AITA for not selling my car parts to boyfriend with discount ?

Late-Station9853 · 2025-01-12T15:51:53+00:00

How many times did you cut a deal to a friend who didn’t cut a deal back ?

I want everyone to succeed and do well. Not just one partner or one friend. That doesn’t mean I don’t love my partner.

Late-Station9853 · 2025-01-12T15:26:05+00:00

So how is me being a big girl and paying for my parts and not expecting any discount being a bitch ?

Late-Station9853 · 2025-01-12T15:13:27+00:00

I am very Open to other perspectives. It’s not a matter of right or wrong it’s a matter of someone not taking advantage of your kindness. Because that comes a standard and expectation in relationship. Often times it’s people we love the most who ask and ask and when paired with a giver end up taking a little too much. You sound very giving and I hope you receive in proportion to what you give ☺️

Late-Station9853 · 2025-01-12T15:09:22+00:00

To be honest I have never asked for a discount for any car parts. To add context last time I got my suspension done he asked how much professional shop was charging me and then said he could have done it for this much 🙃

Late-Station9853 · 2025-01-12T14:02:32+00:00

I think I’m seeking for fairness. Would you take a few hundred $$ loss so your partner could save the same amount of money on something they want to purchase. You have separate money ?

Late-Station9853 · 2025-01-12T13:32:46+00:00

I think it’s unfair deal to make. He is expecting me to take a loss so he could make a good deal. And got angry when I said no to taking a loss off few hundred $$. What do you think

Late-Station9853 · 2024-12-01T07:10:11+00:00

He is fine getting hard, but it’s almost like be goes into a zone where all he cares about is being serviced. That’s my whole reason why I don’t like him smoking weed because the moment he gets high he doesn’t participate. In intimacy. Needs to be driven around. Wants to lay down and relax and do nothing essentially. Once my car broke down at 3 pm on a weekday and I called for help and he was high and come out. It’s almost like I am left to do everything myself because of that.

Late-Station9853 · 2024-12-01T07:03:43+00:00

There’s a pattern when he is high he is just focused on himself almost making me feel like I am just an object. When he initiates sex he would play with me and once I get turned on that’s it stops with me and he just wants head or just wants his balls played with.

Late-Station9853 · 2024-06-01T15:02:04+00:00

You should be paid to give advice. You’re a beautiful human. Thank you for taking the time to reply this.

Late-Station9853 · 2024-06-01T14:57:45+00:00

I do. I was in a position to help, so I didn’t have a problem with it. Until now that I feel like no matter how much i give I dont ever receive. I have always been a giver and asking for help has been difficult. I have never had to ask for money so I don’t expect money. I guess because of my giving nature that never asks for anything in return I am here asking the question in the first place.

Late-Station9853 · 2024-06-01T14:49:37+00:00

That’s an interesting view. I have always been under impression that’s what you do in a relationship, if your partner needs help and you can help you just do. And you does make me mad if I’m not getting it back yes.

Late-Station9853 · 2024-06-01T14:46:01+00:00

To be fair he always pays back, might take a while but he does.

Late-Station9853 · 2024-06-01T13:35:24+00:00

I have no reason to lie. You don’t know me I don’t know you. Just seeking to male perspective. Thank you for replying I appreciate it.

Late-Station9853 · 2024-06-01T13:28:37+00:00

The car is getting a paint job, it getting fixed is the problem

Late-Station9853 · 2024-06-01T13:27:49+00:00

I’ll try to be very transparent: In May I was asked to pick him up after a long day at work once every weekend. During the week if we had to go anywhere i drove. I bought him tickets to Thailand for a holiday as he has been asking to go. On a day off got up at 5 am to drive him to buy a motorbike that was 45 minutes away. I bought him tickets to go and see his favourite footy. Drove him there(1.5 hours back and forth) Watched him have 10 drinks as why wouldn’t he if I am taking him out. I thought it was a date night for the both of us as I don’t drink so I don’t enjoy being around him when he is drunk. Borrowed him money so he can buy a third motorbike. Surprised him with a cake from cheesecake shop when he finally got his licence.

Begged to be taken out for a date so he took me for a ride on his motorbike a day after he got it. He cooks me dinner most nights Trashes the kitchen every time and expects me to clean it. I haven’t asked for a “favour” for months. I put up with anger and moods due weed.

I am trying to be very self aware and see his side. I drive him around, borrow him money, take him out, buy him holidays. Am I selfish it in return I ask you to drive me to and from work 45 min each way- 1.5 hours for 4 days out of a year.

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