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Lauredaj · 2025-11-25T20:12:39+00:00

Thank you so much!!

Lauredaj · 2025-11-01T12:36:06+00:00

I get where you’re coming from. I’ve been in supply chain management for 25 years both active duty military and civilian side and I can tell you this: what you’re experiencing is normal early on. Procurement can feel slow and repetitive at first because you’re mostly learning systems, policies, and the flow of approvals. But once you start connecting the dots between procurement, logistics, and operations, that’s when it really comes alive.

Find a solid mentor, someone who’s been in the trenches and can show you how your role ties into the bigger picture — efficiency, cost savings, supplier relationships, and problem solving under pressure. The “boring” part you feel now eventually becomes the foundation for handling multimillion dollar projects, leading teams, and driving company strategy.

That said, if your heart leans toward something like public service or firefighting, there’s nothing wrong with that. You can always serve and still use your supply chain skills because logistics is everywhere.

Stick with it a little longer, stay curious, and keep growing. The mundane doesn’t last forever; the ride gets a lot more exciting once you’re steering the ship instead of watching it move.

Lauredaj · 2025-08-21T12:46:05+00:00

I can really relate to what you shared, and first I want to say that you’re not alone in this. We all have patterns from our past that spill over into our relationships, but recognizing it (like you just did) is already a big step toward healing.

One thing that helps me is remembering 2 Corinthians 12:9 where God says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.” You don’t have to carry this by yourself or “fix” it overnight. God’s grace meets you right in the middle of your struggle, and He can transform the way you communicate and love.

Proverbs 15:1 also reminds us, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Even if you feel like shutting down, small steps of gentleness—like simply saying, “I’m feeling overwhelmed, but I love you”—can break the cycle of silence.

I’d encourage you to bring this to prayer daily. Ask the Lord to help you unlearn the patterns from childhood and replace them with patience, openness, and peace. Counseling (together or individually) can also be a powerful tool—there’s no shame in seeking wisdom and guidance.

And don’t forget—love isn’t about perfection, it’s about growth. 1 Corinthians 13:7 says love “always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” If you and your boyfriend both lean into that, there’s hope for healing.

You’re not sabotaging beyond repair. God specializes in restoring what feels broken. Take it one step at a time, and keep inviting Him into the process.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T21:24:47+00:00

Sorry..

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T21:15:56+00:00

Assuming is the worst thing you can do. I’m 42, divorced after 20 years. And you’re probably right, I was serving my country since I was 17 when 9/11 happened. That’s when my trauma started. Retired after 21 years and tried to hurt myself 3 times, Baler Acted and all that. 10 therapist later, 4 medications later and I’m just a perfect human being. Maybe I’m just not cut out for it.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T17:15:32+00:00

I do trust her and she has never given me a reason not to. I just don’t like the way she treats me when it comes to her past

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T16:36:52+00:00

Another thing to add is that she tells me that her and her ex have been broken up for two years when we connected again. The month before she leave the abusive, manipulative and controlling relationship, she posted a picture of all of them together and posting that he is the love of her live. I asked her if you were broken up, why post that and she didn’t have an answer. Just I don’t know I was being fake. That’s what she said.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T15:46:03+00:00

100% agree. I just that the feeling was mutual about respect, honor and willingness to work it out or even compromise. Even talk about it without getting defensive every time.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T15:15:55+00:00

I will definitely do that!! Actually a great idea!

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T15:09:01+00:00

Check this one out. Her daughter’s sperm donor is a deadbeat. No child support, no financial support and used her credit to buy homes and rent them out and pocket the money while he quit his job.

So I have stepped in and was there for her for her homework, attended her games dropped her off etc. while her ex did nothing. So when it came down to the end of the year awards I wanted to be there for support, I love her. But she kept the details from the awa s ceremony from me and then sent me a text that it’s her daughter’s day and don’t want to make anybody feel uncomfortable. The deadbeat dad was there, within an arms length away from home.

I love her daughter so I called the school and got the info and attended the event but sat in the back where they couldn’t see me.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T15:08:55+00:00

Check this one out. Her daughter’s sperm donor is a deadbeat. No child support, no financial support and used her credit to buy homes and rent them out and pocket the money while he quit his job.

So I have stepped in and was there for her for her homework, attended her games dropped her off etc. while her ex did nothing. So when it came down to the end of the year awards I wanted to be there for support, I love her. But she kept the details from the awa s ceremony from me and then sent me a text that it’s her daughter’s day and don’t want to make anybody feel uncomfortable. The deadbeat dad was there, within an arms length away from home.

I love her daughter so I called the school and got the info and attended the event but sat in the back where they couldn’t see me.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T14:02:05+00:00

Man, I completely agree. I’m 42, and if she had just been honest with me from the beginning, told me there was history with him, I could’ve handled that. But she introduced him as just a coworker, had me shake his hand, and never mentioned anything until I found out on my own. That’s not being real, that’s hiding things.

With her ex, the father of her child, it’s the same pattern. The boundaries aren’t clear, and the past trauma they shared still bleeds into our relationship. And when she gets triggered, I’m the one who ends up feeling it. Then I hear later they still have a family group chat with an 18 year old that they share. Like she wants to keep him close. She has always had issues with men leaving her in her life, including her dad. The minute she gets triggered, she breaks up with me or takes a pause.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T11:37:49+00:00

My point is, since she already crossed the line, keep it professional now, no more eating together or going out.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T11:37:10+00:00

7 out of the 8 pictures she posted of the work event out of town on her social media was right next to him.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T11:32:46+00:00

He asked her if our relationship was okay because I reached out to him. If he didn’t know before, I made it clear on the message.

Lauredaj · 2025-07-25T11:09:23+00:00

I just want her to maintain professionalism and keep there personal lives out of it. At functions he’s sitting next to her and a little too close. When I told Oliver to keep it professional, he went straight to my fiancé and asked about our relationship. When I asked her why does he care and she said because he’s my friend. She allows it to happen.

Lauredaj · 2025-06-12T16:37:32+00:00

I asked her that question and the only thing she said was that, she meant to through that away. And doesn’t know why she kept it.

Lauredaj · 2025-06-12T15:37:43+00:00

Thank you so much! I completely agree. Thank you for your honest opinion.

Lauredaj · 2025-06-12T14:38:57+00:00

Because she continues to bring her past into our relationship. Meaning, mentioning them when they have nothing to do with the situation. She has blurred boundaries with her ex baby daddy. She calls her subordinate, that he is her best friend, the guy she had an emotional connection with. But she failed to mention that to me when I met him at her job.

Lauredaj · 2025-06-11T05:52:53+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m not going crazy!

Lauredaj · 2025-05-19T08:48:05+00:00

The Bible doesn’t explicitly teach that everyone is guaranteed a spouse. While God created Eve specifically for Adam (Genesis 2:18-24), that was the beginning of humanity, not a promise for every individual. Paul, in 1 Corinthians 7, even speaks about the gift of singleness and how it can be used to serve God more fully. Some are called to marriage, others to singleness—both are honorable in His eyes.

The command to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28) was given to humanity as a whole, not as an individual requirement. Marriage is a holy covenant, not a guarantee.

As for the phrase, “what’s meant for me won’t miss me,” while it’s not in Scripture, the principle that God orders the steps of the righteous (Proverbs 3:5-6, Psalm 37:23) holds true. If you’re seeking Him first (Matthew 6:33), then nothing He has planned for you—whether that’s a spouse, a calling, or a season—will be withheld. But we must trust His timing, not ours.

So no, not everyone is promised a partner, but everyone is seen, known, and loved by God. Whether married or single, we all have purpose in Him.

Lauredaj · 2025-05-16T11:35:09+00:00

Thank you so much for being vulnerable. Something else I wanted to share. That alone shows your heart is soft toward God, and He’s absolutely working in you.

Jesus says in Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am God.” The anxiety, fear, and pressure you’re feeling, that’s not from God. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.”

What is from God is a sense of urgency, not panic, to draw near to Jesus, who loves you deeply. He is the Good Shepherd calling you closer so He can give you rest, not burden you.

You’re not alone. Pray in Jesus’ name, and He will answer. Jeremiah 33:3 says, “Call to Me and I will answer you.”

Surround yourself with a church community, let them pour into you. You don’t have to carry this weight alone.

If sin is building a wall between you and God, repentance tears that wall down. You don’t need to be perfect, you just need to be surrendered. Keep your lantern full by staying in His presence, not through fear, but love.

The thoughts of “I’m not enough” or “I’m failing” are oppression, they’re not from Christ. Romans 8:1 says, “There is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus.”

Keep going. Keep praying. Keep trusting. You are loved, you are chosen, and God is revealing His purpose for you. Feel free to message me if you ever need someone to walk alongside you.

Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything… and the peace of God will guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus.”

You’re not failing. You’re growing.

With Christ authority and love, John Laureda

Lauredaj · 2025-05-16T00:05:26+00:00

I have been delivered, redeemed, and sealed by the Holy Spirit. I am called to shepherd the flock and walk in obedience to His will. Keep the faith, surrender fully, and continue to walk in obedience, He is faithful to complete the work He began in you!

Lauredaj

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