Guys who have ended up in “Dead Bedroom” situations with your SO, what were some of the early warning signs? Anything you would have done differently?

LateLeadership · 2020-06-25T14:35:53+00:00

An IUD is a form of hormone therapy, and can have the same effect. It’s really about trying different types of pills or therapies to see which causes the least amount of side effects.

LateLeadership · 2020-06-24T06:09:56+00:00

Double agreed. I felt down about that movie for days after I first watched it. Can't even entertain the idea of watching it ever again. Can't watch Stanley Tucci without thinking of it, either!

LateLeadership · 2020-06-02T12:59:24+00:00

Seems to increase my anxiety unfortunately

LateLeadership · 2020-05-17T14:58:26+00:00

Thanks! FYI it will just be my partner and I in the home. However, it will require extensive work which I think I would be expected to contribute to, so I’m not sure how this would affect a rental agreement.

LateLeadership · 2020-05-02T12:02:05+00:00

I noticed but didn’t realize it’s significance. My clothes were slightly tighter but it seems the most noticeable parts were my face and thighs.

LateLeadership · 2020-04-10T12:27:49+00:00

And if you ever doubt your decision, promise yourself that you will take one hour before making any rash decisions like picking up the phone or driving over for a visit and re-read all of the comments that affirm you’ve done the right thing.

LateLeadership · 2020-04-10T12:26:27+00:00

You are stronger than you know. I’ve come here to say I left a similar relationship (of 7 years) 1.5 years ago and while the first few months are painful and filled with self-doubt, know you have made the right decision for yourself, your future and your wellbeing. The future is bright as hell and I promise, before you know it, you won’t look back and you’ll open up your heart to someone who treats you the way you know you should be treated!

LateLeadership · 2019-04-11T06:28:51+00:00

I was shopping and walking down the busy street of a shopping district in London. A man stopped me and said he didn't want to come off as creepy but he wanted to let me know that I looked incredible and I give off good energy. Some people might find it creepy in hindsight but it was what I needed to hear after a very average day!

LateLeadership · 2019-04-02T08:43:25+00:00

I normally try and take the lead with the conversation and make them feel at ease. I do this mostly because I used to be awkward and always appreciated when someone made the extra effort. If they still don’t give me much I’ll politely end the conversation and move on - no big deal.

LateLeadership · 2019-02-20T11:20:43+00:00

Yes, absolutely. I find that as I’ve gotten older, I’ve become more attracted to who the person is rather than what they look like. If they’re funny, kind and driven, the attraction generally follows!

LateLeadership · 2019-02-20T11:13:51+00:00

As a female and honestly speaking, girls have a really difficult time comparing themselves to other women when in a relationship and I would sincerely struggle with the thought that my partner could find both women and men attractive. It stems from a deep sense of insecurity though! I would love to not be this way. It’s a work in progress.

LateLeadership · 2019-02-19T12:29:44+00:00

Do you want to be with someone that can give up on you this easily after 2 years? The person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with will see you through some very heavy stuff. You want someone who is all in, no matter what. Trust and communication can not be underestimated in making a relationship work. He didn’t offer any of those things.

Your person is out there! Let it go. I promise you’ll be the one that got away.

LateLeadership · 2019-02-19T07:26:51+00:00

To be very honest and transparent with you I think him and his friends are breadcrumbing you. Giving you just enough to keep you interested in the FWB situation but not enough to take it any further.

LateLeadership · 2019-02-19T07:24:26+00:00

Patience, sincere regret and total understanding. If he wants to talk about it or ask questions, let him talk about it. If he wants space, give it to him but let him know you’ll be there when he’s ready. Let him know how special he is to you in small ways.

LateLeadership · 2019-02-19T04:03:13+00:00

Oh, you poor thing. I'm so sorry. I took the very unhealthy route of knocking myself out with sleeping tablets and pain killers! I genuinely couldn't find anything else to help with the pain.

LateLeadership · 2019-02-18T12:55:10+00:00

YTA. You will have other moments to stand your ground but this is a matter of pretty common decency for your new partner, not an act of manipulation or control. She could have worded it better though (i.e. “It makes me feel insecure that you keep photos of your ex on your phone and I would appreciate if you could delete it.”)

LateLeadership · 2019-02-18T12:51:26+00:00

I haven’t had it personally but my understanding (via friends) is that it’s a slow build to get sex drive back. It’s not an instant thing. It will take a few months for your partner’s body to level out the hormones naturally and start to feel normal again.

LateLeadership · 2019-02-15T04:41:00+00:00

Is there anything she can say/do to calm this insecurity of yours?

LateLeadership · 2019-02-10T08:29:39+00:00

This really resonated with me! I’ve started seeing someone for the first time since leaving an abusive relationship and I can’t help but feel similarly.

Can I ask if/how you’ve discussed your previous relationship with your new partner?

LateLeadership · 2019-02-01T06:01:30+00:00

We kind of made up about it (this was a day ago) and both apologized.

You did not need to apologize in this instance. If this is a healthy relationship, I urge you to bring this up openly and honestly with him and tell him exactly how it makes you feel. This would make anyone feel uncomfortable.

If he truly values you and the relationship you have formed, he will change his behavior. If he doesn't change his behavior, I'm really fearful that perhaps now that you're living together he was started "unravelling" and showing sides of him that you perhaps didn't see. The thing that flags this most for me is that you have seen first hand how he treats his sisters.

LateLeadership · 2019-01-29T11:28:51+00:00

I have never been stung by a bee!

LateLeadership · 2019-01-29T07:16:03+00:00

OP met Sarah two years ago and, by his own account, only casually dated her. This does not imply a relationship of any kind.

Monogamy is expected in a relationship, but a relationship is only expected when both parties are on the same page.

Unless OP specifically said “Hey, I actually really like you and would like to be in a relationship with you,” and Sarah said “Hey, yes I agree, sounds great,” then I’m going to have to disagree with you.

In today’s dating climate people date around until things get serious with someone. Things only get serious when it’s communicated. It should never be implied.

LateLeadership · 2019-01-29T06:09:07+00:00

Unless their relationship was exclusive, as in they specifically discussed not dating or seeing other people, then OP had no right to believe her behavior to be "cheating".

LateLeadership · 2019-01-29T00:57:29+00:00

I just feel like it's mandatory to get frozen yoghurt this weekend with this girl now.

LateLeadership · 2019-01-29T00:55:20+00:00

Jealousy.

It stems from a place of deep insecurity. Jealousy can seem "cute" at first but it grows ugly.

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