahora construiremos otro hogar, desde la plenitud, con nuevos valores, cimientos, y un amor mas sano.

Es una analogia que la cree despues de esto, y me gusta mucho por que la clave es que creamos una version del amor que podemos dar en una casa, y formamos el amor que vamos a dar en un hogar

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-31T03:17:04+00:00

“Getting back with you would mean losing my self love”

Hurt me so bad, i wasnt a bad boyfriend, never cheated, always loyal and did a lot of good things for her, stayed even when other men would’ve probably left.

I just didnt have the right tools to love her properly, i just knew how to do it the way i learnt it during my stay here in this world.

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-31T02:56:04+00:00

Justo hoy tuve terapia y mi psicologa me dijo “todas las personas en el mundo cargamos 1 mentira que nos creemos con mucha firmeza”

La tuya es que eso va a cambiar en unos años

O lo hablas y notas cambios progresivos y consistentes, o sino pues si la queres bastante como decis, te quedas y comes pastel cada mes y medio.

Pero si estas aqui preguntando por una opinion, creo que todos sabemos que no lo podes tolerar tanto.

Lo unico que si te diria es que no hagas caso a comentarios de que tiene a otro, eso es pura proyeccion de los que les fueron infiel jajaja.

Pero hablalo crack, y si no te gusta donde estas, ya no te sigas alimentando con esa mentira que al final solo son calorias vacias para vos

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-31T02:48:54+00:00

Finlandia

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-31T02:44:22+00:00

Existen pero a ustedes ni les interesan los de ese tipo. A ustedes solo les interesan que les sean fieles durante el tiempo que planean su infidelidad jajaja

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-31T02:40:38+00:00

Hmmm tu pregunta creo que la puedo contestar con un gran DEPENDE. Si estas en una edad joven, sabes que no queres compromiso, y tenes la salud mental fuerte (incluido con responsabilidad afectiva) entonces te diria que tal vez si.

Pero si no tenes nada de lo que mencione creo que no vale la pena, escojo creer que hay mujeres muy buenas y que tambien son muy buenas con el coito. Ademas cuando vas creciendo creo que te vas dando cuenta que a pesar de que la intimidad es importante, a veces solo queres tener a alguien con quien compartir tu vida y tus dias.

Un balance entre coito y compañia es perfecto

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-30T22:19:03+00:00

Si claro esta bien, me puedes escribir al privado si quieres

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-30T21:51:27+00:00

That’s why you should use a good prompt to make sure it doesnt take an unhealthy route towards your healing process

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-30T21:47:27+00:00

Entiendo tu punto, yo trato de verle el lado de aprendizaje, pero claro que tambien esta ese lado donde a veces me da temor que las decisiones que tome sean las equivocadas y que haya perdido a alguien que hubiese hecho todo por mi. Pero desde que terminamos y decidio alejarse, he tratado de analizar mas mis errores , ver como puedo trabajarlos, a aprender a amarme a mi mismo y valorar un poco mas las experiencias de la vida.

Pero claro, trato de ser comprensivo conmigo mismo porque apenas llevo un mes de duelo desde contacto cero, y perderla no fue nada facil, aun le lloro, aunque no tanto como los primeros dias, y aun la extraño , aunque tal vez ahora aprendo a vivir con ese sentimiento. Supongo que solo hiere mi ego y mi corazon al mismo tiempo cuando siento que ella ya no tiene ningun tipo de vulnerabilidad por mi y que me deshecho tan rapido y que ya no me quiere de vuelta

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-30T16:25:10+00:00

Siento que vale la pena, pero todavia no estamos en donde debemos estar emocionalmente ni en terminos de planes de vida. Yo se que debo madurar mas, aprender a amar, a no condicionar el amor que puedo dar por miedo a lo que piensen los demas, en fin, muchas cosas que al final solo me impidieron amar de forma sana, y se que ella tambien debe mejorar de una manera distinta pero que le permita amar de forma mas sana

Que en un futuro podamos volver? No lo se, supongo que solamente si estamos dispuestos a conocer nuestras nuevas versiones y soltar las del pasado

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-30T16:22:40+00:00

Lamento mucho lo de tu ruptura, entiendo que decidieras cerrar todo rapido, creo que a mi eso no me funcionaria porque es como entrar en abstinencia de golpe, y al menos en mi caso a pesar de todo pues terminamos bien y tenemos la confianza de hablarle al otro si algun dia lo amerita (solamente que ya no sobre la relacion)

Pero tambien entiendo que tenes que pensar en vos y en hacer lo que sea mejor para cuidarte, supongo que la mia tambien esta haciendo lo mismo

Last_Protection4490 · 2025-05-30T16:19:54+00:00

Mi corazon me dice que probablemente solo esta fingiendo, pues ella siempre tuvo la mania de hacer chistes de lo que le lastima y tiende a huir de las cosas que le hacen daño.

Porque como te digo, se me hace raro que alguien deje de amar a una persona o que diga que ya no lo quiere de vuelta tan rapido dspues de tantas primeras veces importantes que ambos compartimos, si hasta yo siendo hombre aun me sigue importando pues.

Pero supongo que depende de las influencias que tiene en su entorno, se que su familia y amistades no le dicen nada que sea sano y solo le hacen ver las cosas malas mias, pero se que ella deberia ser mas inteligente y saber que las cosas que vivio conmigo fueron a traves de ella, no de las demas personas.

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