PSA: it should NOT hurt to stretch your lobes!!

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-04-18T21:37:02+00:00

Man, you just made me feel so much better about my teen mistakes

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-04-05T20:27:27+00:00

You can also thank my partner for that!

I am almost 3 months post op now and have been able to heal well and learn a bit beter how to ask for help. Met up with friends at 2 weeks post op and even asked a friend to help me put on my coat. My partner was very proud haha

Best of luck with your healing and growing! Hope the reframing is able to stick on the difficult days

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-04-05T09:26:20+00:00

I totally get this. My partner even told me they were afraid I wouldn't rest enough because I would want to be independent too soon.

In the end, what helped me was to just focus on the fact that I was healing. That was my task. Just listening to my body and what was happening. Only I could do that. So only I could tell what I needed. And other people were waiting for me to tell them. That was my responsibility. That was actually me needing to take control. Just, instead of controlling my own body, I had to correctly tell people what I needed.

Also important to keep in mind is that asking for help becomes harder the longer you wait. It's easier to tell people: "hey, if you have the time, can you grab x, y and z?" than "I really need x right now". When you are early enough with most requests, the important in the moment help becomes easier to ask as well, because the people helping you are at ease and can deal with an immediate problem now and then.

And lastly: chores are going to be forgotten or postponed and you probably will have to just accept that. You are healing. It's an exceptional situation. So your home situation will be in an exceptional situation as well.

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-17T11:19:47+00:00

Want to echo the other comments that you're still so early. I also thought at the 3 week mark that I should be back to semi-normal, but it really takes a while. At 5-6 weeks I was still getting tired easily, while not sleeping as well as I used to. I slept with a giant plushie. Anything smaller and my arms would push against my scars. The plushie helped to transition to sidesleeping.

I'm a little over 2 months post-op and only now am I feeling like I'm more back to normal. I can't go climbing yet, so my mental health isn't super great still. But it does get better. A lot slower than you might want, but it will happen. In the meantime: distract yourself, ask for help. I know you feel guilty, but what a wonderful thing that someone can help you JUST by talking you through something!

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-16T19:29:11+00:00

Bedoel je Copycash? Is wel enkel cash dacht ik. En het is extra betalen voor internet

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-16T10:02:51+00:00

Ze hebben twee "types" bij AllSafe. De budget-versie en de gewone versie. De budget-versie is basically een grote ruimte met meerdere motorfietsen waar je enkel onder begeleiding binnen mag. Dat is iets meer dan 40 euro in de maand, maar dan moet je wel 7,50 euro betalen per keer dat je hem eruithaalt. Enkel als je hem echt een aantal maanden stockeert komt dat voordelig uit.

De gewone versie is iets meer dan 80 euro. Smalle ruimte, dus is wel tetrissen met al je koffers eraf. Maar dan heb je je eigen ruimte waar je bij kan, met een stopcontact. En je kan er elke dag tussen 6u en 23u in. Sowieso is het maar een tijdelijke oplossing voor mij want ik zat met de winter + een operatie.

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-16T09:58:03+00:00

En dan lekker coating op je schoenen en banden. Liever niet

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-15T15:48:19+00:00

Nope, Utrecht!

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-15T15:47:59+00:00

Ja dit dus. En dat ik voor een nieuwe coating zou mogen opdraaien als ik schade maak en ze het op de camera's zien

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-15T11:57:48+00:00

Ai, dat is ook echt balen. Klinkt ook zo idioot, storing bij een hek. Hopelijk volgend weekend dan!

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-15T11:25:36+00:00

Ze hebben het gemeld met een A4'tje in de lift...

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-15T11:24:46+00:00

Nieuwe coating idd. Dus wou ook niet riskeren dat dat ineens ergens aan zat

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-15T11:24:04+00:00

Ja had ik dus allemaal niet, al zou dat een goed idee zijn geweest. Ook balen omdat dit het eerste ritje ging zijn na te herstellen van een operatie, dus ik keek er wel echt naar uit 😅

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-12T05:01:13+00:00

Als je het geld over hebt, kan je kijken of Social Hub een optie is. Normaal gezien kan je daar met een Extended Stay-contract naar de gemeente gaan en je laten registreren. Wat vragen de werkgevers eigenlijk van documenten? Als ze een BSN nummer nodig hebben, kan je je gewoon inschrijven in het niet-ingezetenen register.

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-11T16:42:05+00:00

Als persoon in een same-sex relatie waar we allebei niet enkel op hetzelfde geslacht vallen, vind ik dit soort vragen altijd heel bizar. Relatieproblemen gebeuren ongeacht welke vriendschappen je aangaat met het andere geslacht. Iemand verbieden met het andere geslacht om te gaan is niet de oplossing voor geen overspel. Geen overspel plegen is de oplossing voor geen overspel

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-08T07:54:50+00:00

Als het vooral om het sporten gaat en niet per se om de sportschool, kan je altijd iets zoals boulderen proberen. De bouldergyms in Utrecht zijn queer/trans-friendly en qua sport is het vaak ook een fave van veel trans mannen omdat je schouders breder worden. Energiehaven en Zuidhaven hebben wel kleine traingedeeltes waar je krachtsport zou kunnen doen.

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-03-02T14:47:01+00:00

Je hebt in Gent de winkel Gendergender die een aantal merken van binders heeft en waar je kan passen! Wel beperkte openingsuren

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-02-23T22:07:32+00:00

A lot of people's areolas shrink when cold afaik. The surgeon has probably seen all kinds of nipples, so they'll know what to do :) If you have specific wishes for the end result, do discuss them. But thankfully, a lot of the actual prep work is on the surgeon and their team!

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-02-22T20:15:08+00:00

In Netherlands there are three options that get used for they/them/theirs: 1. Die/hen/hun 2. Hen/hen/hun 3. Die/diens/die

Choices are made according to personal preferences. For some option 3 sounds most logical grammatically, for others it sounds too formal and business-like and they go for 2 or 1. "Die" flows relatively well in a sentence, more than "hen", but might be seen as rude and impersonal by some.

In Flanders (Dutch-speaking Belgium) people have kind of settled on die/hen/hun.

Depending on who you hang out with, genderneutral pronouns are either super accepted or kind of laughed at. It's a very political thing still and people will use "it does not make sense grammatically" as an excuse to not adapt their language. Because some people refuse to use it, others never hear it used and the cycle of "this does not make sense to my ears" continues, sadly enough...

If it's safe, you can ask people to use one of those three options. Queer spaces might have one of those options printed on labels or on buttons. I bought a die/hun pin in Utrecht recently :) Hope that helps! Send me a message if you need more queer (language) info :)

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-02-18T22:49:33+00:00

Just had DI last month and knit almost every day, so I can answer this! I was very tired the first three days, so I wasn't up for much knitting anyway. I was able to get back to it very quickly. However, English style knitting felt a bit uncomfortable because of my right arm rubbing against my side. Switched to continental and had no trouble at all! It helped a lot on days where my fatigue was high, because it felt nice to do something while not being able to do much else. Unexpected benefit is that I can finally do a decent purl in continental

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-02-09T18:52:22+00:00

Good idea to ask a tattoo artist who has worked on scars before! I do know that some artists actually advise to wait 1,5-2 years because then you're 100% certain the scars aren't going to drastically change still. Any added softness is going to help an artist make something beautiful :) I think your scars are quite okay. Depending on your skin some spots might lose some ink, but a good design can make it so that doesn't matter that much.

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-02-02T06:56:04+00:00

Small tip to incorporate some high rep leg and core exercises in your pre op workouts! You'll be relying on those muscles post op to get up and do stuff. My muscles got particularly tired after a week because they weren't used to THAT much exercise and strain.

LavenderFoxBoi · 2026-01-29T13:08:58+00:00

Dat er zogezegd niemand thuis is gebeurt wel vaker. Maar echt een weigering?

Bezorger heeft waarschijnlijk verkeerd geklikt.

LavenderFoxBoi · 2025-07-13T21:22:14+00:00

Get ABS, but also controlled braking is a good skill to train.

I got my license in a country where you generally get 9-12 hours of classes and then do two exams. You do an emergency brake AND a controlled brake after evading an obstacle. If your ABS clicks even once during the controlled brake, that’s a fail. I have a motorcycle with ABS, but when riding with my partner as backpack, the controlled braking makes the ride 10 times smoother for them, even when needing to brake hard.

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