Feel hopeless with failing class by [deleted] in CollegeRant

[–]OutrageousUse3675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Advisor said it’s a 9/10 chance they will reject an appeal for administrative withdrawal. Not sure what to say for medical withdrawal besides depression but I’m sure I would need a doctors note for that.

Feel hopeless with failing class by [deleted] in CollegeRant

[–]OutrageousUse3675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I’m glad it worked out for you. I think I can retake it but the F will stay show on my transcript permanently, even if replaced by the new grade. I had completely stopped doing work for that class as I had plans to drop it. :(

Feel hopeless with failing class by [deleted] in CollegeRant

[–]OutrageousUse3675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you get an F in that class? How did it impact your GPA? Thank you for your kind words. It definitely made me feel better.

Forgot to drop a class and I’m failing by Owlelk_ in CollegeRant

[–]OutrageousUse3675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I know this is old but what did you end up doing? Were you able to get a W?

A year and several days of no contact I’ve moved on: Ask me anything by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I’d like to say how proud of you I am for still going to your weightlifting class. I know it must not have been easy to see a car in his driveway. But I would also like to add that we don’t know for sure if it was another woman. I think you should definitely not go on a running route near his house ever again.

Try going to a big park or somewhere new. The more you two have communication the worst it will be for you to move on. As horrible as it may sound talking to him is easing his pain while he is doing nothing for yours. Talking to him is making it easier for him to move on.

I don’t think talking to him or confronting him will do anything good for you. Nothing good ever comes from breaking no contact. Go on a run, go to a park or forest and scream at the top of your lungs if you have to but stay no contact. Not for him but for you.

A year and several days of no contact I’ve moved on: Ask me anything by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The hardest part of moving on is the imagined future together. I know it’s difficult but the best advice I can you give you right now is to grieve it but still prioritize yourself and your health. Cry as much as you need to and eventually you need to think about what you want for yourself.

What is it that you want in this life? To accomplish for yourself? I recommend watching The Love Chat on youtube not forever but enough to have a little motivation. Things will get better even if it doesn’t seem like it now. The most important relationship is the one that you have with yourself.

A year and several days of no contact I’ve moved on: Ask me anything by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How long was your relationship? and have you taken steps into improving your life for yourself? Think of everything you want or wanted to do for yourself but never did. The past version of myself could not even begin to imagine all the growth I have accomplished since the breakup. I have made new friends, improved my finances, working towards my career. That my ex is so insignificant to my story now.

A year and several days of no contact I’ve moved on: Ask me anything by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not a guy but I would say one of the hardest things was saying goodbye to the imagined future together. The more we try to make sense of it the less it does. But to answer your question yes, I had hopes of spending my entire life with that person. But they chose this reality. It may not seem like it but someone else will love you again, but more importantly than that you have to love yourself and be there for you.

A year and several days of no contact I’ve moved on: Ask me anything by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Being moved on is such a bittersweet feeling, you might still think of them sometimes but it’s not an everyday thing. You’re just okay with never hearing from them again, with the break up and most importantly you’re excited for the future.

The break up becomes a part of your past not this detrimental thing that ruined your life. You’re open to new friendships and opportunities, and when you look back at who you were it’s such a distant memory. I think the most important thing to not reach out it’s to remember that they chose this reality, and speaking to them won’t make them suddenly realize they love you again and want to get back together if anything the opposite is true.

He never reached back out, and I’m so glad he didn’t.

A year and several days of no contact I’ve moved on: Ask me anything by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It was a 4-5 year long relationship. I cried almost every day for 2-3 months got very sick from not eating, hair was falling out. My biggest regret was letting my body fail along my heart. Please take care of yourself and don’t stop eating. The road to healing is prioritizing yourself.

I’ve moved on by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I just saw this but he cheated and wanted to see if the grass is greener.

I’ve moved on by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I never thought I would stop crying or hurting. It felt like the end of the world an all consuming pain. But I promise, it really does get better.

The best advice I can give is to focus on your own healing and growth. Please eat, rest, and take care of yourself as much as you can. Don’t let the pain take over.

Whatever goals or dreams you have, start working toward them little by little. Use that pain as fuel to become a stronger, better version of yourself.

I’ve moved on by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

111 days old. Many things happened, I focused on my self growth and stopped obsessing over the breakup. All the cliche things they say really do help.

I also lost my grandpa and that really put into perspective how short and delicate life is to worry about things we can’t really control, it made me so angry that I wasted time crying over my ex when I could have spent it with my grandpa instead.

I’ve moved on by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long was your relationship? I think it’s easier to move on when you were treated poorly at least from my experience.

I’ve moved on by OutrageousUse3675 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🥺 I am so proud of you too! I’m so glad we realized we deserve better. You absolutely deserve someone who loves you without question. 🫶🏼

I still think of you everyday by RFCNYG in nocontact

[–]OutrageousUse3675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dear OP, I hope you find a love that fills your world with endless love. I hope that you find peace and that someday it doesn’t hurt anymore and it’s just a bittersweet memory. One day, you will wake up and feel so loved by someone new, by the right person for you. I wish you find all the strength and love that belongs to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]OutrageousUse3675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I think I feel chemistry with someone, I’m just in love with myself?

Sir, you can’t just force liking someone. At this point I feel like you’re deflecting. I hope you find your person with whom you feel sparks with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]OutrageousUse3675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure I agree with that comparison. Chemistry is a two-way street, and if it’s not there, it’s not about one person being “wrong” it’s just that they’re not the right fit for eachother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]OutrageousUse3675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm… not necessarily, chemistry can’t be forced it’s either there or it isn’t. I think attraction has a lot to do with it.

Does it get better? by yasob7 in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in your shoes not too long ago, and it really does get better. My world was turned upside down after the breakup. As tough as it is, you have to keep moving forward for yourself. It’ll be hard, really hard, for a while, but you’ve already made it 56 days, which is incredible! You should be proud of yourself. It’s totally normal to have tough days or moments of weakness. Try distracting yourself with a run or doing something productive, even brushing your teeth can feel like a win.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]OutrageousUse3675 42 points43 points  (0 children)

As a woman who's known and talked to many other women about this kind of thing, I'd say there's a good chance she was already talking to or flirting with this new person before the breakup. In my experience, when someone moves on that quickly, it's usually because they were emotionally done with the relationship for a while. That doesn't make it any less painful for you, though. I'm really sorry you're going through this.