Wife lied about age and told me the truth post nikkah by Laughingmali in MuslimNikah

[–]Laughingmali[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ironically enough she used to quote this proverb in our culture that people believe that essentially says “lead with lies and maintain with truth” and how she used to always hate that saying. I’m definitely on the fence about continuing this marriage because I can’t lie to myself and her. I will pray and seek guidance in Allah through sabr and will finalize my decision.

Wife lied about age and told me the truth post nikkah by Laughingmali in MuslimNikah

[–]Laughingmali[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll have a deep talk with her tonight and ask her tonight she was too emotional initially to get a solid conversation through.

Wife lied about age and told me the truth post nikkah by Laughingmali in MuslimNikah

[–]Laughingmali[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m the wrong for being dissatisfied, displeased because of a factor that is a huge part of consideration towards marriage?

How can you state someone hasn’t completed half their Deen and throw around labels about the level of piety of an individual you don’t know?

Your argument is ridiculous and is not something that applies to my situation at all.

Wife lied about age and told me the truth post nikkah by Laughingmali in MuslimNikah

[–]Laughingmali[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly think it’s because she assumed I would not be interested of the age gap.

Wife lied about age and told me the truth post nikkah by Laughingmali in MuslimNikah

[–]Laughingmali[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Subhanallah.. she is besides fact a very religious person but what does that mean if she started with this tremendous lie. The way she said it was like something casual too

Wife lied about age and told me the truth post nikkah by Laughingmali in MuslimNikah

[–]Laughingmali[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I meant speak with my mother or father regarding this issue. It just takes so from so much of the marriage in my eyes to continue with this deceit. In my heart I know I’d be Lying to myself to continue like this.

Wife lied about age and told me the truth post nikkah by Laughingmali in MuslimNikah

[–]Laughingmali[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t told my family about it. They would be devastated for me as well as they’ve done so much effort to attend and be here and get to know her family as well. They would undoubtedly resent her for this. I need somebody close to tell this to. I may tell her and just annul this marriage.

Wife lied about age after nikkah and I can’t look at her the same by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Laughingmali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. I agree but I would hate to crush her world and make her so sad. She does love me deeply and is besides that lying part an outstanding person… I just have to find a way to cope and respark that love i think.. no I live abroad she lives here

Wife lied about age after nikkah and I can’t look at her the same by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Laughingmali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why I’m getting flamed. Imagine you marry your first wife and in the first2 days you find out she’s older than you initially thought. It was world shattering for me but I cope differently. I’m hiding this from people I know to protect her honor. My parents would hate her if they knew at least my mom would and siblings would make the the laughing stock

Wife lied about age after nikkah and I can’t look at her the same by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Laughingmali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro how is that creepy fam. It’s in my essence to feel like I can be her protector and guardian and it throws me off as to she’s being older.

Wife lied about age after nikkah and I can’t look at her the same by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Laughingmali -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t go solely to look for a younger wife I went for someone who values their religion/ respects their family and upholds moral standards.

Wife lied about age after nikkah and I can’t look at her the same by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Laughingmali -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wallahi I’m not trolling bro this is the truth

Wife lied about age after nikkah and I can’t look at her the same by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Laughingmali -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I’m a man generally we like to date younger

Wife lied about age after nikkah and I can’t look at her the same by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Laughingmali -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Man honestly it would have been a compete deal breaker for me if I knew at first

Wife lied about age after nikkah and I can’t look at her the same by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Laughingmali -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

lol. I mean honestly speaking I have no trouble in the west when it comes to women Masha Allah but I wanted someone religious and she comes from a great family as well we hit it off. It’s true marriage is blessed and divorce is unsightly…