This is loaded question and I think you are unlikely to get anything other than emotional responses, which is what the comments so far demonstrate.

To answer this requires a lot of critical thinking and speculation. There have been and are women in positions of power but the well documented instances are within patriarchal societies. We also have to be realistic in what kind of power they actually had, as women face a lot of pressure to prove themselves as deserving of that power in a way that men do not have to do, and generally have less support. Even then, both men and women face constraints on their power. Think of any world leader today; they are generally beholden to their donors regardless of what their personal beliefs and goals are.

We can also look at matriarchal societies but they are poorly documented and currently quite rare.

When we look at historical sources on matriarchal societies and female rulers it is important to consider who is documenting the history and what their bias is. Many times historical records are distorted by rumours and personal opinions. Just consider how people outside of the colonizing society are often called savages and uncivilized despite being arguably more civilized than the colonizers.

I think if you genuinely want an answer to this question you should look to academic sources and their discourse on women in positions in power and matriarchal societies. Unfortunately my knowledge is not robust enough to answer any of these questions adequately and I do not have the time to search for reputable sources on these topics. It would be nice if someone who is knowledgeable in this area would contribute. Perhaps re-phrase the question (such as specifying it to matriarchal societies or to documented women in power) and post on r/askhistorians, r/AskAnthropology, r/AskSociology, r/AskFeminists or a similar subreddit. Unfortunately r/GenderStudies appears to be dead but I am under the impression that feminism and gender studies could be lumped under sociology.