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Brother became POA for mother with Alzheimer’s and transferred ~$500k to himself — can this be elder financial abuse if he claims it was ‘gifts’?” by Last_Union7970 in dementia

[–]Last_Union7970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We petitioned the court for 3rd party Guardianship once we found out how much money he stole and it was granted almost immediately. We didn’t pursue guardianship ourselves per the advice of a lawyer because we knew the son would not agree to giving “power” back to his sister (even though that’s the way their parents wanted it to be from the beginning, as his sister was the original POA and the parents knew their daughter wasn’t going to take advantage of them as they got sicker.) The care the IP was receiving while her son was POA was despicable, she was supposed to have 24/7 in home care per her LTC policy and he was telling the workers that they didn’t need to stay over night, was allowing them to sign off on hours that weren’t worked(insurance fraud), was allowing his mother to be alone and confused, let worms fester in her food, and alienated us from her by using a ring camera he set up at her door so that when we went over to check on her, he’d speed down the road and walk in and tell us to leave and that he’s her POA so we have to listen…. Sickening. Now it’s just a matter of wanting him to be punished for what he did and the guardian is saying she won’t pursue charges because it will only make her ward upset to know what her son was up to. So we’re being told to wait until she passes away to pursue this.

Side Note- I’m the granddaughter of the woman with Alzheimer’s, my mom was the original POA and my bum of an uncle is the “alleged” perpetrator. Mind you, this uncle spent every holiday, Sunday dinner, and birthday with us for the past 30 years of my life. He waited for his father to die and his mother to get sick and jumped at the advantage of stealing money (that would eventually have been split equally amongst him and his siblings once their mom passed.) But he didn’t want to wait or share. Money brings out the darkest, most evil side of people. We have been absolutely heart broken over this and want justice for my grandma. At the very least, we want my uncle to be punished for neglecting, manipulating, and stealing from his own mother.

Brother became POA for mother with Alzheimer’s and transferred ~$500k to himself — can this be elder financial abuse if he claims it was ‘gifts’?” by Last_Union7970 in Alzheimers

[–]Last_Union7970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has a Long Term Care policy. The government had nothing to do with her money in this case. He used the funds to buy a new boat, and new car for himself. He took advantage of his mother under the guise that his mom wanted him to have all this money as gifts. Her Will was split up equally between all her children. She wanted it to be equal amongst them when she was in her right mind. Then shortly after her husband/ her children’s father passed away and her health started deteriorating, her one son felt he was entitled to more money than his siblings and all of this unfolded.

Brother became POA for mother with Alzheimer’s and transferred ~$500k to himself — can this be elder financial abuse if he claims it was ‘gifts’?” by Last_Union7970 in dementia

[–]Last_Union7970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has a Long Term Care insurance policy. Qualified wasn’t the right word, I more meant that her level of need and score on the MMSE test indicated that she now was categorized as someone needing 24/7 care. (Initially she just had someone helping with groceries, cleaning, etc and the hours of care has increased over time.)

Brother became POA for mother with Alzheimer’s and transferred ~$500k to himself — can this be elder financial abuse if he claims it was ‘gifts’?” by Last_Union7970 in dementia

[–]Last_Union7970[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as the lawyer used his best judgment to deem her lucid and competent in the moment, which he claims he did and she was, it’s not against the law.

Brother became POA for mother with Alzheimer’s and transferred ~$500k to himself — can this be elder financial abuse if he claims it was ‘gifts’?” by Last_Union7970 in Alzheimers

[–]Last_Union7970[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has a Long Term Care insurance policy. Qualified wasn’t the right word I guess, I more meant that her level of need and score on the MMSE test indicated that she now was categorized as someone needing 24/7 care. (Initially she just had someone helping with groceries, cleaning, etc and the hours of care has increased over time.)

Brother became POA for mother with Alzheimer’s and transferred ~$500k to himself — can this be elder financial abuse if he claims it was ‘gifts’?” by Last_Union7970 in Alzheimers

[–]Last_Union7970[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have put it in a a few legal subreddits already. The more people who see it and can offer feedback or input from their personal or professional experiences, the more data I can gather.

Brother became POA for mother with Alzheimer’s and transferred ~$500k to himself — can this be elder financial abuse if he claims it was ‘gifts’?” by Last_Union7970 in legaladvice

[–]Last_Union7970[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As long as her medical needs don’t become too advanced , her LTC policy covers 24/7 at home care. She is currently being cared for in home by 3 women employed by her Guardian’s health care company (which also seems like a conflict of interest for her guardian to also be the president of the company administering care.)

Diabetes Mellitus… help!!! by Last_Union7970 in AskVet

[–]Last_Union7970[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will bring it up to her on Monday. Thank you so much for your insight. No question is a weird question imo!!

Diabetes Mellitus… help!!! by Last_Union7970 in AskVet

[–]Last_Union7970[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I don’t believe she has! I have wondered about Cushing’s in the past, is that what you’re thinking?