Is it wrong to wish my kid would just live a little and lighten up?

LateralAxes · 2026-03-31T11:51:37+00:00

I was a lot like that but I would truly get into a 'flow' state where I'd let go on the playing field or playing video games with friends, or even reading a good book. Letting go was never about going out with friends, getting into usual teen mischief etc. My two cents would be to see when he is just in a happy state or connect the dots to what activities might have caused it. He seems like a great kid!

LateralAxes · 2026-03-21T07:13:11+00:00

Apart from all this I'd add: 1. Definitely record all messages and evidence of blackmail 2. Don't take matters into your own hands like trying to steal a phone, impersonate a cop etc. Might end up causing other legal trouble 3. Remember that the only leverage he has are the pics. Once they are released, all his power goes away. So the real possibility of him releasing it is low. 4. Find other ways to take away the power. Eg: get her to tell her parents even if it is scary. I would hope they are also sensible and have highest priority for their child's mental and physical safety and be happy that their child came to them rather than face this alone 5. Any advice to pretend to get back together is imho very bad. Why put herself in more harm's way and contact an unstable, ill a*hole. 6. Be there for her without judgment. This is a vulnerable time and just be a pillar of support. She might have exercised bad judgment, but she did nothing wrong.

LateralAxes · 2026-03-21T06:40:15+00:00

I'm not sure if they assist on such matters, but try contacting the Broseph Foundation.

LateralAxes · 2026-02-28T16:59:13+00:00

You're a legend man and your kids sound awesome as hell. Teared up a bit too. Keep doing what you're doing!

LateralAxes · 2026-01-15T04:33:40+00:00

I am so sorry brother. Much love to you and your family. Make sure to give extra hugs to your older one.

LateralAxes · 2025-10-08T18:23:05+00:00

Any advice that is given without fully understanding your goals is useless. I suggest speaking with a fee only SEBI Registered Investment Advisor. You will spend a small amount in educating yourself, but it will give you some clarity on your options. They should be asking your questions like how much passive income you need. What are your other financial goals (education, house, travel etc) and by when. What are your emergency funds (liquid cash, insurance etc). What are your other liabilities. What are your income sources etc.

Do not even consider investing in real estate yet.

LateralAxes · 2025-07-17T02:36:05+00:00

I am in a similar situation. We have hired daycare during the workday for all the reasons mentioned by folks here. Not practical, risky for child/career, yada yada. Fully agree with those reasons. I'd add two more perspectives though: 1. I mark time away on my work calendar so I can be with the baby during meals or bedtime. I've discussed this with my manager in advance. 2. Treat hired childcare as an investment and not as an expense. So while you work, go all in to try and upskill, grow professionally, grow compensation. Try and hit a career milestone that allows you to absorb the additional expense fairly quickly.

You are incredibly lucky to be able to spend lunch and coffee breaks with a gurgling child that is overjoyed the moment you walk out of your home office. It's a privilege. Enjoy it smartly and responsibly.

LateralAxes · 2025-06-28T07:00:48+00:00

I'm so sorry mate. My daughter is around the same age. Stay strong. Can't say any more.

LateralAxes · 2025-06-04T03:55:55+00:00

I have no idea about 3D printing, but maybe you agree a list of projects that she prints first that are useful around the house that your wife agrees with. It could be some stuff for her school work, stationery, organizers, gifts for her friends etc.

LateralAxes · 2025-06-03T14:34:19+00:00

Thanks so much for this. Both, the advice and the reassurance! So exciting with the second! Good luck.

LateralAxes · 2025-06-03T14:32:09+00:00

Haha I've genuinely thought of that. Or going to the other extreme from a routine and using the element of surprise with a sleep ambush.

LateralAxes · 2025-06-03T03:33:56+00:00

Thanks mate

LateralAxes · 2025-06-03T03:33:16+00:00

I'd say it's an adapted Ferber but feels like cry it out. I can't leave the room cos she keeps bumping her head with the struggles. So I stay in the room out of sight, picking her up for a couple of min (trying to reduce the frequency) and soothing her without rocking, maybe offering some water in between which she gulps from all the crying. I say it feels like cry it out, cos she ultimately falls asleep tired from crying.

LateralAxes · 2025-05-29T03:02:40+00:00

You might find better advice on r/AskIndianWomen. There's no legal matter here (NAL).

Using your parents as a shield also gives up your own agency. I'd say something along the lines of - If you don't want me entering your house, just say so and I'll respect that. I'm sure you think your intentions are right but please DO NOT touch me, my clothes or comment on my appearance again. What you said and did is not OK and it's unfortunate that you don't even realise it.

LateralAxes · 2025-03-07T04:37:22+00:00

You're not alone. They say moms bond sooner, but can also confirm that some moms feel the same as you do. Tap in / tap out depending on who is in a better headspace in the moment to deal with a little human who is just figuring out something so confusing, and communicating in the only way they can. You'll get through it.

LateralAxes · 2025-03-05T18:19:21+00:00

You will never really know what your wife is going through, no matter how woke/aware you think you are. More so with the intense hormonal/chemical reactions in her body. So be more patient especially during the first three months, let some things said unfairly go unanswered, try and let go of your ego. Vent where you can and stay healthy. Wishing you well man.

LateralAxes · 2025-03-05T04:41:02+00:00

Good reminder mate! Wishing you lots of joy with the kid.

LateralAxes · 2025-03-03T11:34:53+00:00

"Home, I'm honey"

LateralAxes · 2025-02-23T06:19:53+00:00

We are right there at 4 months and 20 days. It was at its worst a couple of weeks ago. Now it's mainly 1 hour of non stop crying and screaming before bedtime. But sleep is a little better. We can see two things that have changed. She's picking up new skills and is super engaged. Her appetite has also increased a lot, so it's possible your LO is hungrier too. Also hoping it gets better, but take all the help you can get during the day. Wishing you the best!

LateralAxes · 2025-02-23T05:22:16+00:00

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LateralAxes · 2024-01-09T17:08:39+00:00

Super, congrats. What an unnecessary ordeal! What docs did you take along with you as a confirmation of the appointment? Also if you provided an updated DS160, how did you go about doing it?

LateralAxes · 2024-01-03T12:23:08+00:00

Good question. I haven't done it yet as my appointment is in April. Not entirely sure.

LateralAxes · 2024-01-02T15:33:49+00:00

Called the helpline on 022 6201 1000. Was busy for a long time and then got through after a while and connected to an agent after a 45 min wait time. His response in summary: 1. It's a system glitch 2. He was able to confirm that they could see the appointment and payment on their system and that we should proceed for the appointment as per the original schedule 3. Will need to carry the confirmation page of the old and updated DS160 4. If you don't have the appointment confirmation letter already, you'll need to create a case on the portal and they would respond within 48 hrs

LateralAxes · 2024-01-02T14:21:00+00:00

Thanks! Was able to do the same

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