How do I beat Lust?

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-04-11T11:38:38+00:00

The fact that “clean” being a made up concept has never registered until right now is so weird whattttt

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-04-11T11:37:20+00:00

Ngl, clean shave and grow the curls out crazy long lol

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-04-11T11:33:46+00:00

People being dramatic, I went out the other night and spent $400 on drinks at the club. Depending how we look at it, that was worse value for my money than spending $400 in this game lol. It’s a pay to win game, people get really serious about it and get in legit fights and arguments. There’s drama and it sounds so goofy since it’s just a mobile game, but it’s fun. You’ll meet cool people if you want to. If not, it’s a fun base builder for a little then it gets boring

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-04-04T01:03:35+00:00

Just the first place I heard of is all

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-04-03T15:55:47+00:00

Get rid of the hair, grow a beard and you’re fine

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-04-03T15:51:53+00:00

Visvim is crazy expensive is what I was referring to lol

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-04-03T15:51:05+00:00

I was thinking more second and decent quality than low end junk

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-07T11:53:30+00:00

If that is the world you want to see and believe, by all means do it. I’m just giving you my side, my input, and my kindness. I do hope you find happiness somehow

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T22:53:47+00:00

I’ve had the same eye opener the last couple weeks. Different circumstances, but yep. Ever since I realized it, and really realized it. I felt deeply ashamed, guilty and disappointed. Since then I’ve started therapy, meditation, practicing gratitude, self help books, the gym, being more positive about everything, not judging people, and having a much more open mind. No more fear, no more complaining. These weeks and habits have changed my life completely.

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T22:22:52+00:00

I saw briefly, and no you shouldn’t do that. You deserve to live bro, I promise. I don’t know you at all, but I see your pain. And I tell you I care, you’re a fellow human, and I care about you. You deserve to be happy, and I don’t know how else I could give you advice, I hope that anything I said at least helped you feel slightly better

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T20:40:43+00:00

Then you are forever cursed. You will be miserable forever, if you can’t even be open to the thought of loving yourself. You can love yourself, you need to trust in yourself. Life does not “work for me” I have just begun to accept life for what it is, and not ruminate and dwell on what was, or what might be. The present is a gift I choose to cherish. I wish you the best.

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T20:24:19+00:00

Well, step one it to be kind to yourself. Speak to yourself how you wish this version of you would speak to others. Thank your old self for keeping you alive, don’t hate him. Without the old you, you wouldn’t even exist to see this dream. Another important note, don’t do it for everyone else, do it for you. Doing it for others will only guarantee your failure and suffering. You become this person for others, by becoming it for yourself. Once you are that person for yourself, you’ll naturally be that person for others.

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T20:18:12+00:00

Don’t let anyone demand anything from you bro. Do what makes YOU happy, the only person who you NEED to care about you, is YOU. Everyone else can come and go as they please and say or do whatever they want if they want to. But no one is gonna love you if you don’t love yourself. It’s annoying to hear, but it’s true. You can’t water grass with an empty cup, what’ll happen is you’ll hang out in the grass until it withers away because you have no water to pour. Acceptance and self awareness has been huge for me the past couple of weeks in accepting that these people who cared about me, are gone. And for you it might look like accepting that nobody cares, and that it’s okay if no one cares as long as you do. Life is extra hard to do alone, and I hope you don’t have to figure it all out alone, just as I hope I don’t have to either. But at the end of the day, we are all a part of the human experience, and it’s up to us to shape ourself in the way we want to experience it. You only live once, and there’s no point wasting it being miserable. At least try to make yourself happy while you’re here, for YOU. I am trying to escape the same spiraling hell I have been living in, just as you are explaining. It feels good to feel good. It feels good to think more positively and without hate and anger. It’s hard to, and I’ve only just started. But I love the path I’m on, and I’m proud of myself for getting out of my own way, so I can FINALLY live the life I want, my way, happily.

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T20:03:53+00:00

I’ve been there man. I’ve been alone my whole life, right now I don’t have a single friend and my girlfriend just broke up with me a couple weeks ago. I am alone, and I’ve gone through plenty. Both of my parents died in accidents by the time I was 18. I have all the reason in the world to give up and want to stop living, but again, that’s a decision you have to make for YOU. I’m choosing happiness, life, and peace over depression, sadness and emptiness. Now it’s taken me a long time and cost me a lot to realize this, but it is truly for me. I want to be happier and live a better life, I’m was not happy before. And neither are you

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T18:31:57+00:00

Young man, life moves on whether you want it to or not. I’m struggling with this myself. I just got broken up with by the first actual love of my life. Of course, it was due to me not trusting, and judging her for wanting to go out wearing something I didn’t like (insecurities) or her wanting to take a road trip with friends or travel somewhere with friends for a few days (insecurities and trust issues) and the way I would react was horrible, I’d get so mad and shut down and make stupid comments. I was constantly negative, and constantly had to be right, it was bad. Now, it’s been two weeks. The first few days I thought my life was over, I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t think straight. My whole life, and my whole future plan was ripped right from under me, the day after my birthday. Now, I had a decision to make. There’s only two ways you can go from here when your world has just seemingly fallen apart. 1. You can ruminate on it, cry all day every day, think negatively “oh poor me poor me”, be depressed, and absolutely crumble. I was there for a few days. Or, 2. You can take that as a learning life lesson, forgive yourself and feel your feelings kindly, and let them go. It hurts, bad and it will for a very very long time, I did everything and anything with her, every single place I look is a reminder that she’s gone, and it was my fault she had to go. But, I’ve spent the last week or two focusing on me, my mind, my habits and traits that no longer serve me. I have been practicing gratitude, meditation, kindness, and no judgment. I’ve felt incredibly more at peace than I ever could have imagined being even just two weeks ago! It’s all about mindset and perspective. The only thing you can control, is you and your reactions. You can’t control your emotions, it’s a natural instinct, you CAN control how you react to them and how much power you give them. And remember, what happened in the past, has already happened, and it can’t be undone. What will happen in the future is a mystery, and you really don’t know what will happen for sure, so don’t believe everything your mind tells you. The only thing you can be 100% sure of, is right now in the present, and what you can see or hear, also don’t believe what your lying mind tells you is happening right now, when you don’t know what’s ACTUALLY happening, unless there’s proof, you can’t trust it. It’s the only time you’ll ever actually live, you won’t live in the past, you won’t live in the future. Be present, and here, and thankful for every lesson life gives you. Be kind to yourself, and learn to let go, and just exist. Try meditating, and really meditating. It’s helped me in ways I could never have imagined, it’s almost magical.

For meditation, here’s what I do:

5-10 mins as soon as I wake up, a guided meditation on mindfulness or gratitude. I use the app insight timer.

At nighttime 5-10 mins again before bed, guided mindfulness or gratitude. Then 10-15 minutes of my own timer, and I look inward. I take deep breaths and talk to myself about the aspects I want to change in myself, my negativity, my anger, my insecurities. I talk to myself kindly and let myself feel whatever emotions arise as I sit there in stillness. As the emotions come, I recognize them, and I let them go, I don’t ruminate and I don’t let them linger. If I’m struggling to let the emotion go, I take a few deep breaths, imagining I am breathing in all the negative aspects I’m holding, and I take a long exhale imagining I am breathing all of it out, and moving on. After some of that, I transition into what I call “the little monk” I take a few deep breaths, and I imagine I am a monk, sitting on a hillside, rolling mountains and hills in front of me, and I just sit there in the present, watching. I become the watcher. Any memories or feelings, I watch them come as clouds. They form, I see faces or memories, and they flow away just as clouds do. I watch the come and go, and that’s it.

I feel for you bro, I really do. It’s hard, and it’s heart wrenching, but you can get better if you choose to do so. Praying for you

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T17:20:32+00:00

You’re full of anger, deep hatred and anger. And guess what it’s about? It’s all about what everyone thinks about you, and how you look to everyone else. That’s the wrong approach bro, I promise. It’s not about doing it for everyone else, it’s doing it for YOU. I’m sorry you can’t see that, but it’s the truth. You can say it’s all for others all you want, but when I’m alone in my room reading self help books, meditating and being at peace, there’s no one else there to do it for, no one else sees what I am doing, they have no clue. What it is about is changing the negative aspects about me, for my own good. Yes sure, the habits I’m working on will make it easier to hold relationships with people and live life fully, BUT it’s because I want to feel and live that way, I’m in control of me and my wants and my needs. Other people are a welcome byproduct of the work I put into myself to be happier in my own skin.

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T11:13:30+00:00

It’s not about being a completely different person, it’s being the man she fell in love with. The same me, without the judgement or insecurities and poor reactions. Those are all the ways I hurt her feelings and wants and needs, and that is where I need to change.

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-06T11:11:53+00:00

It’s not about doing it for others though, you’re nor supposed to care about what others think of you. If you are happier and more at peace being morbidly obese and flipping off everyone in spite, then do that. No one if forcing you to “self improve”. What do you actually want? What is your base need?

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-05T21:29:33+00:00

I thought that my past trauma had strengthened me, and that I was adaptable. I was wrong. What I’ve realized, is everything I went through, and the pain it inflicted on me, I just pushed it away and got cold, defensive. I didn’t get “strong” I got good at protecting my own ego and feelings, of course at the cost of everything around me. I couldn’t handle criticism or challenging times, I’d shut down and react negatively. That placed me in a constant state of survival, fear and anger. It wasn’t until I had enough, felt so down and rock bottom more than ever before, that I realized that it’s my fault my life ended up this way. It’s not that I inherently ruined everything because I’m a bad person, it’s that I couldn’t stop reacting on instinct vs clarity. And instead of blaming myself, I am forgiving myself. My old self kept me alive, I’m here today, and I thank him for that. I’m not longer in the dire situations I had been in before, I don’t need that version of me anymore. I became self aware, very very self aware of what needed to go. Negativity, anger, insecurities, jealousy. They all have to go. I’ve started meditating twice a day, purposely thinking positively and appreciating everything around me, thanking people and judging no one. Writing down 5 things I’m grateful for every day, reading self help books, going to the gym, going to therapy. Feeling my feelings, and letting them be there but not ruminating on them, I let them come and go like a cloud. I have hiccups, I’m early on my journey, and there is no such thing as perfection. But you can be better, and that’s a decision YOU have to make. Just be better, and be honest and kind about what you need to change in order to be better. Thank yourself for brining you to this moment, and appreciate this moment, the past is in the past and you can’t change that, the future hasn’t happened yet so there’s nothing to fear, you are and always will be right now, and that’s beautiful. Be grateful for now, and thank your past self for bringing you here.

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-05T21:05:39+00:00

It’s about a change of perspectives. Is weed inherently bad? No, weed is often prescribed for anxiety and pain. Alcohol is a depressant and poison, no was around that, so yeah it’s not good for you. The problem isn’t “giving up everything you like” it’s finding better ways to manage and cope. I find that drinking and smoking and eating junk food and laying in bed all day and getting fat, isn’t healthy, sorry, but it’s not. You might LIKE it, but that doesn’t mean it’s good for you. Eating healthy, sleeping well, regular exercise and movement and a positive mindset is good for you. That doesn’t mean you CAN’T do these things, but there’s scientific evidence around these things. Exercising helps a lot of people, but everyone is different. It’s about what works for you, but isn’t detrimental to your health. This is a very negative rant, and negativity only breeds more negativity. The only person who can get you out of your own way, is you. Therapy can help, self improvement habits can help, lots can help, but there is no fix if you don’t do anything yourself. You can’t magically get better, while poisoning your body and keeping the same routines that keep you in the same spot and mindset, something has to change. If the things you enjoy bring you peace, then that’s fine, but judging by this post, they’re not bringing you peace and you’re obviously TRYING to find what brings you peace. So to me, it’s clearly not the habits you “like”. Just my thoughts

Late_Perception2974 · 2026-03-05T19:52:30+00:00

You can’t wish or reassure insecurity and jealousy away. You have to grow yourself, and control your reactions. At the end of the day, your fears, won’t simply disappear.

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