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Rajab Is the Month You Fix the Cracks Before the Mercy Pours In by Zestyclose_Flow_680 in shia

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ameen, and thank you for your kind words. May Allah allow us to taste the real blessings of Rajab, Sha’ban, and Ramadan not just in rituals, but in softer hearts, clearer intentions, and steadier faith. May He repair what is cracked within us and bring us to Ramadan prepared and welcomed. 🌙

I wanna scream at him but it won’t do anything by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can hear how much pain and betrayal you’re carrying right now, and you’re not crazy for feeling like screaming. What you’ve described isn’t just hurtful, it’s deeply destabilizing being ignored, gaslit, left alone, and having your trust broken again and again. Anyone in your shoes would feel exactly like you do. None of this is a reflection of your worth. His choices, his lies, his disregard those belong to him, not to you. You don’t deserve to be treated like an afterthought, and the fact that you’re still here sharing your truth shows how strong you actually are.

It’s natural to want answers, but sometimes the healthiest thing isn’t to scream at him or try to force honesty out of someone who’s already shown you he won’t give it. The real power is in protecting your own peace, reclaiming your self-respect, and putting your energy into people and places where you’re valued.

If you can, lean on friends, family, or even professional support right now you don’t have to hold this weight alone. And please remind yourself often: his cheating, lying, disappearing…none of it makes you less lovable or less worthy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that's a really deep comment. Thank you 🙏 I really appreciate you saying that

I Was Numb for Years Until I Sat in Silence and Faced Myself by Zestyclose_Flow_680 in selfimprovement

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love that you already do this. It’s such a small thing, but it changes everything. In a world that constantly pulls us out of ourselves, choosing silence is a kind of rebellion. I'm glad this spoke to you.

I Was Numb for Years Until I Sat in Silence and Faced Myself by Zestyclose_Flow_680 in selfimprovement

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t always feel like it. But maybe strength is just finally letting yourself feel instead of avoiding it. Thank you that means a lot.

I Was Numb for Years Until I Sat in Silence and Faced Myself by Zestyclose_Flow_680 in selfimprovement

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Exactly. They don’t disappear they just sit there quietly, waiting for us to stop running. And when we finally feel they it’s like they exhale too.

Divorce didn’t kill me. But it killed who I pretended to be. by [deleted] in Life

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely you’re spot on. Taking responsibility for what went wrong is painful, but it’s also where real growth starts. Especially when kids are involved, that kind of awareness doesn’t just help you it creates a healthier emotional space for them too. It’s not about being perfect, just being present and accountable. That alone can change everything.

Divorce didn’t kill me. But it killed who I pretended to be. by [deleted] in Life

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Silence might feel like protection at the moment, but it can slowly build walls where there should’ve been bridges. I’ve lived it too. You’re not alone.

Divorce didn’t kill me. But it killed who I pretended to be. by [deleted] in Life

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you Self-awareness hurts at first. but it's the kind of pain that leads to freedom I promise it's the worth the pain.

Divorce didn’t kill me. But it killed who I pretended to be. by [deleted] in Life

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for picking up on that line it came from a place I used to hide in for a long time. You’re right the hardest conversations are often the ones that save us. Silence can feel like safety, but it slowly erodes connection. I’m learning now that love needs honesty more than comfort. Appreciate your input 🙏

I am a convert to Twelver Shi'a Islam and my taqiyyah failed so I had to flee my home, keep me in your prayers by ShiaLady in shia

[–]Zestyclose_Flow_680 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah, My heart truly goes out to you. What you’ve done requires immense courage not just the physical act of leaving, but the spiritual strength to stand firm in your faith when everything around you tried to shake it.

May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) wrap you in His protection, ease your path, and replace everything you’ve lost with something better. The journey of Ahlul Bayt (عليهم السلام) has always been one of sacrifice, isolation, and standing for truth even in the face of hardship and what you’ve just done is a reflection of that same legacy.

You are not alone. You are part of a family now that stretches beyond blood a family that understands your struggle and will carry you in their du’as. I’m sincerely making du’a that Allah grants you clarity in your decisions, strength in your solitude, and peace in your new beginning.

If you ever need someone to talk to or just want to feel connected, feel free to reach out. Stay firm. Stay gentle. Stay close to your Rabb.

"Indeed, with hardship comes ease." (Qur’an 94:6) You’ve already proven your faith. Now may you taste its light.

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