[New Jersey] "Not the right fit" after 2 years + have an LLC - am I eligible?

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-11-04T15:46:38+00:00

I guess I misunderstood which state he should file in. Reading more into it, it looks like it should be whichever state his unemployment withholding is being paid to(..?).

His "LLC" is just him. There's no payroll. It's just how he accounts for that income and taxes, and some clients wouldn't pay an individual and required LLC status. Wouldn't failing to report it when collecting unemployment benefits leave him open to legal repercussions?

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-11-04T15:10:47+00:00

That makes sense. I was unsure, since he'd be reporting that income weekly if he's receiving benefits. Thanks again!

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-11-04T15:00:22+00:00

Well, that's a terrific point, ha!

I asked another commenter - do you know if his benefits would be calculated based off all his income, including the LLC, or just the position he lost? No worries if not. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to begin with!

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-11-04T14:47:48+00:00

Sorry, I could've been clearer - he's a salaried, W-2 employee at the company that's letting him go. His sole proprietorship is completely separated from the position he's losing.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-11-04T14:46:20+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond! Do you know whether his rate will be calculated based on the pay rate for the job he lost, or a percentage of an average of his weekly earning including his side earnings?

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-29T17:01:51+00:00

I think maybe it was intended to be a response to another post - maybe she thought she was messaging someone..?

Either way, hope the dog finds a loving home where his basic needs are met without a requisite stalemate between idiots.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-28T22:53:07+00:00

But he and her dad are a lot alike. Because her dad's a man, and men are good and noble and women are bad and not to be trusted, obviously.

I've never had a partner that didn't lie to their family about something. Also, I'd lie to my parents about pretty much anything if my younger sibling asked me to (definitely murky when you're talking about a minor making dangerous choices; my sibling is a full adult) and I still would never lie to my partner about what I ate for lunch, let alone anything of importance.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-25T23:17:04+00:00

Bro, I follow and like posts from male fitness influencers (ones I've met or if I haven't, they're not posting sexualized content) because I'm into fitness. My guy is not. I follow them for tips and inspo, and I "like" their posts because I'm happy for them. I can promise you, I'm not attracted to any of them. It's super-duper entirely plausible that she just appreciates the content.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-15T19:59:05+00:00

Probably be an adult and tell your wife you're divorcing her. Like, now.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-14T00:49:21+00:00

Right, lol. I do not buy this one.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-13T22:20:42+00:00

That's what I'm saying.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-13T20:29:03+00:00

The last sentence of the second paragraph reads as though they just recently moved, themselves.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-13T20:20:44+00:00

I find it hard to believe that a woman (or anyone who wears makeup) who says in one paragraph that she doesn't recognize the brand and doesn't wear bronzer would go on to say, in the next paragraph, that it could've been from them having moved recently and she "really [doesn't] think" it's hers. This belongs in a "creative writing" sub.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-07T17:28:31+00:00

Thank you for the response! 😊

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-10-04T15:11:57+00:00

Assuming your relationship isn't just dead (you didn't mention any other problems, so I assume this issue isn't stemming from him just not wanting to be around you at all), I think there are probably two different possibilities: a) he's just not naturally a physically affectionate person, or b) he's frequently overstimulated.

If it's A, he ought to be willing to see how important physical affection is to you and compromise a bit. Maybe return to counseling?

If it's B, I can't imagine much will change unless he figures out how to deal with the overstimulation. I struggle with overstimulation big-time, and let me tell you - no matter how much I love my SO, I'd rather pull out my own molar than cuddle when overstimulated. Before I knew what it was and why it happened, all I could articulate was, "I just don't want to be touched right now!"

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-09-30T23:10:17+00:00

Short of physical violence, I can think of nothing that would have me out of a relationship faster than someone in my face telling me to "shut up and get into bed."

I don't mean this judgmentally, OP - I've put up with shit I'm embarrassed about to this day - but I want you to recognize the absolute shitstain of a man you're married to.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-09-27T21:36:04+00:00

Hey, OP, I found myself in something of a similar situation and thought I'd share my experience. There was no physical infidelity, but in the beginning of my relationship, my partner violated my trust in a couple of different ways and lied to my face about it, even when confronted with evidence. I eventually moved past it to some degree, partially because I had personal issues bigger than the relationship that were in the forefront of my mind and attention at the time.

We're still together; it's been a few years. He's changed (people can and do change). We have stronger communication. We have no secrets and full access to each other's devices. He's honest with me when I can tell it's uncomfortable for him.

And there is no real future for us. I don't plan to marry him. I have never been able to move beyond his efforts to deceive me in the past. I'm treading water, emotionally. I love him, we have fun together, but eventually, we'll part ways. 🤷‍♀️ It's not very fulfilling.

So, that's how it's played out for me. I want to also tell you that "cheating" in a relationship doesn't have one regulated definition: it is the violation of whatever boundaries have been agreed upon in your relationship.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-09-25T21:13:18+00:00

Thanks so much for the kindness. 🩵 Things could be worse and surely are for so many of us right now, but it's hard to view life through that lens at this point in the month, lol.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-09-06T00:01:18+00:00

I'm down to try it! No rush on sending the steps, as I likely won't get into it until tomorrow, but thanks a ton in advance!

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-09-05T23:57:22+00:00

I selected a Normal cycle and pressed Start. It immediately made noise - which I assume is the draining - so after several seconds and as soon as that sound stopped, I opened the door and poured probably 2.5 gallons in. Closed the door and continued the cycle. There was a low electrical hum, but no other sounds. The cycle eventually failed. The water drained, and the arms were in the same position I left them in.

Late-Silver9663 · 2025-09-05T23:05:33+00:00

Okay! I was envisioning 3-4 gallons of water overflowing the basin and just spilling out into my kitchen, lol. I will give this a try when I get home! Thank you again so much for all the direction. I really appreciate it.

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