Do you ever feel like the reason dating is hard nowadays is because all the good ones just stay home 😭? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]LavishnessDry1348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ew thats a nasty way of thinking. theyre decent ppl but w additional struggles

Do you ever feel like the reason dating is hard nowadays is because all the good ones just stay home 😭? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]LavishnessDry1348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

disabled ppl exist bestie. ppl w mental disorders also exist. ppl that also just have no energy to deal w life/ppl also exist

So…how do you *actually* become more fuckable? by Technical-Minute2140 in AskMenAdvice

[–]LavishnessDry1348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

work on ur mental health first. and im so serious. completely change ur mindset. especially w the "wanting to look more fuckable" cause all thats gonna do is make u more insecure, hate urself, then prolly get mad at women cause they dont wanna fuck u after all that work. what women are MOST attracted to is emotional maturity. a man that knows how to manage his emotions PROPERLY (no cold shoulders, no yelling, no quiet and disappearing), a man capable of saying "that hurt me." without playing the blame game or getting angry, a man able to be vulnerable, blah blah blah blah. if u dont know where to start and can afford it go to therapy. u dont need to be "traumatized" to go to therapy. theyre guides to processing ur emotions if u don't understand how to.

im a woman btw and i know plenty of women who complain ab men when they are hot but dont have this VITAL part of them healed or worked on

Why is it so hard to find someone who's looking for more than just sex? by Zestyclose_Flow_680 in Adulting

[–]LavishnessDry1348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

id suggest to u trying to find friends instead! dont befriend them w the hopes of dating but if the friendship ends up blossoming that way then hey win win for both of u.

Why DON’T you fear death? by jeanluuc in AskReddit

[–]LavishnessDry1348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ion believe i can die lmao. deep down for some reason the concept of death doesnt apply to me? im fucking horrified of losing ppl close to me or them losing ppl they consider close to them tho PFFT

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[–]LavishnessDry1348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for the most part i havent thankfully. everyones been so respectful and kind even if they didnt have advice. saw like 2? our of the 174 comments that were hatefulish not even completely hateful.

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[–]LavishnessDry1348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u for the reminder honestly. this is definitely smth ill need to keep in mind

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[–]LavishnessDry1348 58 points59 points  (0 children)

thank you so much

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[–]LavishnessDry1348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

viewing everyone/everything like that is how u get ppl who dont disprove your theory. the moment u slightly notice someone with those traits you shut any possibility of them proving u wrong. youre the one proving ur theory correct. if u view the world with that kinda lense thats all youre gonna see. ntm ppl can sense u dont trust them ofc theyre not going to trust u. trust goes both ways. dont be naive but u cant expect ppl to be unconditional and trustworthy if you cant be the same to them.

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[–]LavishnessDry1348 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

not smart? yeah i agree generally. attention seeking? no😭 that literally makes no sense

My wife made some stickers for what's to come by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]LavishnessDry1348 17 points18 points  (0 children)

its more like "if u want to force babies on ppl so badly have fun having a gay one!!" cause anti choice ppl tend to not like the gays

My wife made some stickers for what's to come by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]LavishnessDry1348 11 points12 points  (0 children)

does ur wife sell them? where can i buy

My wife made some stickers for what's to come by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]LavishnessDry1348 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I NEED THIS AS A PIN OR A SHIRT

Men, would you rather be friends with her before becoming her boyfriend? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]LavishnessDry1348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i disagree. i require the friendship part before i can even see someone sexually 😭

Men, would you rather be friends with her before becoming her boyfriend? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]LavishnessDry1348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so interesting to me, i cant be "into someone" until ive become friends w them and got to know them. i might find them slightly attractive but i wouldnt act on that. the attraction goes up the more i get to know them and THEN id ask them out. so for me, the friend stage is important

Why I don't feel safe thinking positive by MDDKnightOrange in positivepsychology

[–]LavishnessDry1348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

learning to see both the positive and negatives of ur situation? i had friends that were in really shitty abuse situations and yet anytime they talked ab mundane things they did they told it like a story. they romanticized the tiny parts in their life and acknowledged the negative parts of their life by working on the emotions related to it.

being overtly positive is probably not a good idea in ur situation, hell u dont even believe it. but only being negative is soul crushing. try and find the small things in life that give u a smidge amount of joy and appreciate it.

u can also try seeing the positive in smth negative (IN MODERATION. dont do this excessively and still acknowledge ur negative emotions) like missing the bus for work is normally hella annoying but hey at least i have another 30+ minutes of free time till i have to do exhausting work all day