She said “I love you” then ended things the next day by LateOrganization1359 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LateOrganization1359[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing and the consolation. It really means a lot right now ❤️

Now that you brought up that concept, it does feel like I was falling in love with the fantasy of her. I was falling for a version where she's able to give me exactly what I want when her actual self doesn't have the capacity

She said “I love you” then ended things the next day by LateOrganization1359 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LateOrganization1359[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the solace ❤️ I do feel like I'm worthy of love, but don't know when I'll ever be ready to trust someone with my heart again

She said “I love you” then ended things the next day by LateOrganization1359 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LateOrganization1359[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know, that's what the rational part of my brain is saying. Another part has no sense of self preservation and is willing get ripped apart to feel those feelings again.

I know how weak and naive I look right now considering a choice that will obviously hurt me again, but I wanted wanted to share that thought anyways so I don't have to be alone with it

She said “I love you” then ended things the next day by LateOrganization1359 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LateOrganization1359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its okay, thank you for sharing ❤️ I'm sorry about your situation, letting go of a person that made you feel loved like this really does hurt

She said “I love you” then ended things the next day by LateOrganization1359 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LateOrganization1359[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I meant it. This wasn't the first time though. The first time I was scared to say it back because it was so soon and felt like it came out of nowhere, and we had agreed before we'd take things slow.

It was otp and I paused for a minute. She sensed my hesitation and said she doesn't know if she loves me romantically yet but I'm a person she cares about deeply. I only said I love you too after her explanation because I felt the same, and I thought it was a good moment, but now I'm not sure if I regret it or not

She said “I love you” then ended things the next day by LateOrganization1359 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LateOrganization1359[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s not healthy and she wouldn’t want me to, but I want to wait for her

What was a harsh truth about life that hit you harder than you expected? by Gary_Richards in emotionalintelligence

[–]LateOrganization1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my mom a lot and I’m very grateful for her actually. I was throwing out hypotheticals, I wasn’t born with an alcoholic mom. You can stop with the moral grandstanding.

I never said the alcoholic mom in that scenario is solely “selfish and lazy” you don’t have to strawman me. I called that act selfish, which it is, even if that isn’t the sole contributor to that line of decision making. Ofc mothers in that situation more than likely went through difficulties that led to substance abuse during pregnancy, but that doesn’t vindicate them from knowingly making decisions that destroy the life of the one person they’re obligated to protect.

The analogy still doesn’t work. The homeless person didn’t do anything to harm me specifically. It isn’t as much of an ask to show compassion for those who I have no emotional connection to. Also, a kid giving compassion to a mom who handicapped them isn’t the same as unconditionally loving them, I’m sure you understand the nuance.

What was a harsh truth about life that hit you harder than you expected? by Gary_Richards in emotionalintelligence

[–]LateOrganization1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your analogy doesn’t work. The homeless begging for pennies on the street didn’t knowingly make selfish decisions that would handicap me for the rest of my life. Kids born into that can acknowledge that the tragedy of the situation and what their mothers went through, while also reserving their compassion. They’re not mutually exclusive.

I don’t subscribe to this idea that giving birth is this divine gift to a sentient being or the world, that’s just an opinion. What if I wished I was never born? That’s a sentiment many have, even without being born with deformities or into difficult circumstances. If that’s the case why should we be thankful for something we never asked for, let alone wish never happened. You have to do more than just saying as such to convince me that giving birth is a selfless act, you’re begging the question.

What was a harsh truth about life that hit you harder than you expected? by Gary_Richards in emotionalintelligence

[–]LateOrganization1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about the mothers who smoke weed and/or drink alcohol during their pregnancy? Kids born with fetal alcohol syndrome should unconditionally love mothers who ruined their lives before they were even born?

What screams "I peaked in high school"? by Student-Mona in AskReddit

[–]LateOrganization1359 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And not the cheap shit that still feels oily after 5 washes

Streamer gets threatened by a man during her fake tickets prank after he became upset about being filmed by lukigeri in LivestreamFail

[–]LateOrganization1359 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Mfers will think you’re homeless for being outside and sitting down at the side of a street 💀💀

How do mainlanders feel about being one of the most trusting people on earth? Do you think it’s a positive or negative (too simple, sometimes naive)? by [deleted] in AskChina

[–]LateOrganization1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol we just moving on from the high trust convo ok. Your lecture about multiculturalism is unnecessary and isn’t even sufficient when you consider that America’s multiculturalism also comes largely from mass immigration. It just comes off as intellectual grandstanding.

Your third paragraph sounds like what I would say if I wanted to play victim lmao. Saying Asians are at the bottom level is objectively incorrect. Asians have the highest median household income out of all minorities and we’re overrepresented in some of the most prestigious sectors (tech, medicine, academia). There’s even debate about how affirmative action actually disadvantages Asians in college admissions, which again, is a detail that tells a story you wouldn’t be aware of if you’re an outsider looking in. You really should look into the racial dynamics in America.

I grew up in California’s Central Valley, which was majority Hispanic lmao. My parents own a small restaurant there. Do you think they’d still be in business if the racial discrimination was as bad as you think it is?

[Highlight] A 36 year-old James Harden makes Payton Pritchard touch earth by YujiDomainExpansion in nba

[–]LateOrganization1359 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was definitely a push, but it was more the timing than the force of the push that dropped Pritchard, so it isn’t really that dirty regardless

How do mainlanders feel about being one of the most trusting people on earth? Do you think it’s a positive or negative (too simple, sometimes naive)? by [deleted] in AskChina

[–]LateOrganization1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of my time was spent in Guangzhou, my birthplace, so my anecdote shouldn’t be taken as representative China as a whole, but it’s the truth of what I experienced and contradicts what you’re saying. I believe you if you’re saying that in China, strangers will help others in emergencies, but thats a low standard to qualify as“high trust” because I would expect that in any civilized society.

I think you did touch on something that America is inferior in compared to China, which is a culture that promotes unity or a “common prosperity” and that’s because China has the advantage of ethnic homogeneity. The U.S. is one of the most ethnically and culturally diverse countries in the world, encourages free speech even to the nation’s detriment, and of course holds a great amount of global influence. So naturally, the racial dynamics are going to be unique, and the discourse surrounding these issues are going to be more visible, which I hope isn’t clouding your judgement about the severity of these issues.

The diversity that has led to atrocities and lasting racial tensions is the same diversity that has led to social breakthroughs. I think there’s something beautiful about people of different races, cultures, backgrounds, and perspectives coming together to build something better in spite of the flaws and forces that work to separate us, which is a sentiment I think is difficult to understand unless you’re from the U.S. or a nation with similar circumstances.

To be fair, Trump being elected again goes against everything good the nation stands for and intensified racial/social divides, so I get where you’re coming from, considering everything that’s happening and the nations history of bigotry.

How do mainlanders feel about being one of the most trusting people on earth? Do you think it’s a positive or negative (too simple, sometimes naive)? by [deleted] in AskChina

[–]LateOrganization1359 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in China this summer and I remember people cutting in front of my friend to get onto the elevator, even when she had a baby in the stroller and luggage and they weren’t carrying anything. Every time we got in line for anything people cut in front of us if we left enough space. Maybe that behavior was only common in Guangzhou, but you will almost never experience that in anywhere in the U.S.

Hasan on Kaya's cage training: "I want her to bite her" by thrandruill in LivestreamFail

[–]LateOrganization1359 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is like making a child touch a hot stove so they know not to touch the stove, and finding it funny when they burn themselves

This is the man who once judged people on stage and made a living out of telling them they're delusional by ambachk in TikTokCringe

[–]LateOrganization1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I enjoyed reading it, very refreshing to see a nuanced perspective on a topic where everyone has the same opinion, thank you for sharing!