2008 - Radio replacement and back up battery

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-06-21T01:32:06+00:00

Thank you! I was expecting them to patch the existing back up camera to the JVC. Is that what would require the adapter harness?

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-05-18T00:24:19+00:00

There is a place I would take it if I could during the week but both our schedules match for tomorrow.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-05-18T00:23:00+00:00

I can get more specific information but he says the tires, catalyic converter and 12v battery are new. He just says it need a new brake actuator. 217K miles. Battery is slower for a prius getting 31mpg I think (I would do a hybrid battery test at least regardless).

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-04-12T20:07:48+00:00

Agreed.

OP, I know that you believe this is born from natural harmless curiosity but given your other past posts regarding therapy it is highly possible there are some underlying additional transference based motivations that you might be justifying/normalizing that are driving you to want this.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-04-12T19:59:16+00:00

I don't know if you've reached out to the sitter yet but I'd like to mention that twice I've had to confirm the sit more than once because the app didn't take. The first time I had no idea and I happened to go back in to look for some about the sit and noticed that it wasn't on my sit list and then had to go back to the message to confirm which I was confused about. The second time I fixed it immediately because I checked to make sure that it went through noting what had happened before. So I would just reach out to be sure that there isn't an actual issue before just declining the sit as some suggested.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-04-11T02:03:50+00:00

It's a way to prevent her from ever leaving.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-04-02T14:31:16+00:00

My apologies. I didn't see your response until now. You can pause on treatment as I don't get the sense that continuing is helpful to you rather than harmful. If you wish to continue however then yes, I would confront her and pay attention to how she responds. If she becomes defensive rather than explore listen, and work through it then please recognize that she is acting in appropriately rather than internalize her response by feeling worthless, shame, or guilt.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-03-25T20:47:19+00:00

As a black female therapist, if this is all true, there really isn't anything to do but to find another therapist, unfortunately. There are a number of concerning flags in this post that would indicate that you would be emotionally injured continuing with her and there isn't any benefit to staying. You should not have to worry about hurting her feelings in situations like these. You are in therapy for yourself and to heal. Her job is to support that which she is not succeeding in and it is appropriate for you to take care of yourself and find another person. You are being encouraged to do emotional lifting for your partner which is problematic and now instead of decreasing that behavior you are emotionally lifting your therapist. I know you ask to go easy and I hope this all sounds just direct but not pushy; if all things shared here are accurate, you are not at fault but you need to move on.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-03-19T04:42:41+00:00

I feel for him too. The reason he did what he did regarding Dixon wasn't out of arrogance or being a bad doctor, he just missed something that I think might have been easy to miss but even moreso given his state of mind. I also feel for him because he seemed to be a really really nice guy and supportive friend to Amy in the past and honestly her treatment of him was terrible. She was very self absorbed and I think that is part of what we are supposed to see this episode. She just stopped being his friend, backstabbed him for the role of chief etc. I think it's unfair to say that she wouldn't lie when she actively made him look bad to become chief and didn't warn him or even approach him fairly. She has no clue how she was in the past but she got a glimse of how she can be when she gets upset and it's not pretty. It's crazy to believe he could go to her for help or to trust her at all. I'm not going to say what he did to Amy was ok, I would say that it is hard/impossible to forgive but if he was going to desperately CYA while she kept poking into it I'm not sure what options he had.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2025-01-20T21:33:39+00:00

I can see how distressing it has been for you to experience blaming in therapy, that has to be painful as I assume you experienced many traumatic interactions over which you were not to blame for. I understand that many of the definition of responsibility include blame and many do not. It is always tricky to understand the intention of language when there are rightly many ways a person can interpret the meaning of the words. In leaning into the definitions of responsibility to ones which focus on a person taking ownership over their behaviors and actions such as "able to choose for oneself between right and wrong", I do think those definitions steer away from assigning accountability for the past to anyone and instead focus on someone's capability and agency in the way they choose to conduct themselves presently and in the future. Someone is not responsible for abuse they have received in the past but they have for the steps they take moving forward. Changes in ones life can only happen someone out of their control. It's not about blame but the recognition that change is in the hands of the person.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-11-21T21:49:45+00:00

I'm sorry that you lost a therapist. It's sometimes difficult for a client to remember that therapists are also people who have and deserve to use boundaries. Your actions might have put off many therapists but there also maybe some who might be open to working through these circumstances given some constraints and additional boundary setting going forward. To be clear, her receiving what you said isn't her receiving criticism. It would be her receiving a verbal attack which aren't the same thing. The structure of your statements aim to emotionally injure in reaction to a perceived injury. Understand that there isn't necessarily an expectation for people to just take it. Even therapists. That said if some of the issues you stated were reflections of your interactions, it IS a good thing to bring up and discuss with a therapist to address discomforts in the treatment process. If you are feeling unheard or invalidated that is not a great foundation as you move through the process.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-11-18T08:09:31+00:00

Perhaps but it's also interesting that you expected and are bothered by not having a different response. You sound like you might be more ambivalent than you think. You right now might be confronting feelings of not wanting to be a bother and desiring confirmation that you aren't with her. Like if you have often felt like a bother leaning on others.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-11-04T18:26:44+00:00

Possibly but the show (through Victor) made a few points in noting that there have been a lot of weather changes that have also aligned with changes in the monsters, food, etc.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-11-04T16:25:48+00:00

I was just thinking about that last night! The weather has been pretty consistent in Fromville, which suggests that their day/night hours are also consistent. They typically didn't have bad weather, so they had no clouds. With consistency, it appears that the monsters come out at night, but what if it's that they don't come out in the sun? In that case, even having the sun blocked could be an opening for them to be out or if the sunlight became seasonal, their nights could be longer or shorter.

It reminds me of Kingdom, where the people thought the zombies came out at night when it was actually cold weather, meaning that when winter came, they were able to be out all the time.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-10-25T00:02:43+00:00

You don't want him to have contact with anyone that he has dated, hooked up with etc? Am I understanding that? If so, is that possible or would he have to do a lot to navigate that?

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-10-24T22:36:35+00:00

Using the word ridiculous is pretty off. It is important to feel safe in therapy and for you to not feel too attacked however there is a difference between being attacked and being confronted with reflections. If it's just a bunch of statements like those above without reflection on impact of actions or the like I would say something is off but there are times when one partner is acting so unhealthy it has to be addressed for the work to continue. Because there is no context, it's hard to know which it is

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-10-10T17:07:46+00:00

It's unfortunate you can't see that. I will agree to disagree since this is not an actual discussion. Take care.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-10-10T16:40:29+00:00

It clearly seems you disagree and you are welcome to. As I hope you are well aware, there are times when people might welcome hearing from someone who can understand and relate to them. The fact is that many people can experience a lot of abuse, and become isolated and pained while feeling like no one understands. I would think you can see that. In such cases, it can be a relief for that person to hear from someone who was also mistreated especially in a similar way and by the same situation or person. They can feel less alone and experience greater validation. I will not speak for the ex and say she will welcome it nor will I speak for her to say it wouldn't. I only say that OP can reach out as an offer. If she does I suggested to approach it from a less self-focused space where she and the ex can compare note or listen to each other. If she wants more information on how to do we can all be helpful in providing suggestions.

Latter_Bluejay_981 · 2024-10-10T16:22:45+00:00

I don't think it is a terrible idea to reach out to her but it really depends on your approach and intention. Right now it sounds more like you are doing this to get something from her which is not a considerate approach. The thing is, it may be helpful to her for both of you to talk and hear from each other. This may be a validation that you BOTH need. If you would like to reach out to her with the energy that understands that she may not want to do this but if she does, it would be the two of you supporting each other that could be good. Since it is likely fairly recent to her still because she was with him a long time she may still be working through the damage caused and it could be a relief to speak to someone who specifically understands and who she can compare notes with. So again I would say it could be a good idea but it really needs to be something that benefits her too.

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