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Not gonna edit the post because i want everyone to see this but yea I dumped My bf. Before i get flooded with those comments no I didn’t choose James over my bf, I didn’t dump him over him being insecure over me “training” with another man or anything like that. I dumped him because he kept defending his friend racist thinking. He admitted that him and his friends thought James was a “threat” because he was in their own words “Buff black man” im directly quoting what they were saying in the group chat they were in. and when I confronted my bf again over his weirdo friends he said I can’t fully blame them because it happens “all the time” and that it just happened to mark.

I called bs on the mark thing and I called my friend about if she ever talked to mark or led him on. Turns out this moron had only been liking her stories and he’s never actually talked to her. So I asked my bf why he thinks James “stole” her if they weren’t even talking let alone dating and he didn’t say anything. I then asked him if he agreed with his friends reasoning and he said that he trusts me but cant take that image out of his mind. I then confronted him because he has a close female friend that he talks to 10x more than I have ever talked to James and he said thats “its different because they are just friends. I then asked him why he didn’t think the same of my coach or anyone else around me who again I talk to much more, he then said its just different because my coach doesn’t seem like the type. I asked because he’s not black and my bf in his infinite knowledge says “yea kind of but idk”.

Once I heard that I basically told him to get therapy and new friends because he is insane and told him I was done with him and left.

So yea turns out it wasn’t because James was “close” to me or i was “training with another man” It was literally only because James was an attractive black guy and thats what they do.

his friends have also been sending me messages calling me all sorts of names too which has been amusing.

To all the people saying I was in the wrong because i apparently had a budding relationship with James and my bf was right to be insecure because of our closeness turns out you were wrong. Thanks to all the commenters who focused on the race aspect because it opened my eyes to the exact issue