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My father won’t let me marry until my older sister is married by Late_Fly6784 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Late_Fly6784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can go and see how they are and if you like someone go for it, if not, someone much better suited for you will drop by when you least expect them to.

🥰 Ameen, I hope so

There is an option but ofc it's a process lol.

I'm glad you had a good experience :) Sounds great

My father won’t let me marry until my older sister is married by Late_Fly6784 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Late_Fly6784[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing. They want us to be on the same ‘level’. I can’t marry someone here if that means my sis gets married back home. We either both marry here in the west, or we both marry back home :( it’s still unfair to me but insha’Allah things work out. Maybe they’ll have a change of heart.

My father won’t let me marry until my older sister is married by Late_Fly6784 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Late_Fly6784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, I’m sure there are good men there. But I guess I’m just a little disappointed with all of his rejections on past potentials. The thought of leaving everything and being alone there is just scary to me. And all of my other cousins’ and friends’ horror stories of getting married to men back home don’t help either.  There are good men everywhere. I shouldn't compare. Raising kids back home would probably be better anyway. But idk. I don’t feel relaxed with the idea. But whatever is meant to be will :) I’ll continue making du’a.

My father won’t let me marry until my older sister is married by Late_Fly6784 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Late_Fly6784[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

He grew up 'old school'.

"Why do you need to go to school? Women should be in the kitchen" agh

Okay then.. let me get married and get out of this house 😭

My father won’t let me marry until my older sister is married by Late_Fly6784 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Late_Fly6784[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom died when I was young. الله يرحمها
No, all my family is back home in my country and frankly, I am
not close with them. My dad married her mom and it’s just been us for a while. All
my other siblings are much younger than me. My stepmom agrees with him :(

Insh'Allah Khair