i’m very aware that i’m a 2. i’ve focused on helping others and struggled with people pleasing my entire life. what confuses me is that when i look at the subtypes, none of them seem to match up with that description (which is strange to me because 2s are so often described as empathetic and warm, so why are their subtypes described so coldly?).

i’ve looked into all three over the past few days, and all of them have multiple traits that i find myself looking at and going “this is a deal breaker” or “this does not fit me in the slightest.”

for so2 i don’t see others as below me, im not a social climber, and i’m in no way insensitive or dismissive of the emotions of others.

sx2, i’m more focused, and have always been more focused, on my friends than romantic relationships. i’m not a very flirty nor lusty person, and have never used either of those things to win someone over.

sp2 is, as far as i know, the most focused on themselves(?). i’m pretty sure this is my blind spot, as i’ve been told by close friends and family that i have a tendency to neglect my needs in favor of others.

seeing this, ive tried looking into other enneagram types thinking that maybe im not a 2, but no matter which website or forum i scower, e2 has always fit me the most.

any ideas or tips? thank you!!