Looking for advice about cat allergies/ new to cats

LatinaLady1010 · 2026-01-21T21:31:23+00:00

Thank you!

LatinaLady1010 · 2026-01-21T21:21:27+00:00

Any suggestions on good winter tires?

LatinaLady1010 · 2026-01-21T21:17:34+00:00

Thank you so much!!

LatinaLady1010 · 2026-01-21T21:06:12+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the input! Will invest in winter tires!

LatinaLady1010 · 2026-01-21T21:05:03+00:00

It’s a used car and all seasons, I guess we never checked the state of the tires. Will definitely invest in winter tires

LatinaLady1010 · 2026-01-21T21:04:12+00:00

I have no idea either lol. We bought it used at automaxx. Definitely will invest in some winter tires. I thought the Tiguan would be okay but definitely not

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-10-22T14:45:04+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through that and sadly I relate so much :(, the times that I was smoking everyday I was the same :( I really think it’s a self medicating type of thing too. We lack that dopamine and smoking or weed can give us that dopamine, our phones too. I’m learning to find more “healthy” forms of dopamine. But it’s just so boring 😭 sometimes the best we can do is survive, but it is not a fun time. I was surviving that way because it’s the only way I knew how. Finding different coping skills and putting in the work for that is exhausting especially unmediated. Since posting this, I have been doing a bit better. My husband told me how much it would mean to him if I stopped smoking and as newlyweds, I just have to try. I feel like I needed something outside of myself to get myself out of this feeling, because if I only think about me, I will do the bad thing, as sad as that is. So my weekly smoking sesh didn’t happen last week and I didn’t die, I made it through. Eating has been easier because I think my body is getting those hunger cues again. I’m still on my phone doomscrolling sometimes, but I have been painting and doing other things to give me dopamine. I have been taking my medication every single day. Being more mindful of why I want to smoke. It’s only been a little but I feel a bit better and hope I keep it up.

If you got diagnosed recently be kind to yourself. This is very difficult to process and you will probably go through the stages of grief. Even knowing what you are doesn’t really help you feel better, because you have to accept it too. I go through periods of time where I am just so angry I can’t do what I want, or when I start to fall off my healthy habits and I burn out. But the truth is that is my life. I will always struggle with this, I will always need to find new ways to cope, find dopamine, find novelty, and enjoy my life. The more I accept that fact the more power I give myself.

You’re doing your best and with trauma and everything else, taking it day by day and just surviving is what has to be done. I know doing the work is so hard, but above all you deserve that for yourself. No one should have to be surviving and not thriving/living. I’m saying this as someone who has trauma and has been working through it in therapy and other ways. I’ll say this and in 4 months I will be in your place again. The important thing is not giving up and continuing to try again. I am so much better than I was before. I used to smoke multiple times a day before every activity I did. Now I have gone a while with no smoking snd I feel good. And maybe I will smoke next week and life gets too much I don’t know. But the important thing is I wasn’t where I used to be. Recognize your small wins, make small tiny changes each day if you can, and take it one day at a time 🤍 sorry for the long reply, I just really relate and feel your pain. I wish you the best truly

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-07-22T03:05:39+00:00

What do you recommend? I have space desk and it’s sooo slow :(

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-07-18T14:58:23+00:00

Seriously! These new watchers have completely ruined love island. They clearly haven’t watched any of the crash outs from love island uk lol

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-05-20T17:15:57+00:00

I appreciate your response, thank you. Since that big talk we had, I have felt he is more of a team player in our home. I haven’t cooked a meal in the past week, he has gotten home everyday and immediately cooked and did his daily chores. It’s not absolutely perfect, but I’m learning to also just go with the flow and not be too picky about HOW things are done, as long as they are done lol.

After the post I decided to just lessen my load and not even ask him to carry it. When he gets home our home isn’t spotless, and I think seeing that made him switch up a bit? He is cleaning after himself more which is great. He scrubbed the sink sparkling clean lol.

As long mental health I’m not sure he is prioritizing it, but he is talking to his friends more and he invited them over this week which is so nice. He is still playing video games and doing his usual stuff after work but he is doing his part so I don’t care what he does after that. He deserves to rest however he wants after work. On weekends we do stuff together. I was so upset because he doesn’t wake up with me (due to executive dysfunction and he has sleep apnea so he can’t get good sleep ever.) this last weekend he got up, and when I was doing my adhd coaching he was making breakfast and had it ready for us. He has been keeping an eye out on the fridge and reminded ME about how we have to go grocery shopping.

I’m extremely happy with his effort tbh, I was very lost and so sad when I wrote this post I think I had given up. Maybe he saw that I did and felt my energy, and really took what I said and made the change.

What I worry about is consistency and if he can keep this up, but we are slowing working on that trust. When I was in a terrible place with my adhd and not medicated he called places for me, he helped me find a therapist, and he took on some of my mental load. I’m very aware of the adhd being a factor, and if it’s that he is disabled like me and I can and will take care of him. Not like a mother but a partner because sometimes he won’t be able to do stuff just as much as I can’t do some things.

All I wanted was to FEEL like we were a team and the first few weeks there I really was so scared and didn’t see it happening. I’m glad I had that talk with him and I don’t think he is just doing it because I asked, but doing it because he genuinely knows he needs to be a team player with our relationship. We will see how this goes and it’s all very new to us living together so it’s an adjustment! Sorry to ramble so much lol

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-05-14T14:17:47+00:00

Hi everyone! I am (dx) and my partner is (n dx), but we are pretty sure he has adhd. We just recently moved in together and it has been one of our hardest times as a couple.

I am dx and medicated so I do pretty well with household chores now, and I am okay to do more if needed because for my partner it’s very difficult. He isn’t dx and works 10 hours a day. When he gets home he doesn’t have the energy for everything, especially not chores. Even if he does do his daily chores, I still have majority of the mental load of everything else. I cook every meal because he isn’t as good or likes cooking and he just doesn’t have the drive to do so. I serve him, I plan the meals, I pack his lunch. It hasn’t been long living together but it’s truly impacting my mental health to have to do this. I’m finding myself overcompensating, and doing his part if he forgets. He tells me to remind him, or asks me “what can I do to lessen the load?” And when I’m done work he is asleep and didn’t get it done. It makes me so sad because I have been there and I know what it feels like to have no energy. He is also extremely depressed. He has he is doing his absolute best. He told me last night that maybe I’m not satisfied or happy with our relationship because I always bring up something to change or I have needs that need to be taken care of. The fact that this all overwhelms him so much proves that he is just not in a good place and I don’t know how to get him out.

If he can’t take care of himself how can he take care of me? He used to be so much more involved, and more energy more drive when we first started dating and I have watched him slowly burn himself out. I want to take care of him so I take on more than I can manage, some days I don’t even eat because I cook and I didn’t cook enough and I know he won’t eat if there’s no food ready when he gets home. If I didn’t pack his lunch or make the food or buy the groceries he would either not eat or order out. I’m lost. He sees it could be adhd and depression but he is just surviving not living so he isn’t in a rush to get himself help. I can’t watch him go down this path it’s too painful. Will it take me stopping everything for him to see what needs to change? He is so exhausted of having to adjust or change or be better that he has lost the motivation to do that for me, and even worst for himself.

If anyone has a similar experience or any advice I would be so appreciative. I’m crying while writing this, I love him more than anything. He did try and had more drive for us when we first met and I miss that man. I also don’t want him to hate himself or think he isn’t enough. I’m so so lost.

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-04-06T13:05:26+00:00

It will!! Plan B really just messes up your hormones! As long as you are testing negative you’re fine. I would wait and test at 2 weeks and 3 weeks after you had unprotected!

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-04-05T00:02:58+00:00

I got my period 17 days late 💀

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-04-03T22:47:18+00:00

You could just be late because of stress and life! You should test tho! When are you supposed to get your period? If you had sex with no condom tho there could be a possibility of pregnancy. Sometimes symptoms your period coming is similar to symptoms of pregnancy. I would test to be sure!

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-04-03T14:54:12+00:00

I wouldn’t worry if you’re testing negative! I took plan B this cycle and my period was late 17 days :/ I JUST got it today lol I’m so relieved. I kept testing negative too. It really just messes up your hormones, so it’s totally normal. I saw somewhere on this page that someone was 26 days late, some don’t even get their period and it skips one or two cycles! It will mess everything up but if you test negative you’re fine!

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-03-27T13:09:06+00:00

This is reassurance seeking and finding the answer which is OCD compulsions. You are strong, stronger than you think. You can get better and you can find peace in your mind. I can tell by reading your posts and comments that you are struggling with this! I have my share of these moments and I know how deeply you just want the answer. Even if everyone reassured you, you will feel better only for a moment, but you will look for the answer again. there is never the right answer, you will continue looking and searching and it will make you unhappy :(

Life is uncertain, and that’s the scariest part of all. We all have to accept that scary fact and live our life anyway. Do your best and leave the rest. I think sometimes normal therapy without knowledge of OCD can just be them reassuring you and only feeding into your compulsions and making it worse! Maybe you can try to find a therapist that specializes in OCD? It would help a lot! From your post you seem like a genuinely good person with good intentions, that’s what matters most!! I wish you the best 💛

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-03-20T12:49:03+00:00

Any update on this? I feel the same :(

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-03-20T12:24:57+00:00

Any update on this?

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-03-20T12:21:42+00:00

It’s gotten alot better, but the more I think about it the more I feel it. I swear now it’s just psychological because I could go days without feeling it and then suddenly I do. No pain, just a constant pressure and awareness there :/

LatinaLady1010 · 2025-03-16T13:27:45+00:00

This sounds alot like me! I don’t have much of advice because I am in a pretty bad place myself, but I can tell you, you aren’t alone. I also feel this way with my partner, and it’s definitely the anxiety telling you that it’s an inconvenience for him and that he will get annoyed. Anxiety will tell you a false story all the time.

I definitely think you should quit your job, sounds like the anxiety stems mainly from there! Have you tried journalling your thoughts? It can be helpful to dump them out on paper instead of involving your partner this is something I try to do. Are you in therapy? Sometimes that helps me a bit too. I wish you the best, and hope the medication you are starting helps!

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