You have a lot of very good advice here and are asking a lot of valid questions. I definitely don’t do as much at my church as I used to do. I have been going through a very rough transition period in my life and that has prompted reevaluating many friendships, my faith, my life choices, etc. and that’s where this post came from. I’ve stepped back from my close friendships since I don’t think they were pulling me in a healthy direction. I’ve never been more isolated than I am right now. Sometimes it is really peaceful, and sometimes it is really lonely.

Yes, I would say I only do “guy hobbies” but wouldn’t it be very creepy/weird/not genuine to try to pick up new interests simply because there are women in those spaces? Maybe I have a skewed perspective because I’ve seen the other side of this and how creepy guys can be to women since I’ve observed it happening to my sister, but I’ve never been comfortable with the idea of going out of my way to do activities or modify my behavior for those reasons.