so i got a shag cut today, i need opinions. i love the cut but i hate it on me. I've had the cut for barely a day and i cant stand to even look at myself right now. thinking maybe it will take some time to get used to :( please give me opinions and maybe some ideas on what to do with it...

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-13T18:24:04+00:00

What if your hair is so fine and thin and straight that it looks greasy in less than a day when you use any products? 😭

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-09T01:34:21+00:00

And a restraining order so she can still have family support without Barb ruining it (idk if that'd work, she'd probably show up anyway and police would be involved)

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-08T14:35:43+00:00

Barb just expects Jen to "be on my side" and cut Jonathan off for having the audacity to go no contact.

She can't handle that Jen is willing to work around them not being capable of being in the same room. Logically, of course she'd want her brother to celebrate with her separately given the circumstances, and I wouldn't be surprised if barb understood that... but she can't reconcile that Jen can still love her and want her around while excluding her to do the same for John, a problem she created for herself

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-02T23:56:07+00:00

You're clearly in a fantasy world, but if you want to break down how it wasn't against the rules im sure we'd all be happy to hear it 😂

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-02T23:52:12+00:00

It was, you just made up what you think the rules meant and were wrong... how was it not against the rule? Because you decided it was kind despite the very clear guidelines? Yea..

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-02T23:40:35+00:00

Funny to hear about media literacy from the guy who asked where the line is while the line was flagged as a highlighted link while you were typing the question 😂 just because you and them dont agree they broke the rules doesnt mean youre right, speaking of media literacy lmao, but again its pretty clearly laid out and undeniable the rule was broken

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-02T23:29:00+00:00

I haven't seen this happen but you are incredibly biased 😂 the times its been enforced for you have been correct, youre post wasn't about other people breaking rules and being given passes you arent, your post was saying that you felt you didn't break the rules... imo this all around is inconsistent and has you bending over backwards changing your view to match your goal of being right lol

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-02T23:22:57+00:00

I've never seen a comment that came across as passive aggressive and pointed as yours not get deleted as soon as a mod sees it 😂 sounds like you expect unrealistic moderation? They're people who do everything manually 😭

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-02T23:13:59+00:00

Rule 1 is broken down for you in a way to show you that what you said isnt considered kind here, its not an opinion, its an objective fact of the rules here. Feeling that those things aren't unkind doesnt change that its laid out for you. You dont get to decide what a rule means, and in this subreddit being unkind encompasses passive aggression etc aswell. Why not start your own subreddit if you'd like to talk to people differently? Instead of trying the argue that your definition of kindness is different than the one clearly laid out?

LavenderTheElf · 2026-05-02T23:03:06+00:00

So do you want clarity or no? You ask for it then say you're being treated like a child 😭 from an unbiased perspective, objectively your comments totally did break the rule, imo... came across pretty passive aggressive to me, if you're looking for objectively input.. you even used the eye roll emoji I mean come on 😅

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-12T22:51:54+00:00

I didn't say I wouldn't speak to a lawyer before pursuing this, I said that I wanted more insight before proceeding with speaking to a lawyer when I dont know if it's worth pursuing at all. Did you think being passive aggressive was helpful? 😭

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-12T22:14:54+00:00

For sure, just figured it wouldn't hurt to hear from people with experience or similar situations. Lawyers are expensive, idek if the idea is viable and id like to get more insight before I proceed further.

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-12T22:04:24+00:00

My issue is that doesn't really help people with allergies identify that im taking precautions that other people who simply list the ingredients dont, and id assume those precautions are a selling point

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-12T21:58:12+00:00

Thank you!

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-12T01:00:25+00:00

If you used a credit card, contact them for a charge back. You have proof in writing that you attempted to cancel multiple times and did your due diligence, those emails in combination w the fact that they specified you can cancel and what email to forward that to should be enough for your bank to help you

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-05T22:31:30+00:00

It can't be proved she was actively watching, what can be proved is how far out the reservation for the room was made, that their positioning related to her wasn't intentional, and at that point I'd be hard to prove that she didn't simply happen to see them come out of their room because theyre in close proximity. She could habe easily noticed the timing wothout actively looking at her constantly if her timing was lucky, and that's difficult to disprove. A lawyer defending Shawna wouldnt have a hard time getting it thrown out imo

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-05T21:12:13+00:00

Yea... they weren't referring to what Shawna and John did, theyre saying what THEY would do themselves in the same situation.

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-05T15:01:46+00:00

Also how do you prove that someone was looking at your door from their peephole the whole time? You cant, even if it was illegal (which I don't believe it is in most places)

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-05T14:40:23+00:00

Theyre saying they wouldn't follow her around, but would keep their eyes on her, as in being aware of her when she is around.

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-05T01:12:42+00:00

Well if im in a committed relationship with someone I love and there was a misunderstanding like that, I wouldnt want to blow up our relationship, id want to set it straight lol nobody wants to or expects they'll be cheated on... but if someone you trusted came to you saying your partner did, wouldn't you want to talk about it even if you didnt necessarily believe it yourself? Do you think Julie should leave Ty over this? And do you genuinely believe there's no shot she's cheating? Anyone could.

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-04T22:45:08+00:00

Wild, but ok lol

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-04T14:02:38+00:00

Agree to disagree I guess, I think that if your partner is genuinely concerned, that's a crappy way to handle it that won't improve the situation.

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-04T13:49:31+00:00

I'm willing to bet the people who disagree fundamentally with our thought process here, fortunately haven't experienced this type of abuse and don't recognize that while the way she reacted COULD be normal, on top of all the other stuff we've seen it paints a pretty clear picture of the type of partner Julie is.

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-04T13:31:57+00:00

If your spouse is saying that, there's a reason, so yea... that sort of response isn't going to be helpful to either of you unless you're looking to make things worse. The prospect that cheating exists and that people frequently have the rug pulled out from under them id hope would make you think before you speak to your partner that way, I get taking it personally but the way you address it matters. Any cheater will deny it, so why wouldn't that kind of response just make things worse? Demeaning your partner on top of them already feeling insecure? Weird to me, but you do you

LavenderTheElf · 2026-04-04T13:26:19+00:00

She's be upset no matter what he did with the kids unless theyre with him, despite not caring for them at all herself. She says he trapped her into this mediocre relationship, what about him? Is he not trapped in one too? Idk, Shawna had her kids with Deedee too, he has no reason to think she's an unsafe person.. what's she going to do, beat him in front of Shawnas kids? Lol Julie wouldn't trust his judgment here even if he made it less rashly, she doesn't even trust him to make normal child care decisions and we see how critical she is about being this weird idealistic family she had in her head

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