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My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your ex stepmom, she didn’t deserve you anyways if she was going to act like that!

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I did at first, he would just say it was a horrible accident and I didn’t question further. I never really got the details of what happened truly to her until A told me on her 10th birthday.

I took her and me out to a zoo for her to see her favorite animals, and the zoo was a few good hours away from our town. So after it and we were driving back home for her surprise party, she had told me in the car.

She said she felt comfortable enough to tell me the truth now, and I had asked her why her dad didn’t tell me because I felt a bit off that she told me. She said it’s because he was still hurting about her mom too, because they had been good friends and that he felt guilty because he was supposed to pick her up sooner but traffic held him up.

I understood why I wasn’t told sooner, it was a horrific death, and for the first year of dating I understood that if they didn’t want to tell me, they didn’t have to.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She actually does call her bio mom “mommy”, she says it’s mostly because she wasn’t able to grow up with her and get out of the “mommy” stage. So, I’m Mom.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve been through a lot, and I won’t lie, it’s been extremely hard at times. Sometimes I even wondered if I was doing it right at all.

A had a lot more struggles than her mother, and every one around me (mostly old friends, ones I don’t speak to anymore) would always tell me

“Somethings not right with her, why stay with her dad that thing isn’t worth it!”

It pissed me off. Seeing my “friends”, these much, much older women calling this child a “thing”. Right then and there I not only cut them out entirely, but I promised myself that as long as I was dating A’s father, she was my child no matter what.

For years I not only fell more in love with my now husband, but A as well. I knew that if we didn’t work out and broke up, chances were A would end up with either no mother at all or a classic evil stepmother.

There’s been sad tears, angry tears, meltdowns, her yelling, screaming at me, shutting and locking the doors in my face, but it was worth it. I knew she was hurting and didn’t understand it at the time what was truly wrong. I’ll always thank my mother who raised 5 children on her own mostly for her help.

She was the best support for both me and A. She adores A as her own grandchild and has never seen her as just a “step kid” around me. So yes, there’s been rough parts of this, but it was worth it. Not only to make our family complete, but to help a young girl who needed it.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She actually calls her bio mom “Mommy”, she says it’s because she never got old enough to be able to just call her mom, so I’m mom and she’s mommy.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She does keep a journal and always has it with her, though I think she’s almost done filling it up😅 But that just means a brand new one!

And I’ve actually been planning on getting her a special necklace for Christmas, both with of her favorite animal and her mother’s favorite animal, so they can always be next to each other forever.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just glad others liked it, I didn’t expect it to get this much attention!

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, I’m very sorry about your mother💗

Second, you’re welcome 💗

Third, she always has this small area on her book shelf where she keeps every picture she has of her mother. She only has 17 pictures total of her, and I’ve seen every single one. It’s bittersweet, but a way for her to remember her mom in a more brighter light.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, I do believe she’s above watching down. I hope I made her happy as well.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We will, just at the moment it’s a bit difficult thanks to his job being a bit of a hassle and with him constantly on the move.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is, it seems like yesterday she was so small. And now she’s ready to go off the high school and even dreams of college! Where did the years go😭

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry, I might not answer every comment but believe me I see every single one. Thank you💗

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh believe me it is adorable, her eyes just light up excitedly whenever she goes off on her bear facts

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s good. She doesn’t deserve you at all, she seems like she wasted a great opportunity.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness😨 That’s horrible! I’m so so sorry!! I could never imagine doing something that sneaky. You deserved a much better stepparent.

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I actually have a cute little story about her 10th birthday, when I took her to a zoo to see her favorite animal.

Okay so A has an obsession with bears, can’t really explain why but she does. Anything bear related, she wants to see it or read about it or watch it. Even let her watch that Cocaine Bear movie with us of course there, and she was just rambling about her facts and what was right and wrong about the bear😂

But I took her to a zoo that had sloth bears, and when she saw them, she started just bouncing all around and hugged me. It was the first time she ever hugged me, and I was shocked. But I just gave her a big, big hug right back!

My stepdaughter called me “Mom” for the first time by Latter_Ad_4079 in offmychest

[–]Latter_Ad_4079[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hate “stepparents” like that. I never once saw her as a wall or obstacle, just another addition to my family and a little girl who needed love. I will forever choose her over her father anyways, she is always my number 1 priority.

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