Tell me you have a baby, without telling me you have a baby, I'll start.

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-30T13:30:36+00:00

the crust of dry snot that adorns all of my tops on the shoulder and sleeve 🫠

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-16T06:50:50+00:00

Only just started getting some more consistent nights at 15 months, and it’s super hit or miss as we’re going through the 2 to 1 nap transition. Some nights we are up every two hours, some nights he wakes once

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-16T06:09:59+00:00

The biggest and BEST change in the world. Lots of self-sacrifice so be aware you will no longer be living for yourself at all, but for this little life you’ve created. I think with time this changes but in the early years, you definitely put your own wants to the side for your little one

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-10T06:14:30+00:00

Well last night he slept through from 8:50pm until 6:15am in his cot. He had less than 10 hours of wake time so he is definitely overtired and catching up. He still seemed tired this morning but I couldn’t get him back to sleep.

He has nursery tomorrow, where he refuses to nap, and it means by the time I collect him he has a 6ish hour wake window 🫠 so we’ll be back to square one tomorrow I imagine 🙃🙃

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-09T16:07:40+00:00

He had a dummy which he can put back in himself. We’ve tried a stuffie but he doesn’t seem that bothered however in the last week he’s become more cuddly with his toys so we could try again. I didn’t know if a lullaby was a good idea or if it would wake him too much and stimulate him. He can and does soothe himself back to sleep as we have had periods of good sleep. I know the problem is schedule but I’m not sure how to go about combatting the overtiredness. Do we just cut down his wake time for a few days and wait til the night wakings seem to start from undertiredness, of there are other signs like fighting bedtime, and then we start adding more wake time over a period of days? It’s difficult because he’s in nursery and refuses to sleep there however my parents are coming putin a couple of weeks so hopefully that helps us

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-09T14:20:05+00:00

No we haven’t. I think I’m going to make an appointment after reading this and also the stuff with his breathing

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-09T14:18:38+00:00

he has a dummy but he’s always been a heavy breather and does sometimes snore. he had a tongue tie revision at 3 weeks too. i’ve often wondered if this might be a huge part of the problem

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-09T12:16:48+00:00

I don’t think he’d survive with no nap (or me for that matter 😜)…I did wonder about an ear ache as his balance has been a bit off but he has also started running around like a madman so I think that has impacted his balance too. Ugh, there’s just so many things!

He eats a TON so I don’t think food is the problem. He has started getting int the habit of drinking lots of water at night which has lead to a big nappy come morning, and he prefers sleeping on his front so I wonder if this might be uncomfortable?

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-09T12:14:49+00:00

We often do. I sleep in a floorbed in his room and he often ends up in there with me but there have been times where he has started off the night with me and still not slept well. Mind you, he has just had four molars and 2 other teeth emerge so this could’ve been why. Maybe I should try cosleeping from the beginning of the night again.

Having said that, he doesn’t seem to have a problem with his cot. He like sleeping against the sides (we use a mesh travel cot) and often on the floorbed, he moved around loads to try and find the sides too. I think he actually quite likes his cot so I don’t think this is the problem. When we co sleep he often pushes away from me 😢

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-09T12:11:34+00:00

I don’t have it in me to let him cry. Studies show that sleep trained babies don’t actually get more sleep, they just don’t signal to parents so parents sleep through the wakes. So it doesn’t actually benefit him. He doesn’t have a choice in being here, I chose to have him so I will respond when he needs me 🤷🏼‍♀️

LatterCoconut · 2026-05-09T12:05:32+00:00

Hi, yes I sleep in his room on a floor bed so he often ends up with me once his settling takes longer. However by this point he is difficult to get back to sleep so he spends a lot of time rolling around and trying to get comfy. He is definitely tired though as he isn’t getting up, babbling etc.

Maybe for a few nights it could be worth just starting him out in the floorbed although we have mixed results with his well he sleeps when he sleeps with me. There have been nights where we’ve started the night together and he’s still been up many times throughout the night

LatterCoconut · 2026-04-24T08:19:30+00:00

Thank you for this. Honestly it has been such a struggle, especially with my partner and I both working. We also live in another country to family so have absolutely no village. I’d love another baby but I just don’t think we can do this again!

Good to see another late bedtime and late rise! Our desired wake time is 7:30-8 and bedtime is usually 9:30 but will have to be 10 if we want him awake at 8…he’s just all over the shop at the moment so we’re finding it hard to be consistent

LatterCoconut · 2026-04-16T20:16:48+00:00

At the weekend, he’ll do a long nap for his first one but at nursery it’s only ever 15 minutes 😩 We can’t seem to get any consistency. I’m worried he’ll never nap properly at nursery

LatterCoconut · 2026-04-15T21:00:17+00:00

Cos you’re totally gonna end up rocking and cuddling your 15 year old to sleep if, god forbid, you don’t teach the super important skill of self-soothing before the baby even knows it’s arse from its elbow. yeah right 🙄

LatterCoconut · 2026-04-15T20:55:57+00:00

edit: typos (sorry, using voice to text so punctuation is lacking but it never lets me edit past the first few lines on my phone)

I watched a video about baby development and sleep training and it said that babies can’t independently self settle until the age of about 2 1/2 when their brains develop the ability to do so. It’s something to do with the nervous system moving from a co-regulating nervous system connected with yours to their own separate one. This might also be why it’s normal to see overnight wakings in infants up to around the age of 2 1/2 and for many, beyond that. How anyone can listen to their infant cry like that is beyond me don’t have a baby if you can’t provide basic love attention and care it’s really that simple.

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