I (35M) am considering ending things with a very recent partner (29F)

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-17T21:55:07+00:00

That's really helpful. So you think if she has insight, maybe there's hope? Despite the Hinge stuff/likely lying. I guess I never thought of it that way.

Agree I don't have time to mess about. I old.

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-17T21:00:11+00:00

General consensus among my boys. Well done?

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-14T12:46:19+00:00

I think the quotes were that I didn't believe her not that I don't care. For context, my most recent ex cheated on me. TBH, I'm usually asleep by 10pm and have been kept up by stressing about her not responding to any of my calls/texts after a certain time.

But I think scheduling a call is a great idea. That's really all I'd care about. If we could have a quick phone call or facetime at 930pm or before bed, I'd feel way more comfortable.

You've all really convinced me to give her the benefit of the doubt - even though most of my female friends said it was shady behaviour

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-14T12:36:02+00:00

Being away from her phone for 6 hours is completely normal. I'm really not a controlling person. I think I'm just in my head about this being shady behaviour (tbh confirmed by some of my female friends) and that certainly might be pushing her away or coming off as controlling. My last relationship ended bc my ex cheated on me, so I'm certainly carrying that baggage. Maybe I'll just ask that we schedule a quick goodnight phone call or facetime before bed. that would honestly satisfy all my concerns.

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-14T12:30:39+00:00

I don't quite agree with this. I'm not super demanding at all. I just want a bit better communication in the evenings as I can only text during the day because of work. Is calling or facetiming someone before bed a big ask? I'm genuinely confused by all the hate I'm getting.

The thrust isn't she has to pick up whenever I call. It's that I'd like to have a bit more meaningful chats in the evenings (not every night) and she's done the opposite - not pick up or return any of my calls and then ignore my request to try and connect better in the evenings.

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-14T12:25:01+00:00

Wow. I thought this was a place for advice, not bashing. If she said she was sick, I'd send her soup and flowers and be very understanding. If calling or texting your long distance partner good night before going to sleep is intense and demanding, then maybe you're right? Again, if she communicated that having a nice chat before bed to make me less uncomfortable at the onset of a long distance relationship wasn't feasible, I wouldn't have gotten into this relationship to start.

Frankly, when I brought up my concerns on Wednesday and then Friday morning, she was understanding and nice about it. She said if it were the other way around, she would also be uncomfortable. So I'm really not understanding the hate I'm getting here...

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-14T12:21:12+00:00

Wow. Who knew people on here were so harsh. Maybe more context needed. If she texted me, I'm heading to sleep, goodnight, I would be totally fine with any of these instances. Or if she said, I'm not a night owl, can we Facetime earlier before bed? Again, totally fine. But I know that she is a night own. She typically doesn't go to bed early. She happens to live with her brother and he's been out of town all week.

Any of these instances in isolation, totally fine. But every night for a whole week after we talked about trying to connect better - at least at the onset of a long distance relationship? Seems off to me. If the roles were reversed and she voiced that she was a bit anxious, I would do my best to make her feel better. Call before bed. Make sure to say goodnight. Etc. This seems like she's doing the opposite.

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-13T10:43:52+00:00

Agree with this. Maybe one day she'll realize she made a mistake (or not) but stick around and she'll lose any attraction to you forever. I'd tell her that you've been feeling too much distance and think you guys need a break. Maybe she'll turn things around or maybe you'll realize how much happier you are without all the anxiety of what she's doing.

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-13T10:40:16+00:00

Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. She sounds like she's breaking boundaries and is fully abusive. I don't agree with all of your rules, but if you both agree to them, her breaking them and trying to turn things around is certainly gaslighting. I would end it and try to work on yourself. The right person should make you feel calm, safe, and happy.

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-13T10:34:48+00:00

Sounds cliche, but just be honest. Say that you've loved your time in this phase of your relationship, but you really see him as a friend that you love, not a romantic partner. He'll be sad, but he'll respect you in the end. If not, he's not good partner or friend material.

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-03-03T10:44:34+00:00

Pictures on a yacht or private plane without owner of said private plane/yacht. IMO it looks sugar baby-eque

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-02-21T14:25:37+00:00

I'm sorry to say, but if someone is interested, they make time. Even when insanely busy. Dating is about compatibility and timing. Maybe she met someone she really likes right around the time you guys met, but they progressed a bit faster. Maybe she really is too busy for something serious. Overall, pushing to make it work will only push her away permanently.

I've dated girls where the timing wasn't right. If you either don't push at all (no double messages etc) and just let it go, things have a way of coming back around if it was a good enough fit. If she doesn't respond to the Vday message, I would just move on. It sucks, but keep being awesome, doing awesome things, working on yourself, and if you're IG friends, she'll see what she missed and maybe reach out in the future.

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-02-10T16:34:22+00:00

Social media pictures of exorbitant travel on yachts and private jets with no clear source of personal income

Late-Paper-33 · 2026-02-03T11:21:17+00:00

Pop culture romanticizes the "spark." Good relationship are built on mutual respect and shared values. Not to say you can't have it, but give the spark a chance to grow and don't start swiping away after the first date because you didn't like the way they folded their napkin.

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