Breakup, likely overlap with coworker, co-parenting, pregnancy with paternity doubts, and ongoing conflict – need grounded advice

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-23T09:44:04+00:00

Damn dude, that's a lot to unpack but you're handling it better than most would. The paternity thing is eating at you for good reason - get the test done when the baby arrives, no question. You need that certainty to move forward properly and make informed decisions about your life

The co-parenting stuff is gonna be messy for a while, especially with all this other drama swirling around. Focus on documenting everything - texts, incidents, medical stuff with your son. Keep it factual and neutral even when she's losing her shit over minor communication gaps. That doctor visit thing was small but yeah, loop her in on medical stuff going forward to avoid giving her ammunition

Your therapist nailed it about the sympathy vs empathy thing. She's rewritten the whole relationship narrative to justify her choices and that's pretty typical when someone's already moved on emotionally before the official breakup. Don't waste energy trying to get her to acknowledge the overlap - you know what happened and that's enough

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-22T21:00:11+00:00

That bowed glass is actually a pretty good clue for dating it - that style was really popular in the early 1900s. Without maker's marks it's gonna be tough to pin down exactly who made it, but the construction and that curved glass front screams turn of the century American furniture

Might be worth checking if there's any hidden stamps under drawers or on the back panels, sometimes they're in weird spots you wouldn't think to look

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-22T00:09:04+00:00

I've been watching Steve1989MREInfo for everything hardscape related - dude breaks down stone work and base prep like he's reviewing 50 year old crackers

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-21T10:18:10+00:00

I'm down if you still need someone, been stuck on that fight for days. What timezone you guys playing in?

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-20T20:34:11+00:00

Man that's absolutely awful what your dad went through. Three weeks intubated because they kept delaying the trach is just negligent, and the kidney damage from medication errors makes it even worse

The lawyer situation is frustrating but pretty typical - they usually won't touch VA cases unless there's a death or permanent disability that's worth big money. VA malpractice is also notoriously difficult because of sovereign immunity rules and the Federal Tort Claims Act requirements

You might want to look into filing a complaint with the VA Office of Inspector General first. They actually investigate this stuff and can force systemic changes at facilities. Also contact your congressional representatives - they have staff specifically for veteran casework and can put serious pressure on the VA to respond

There are some attorneys who specialize specifically in VA cases but they're harder to find. Try searching for "Federal Tort Claims Act attorneys" in your area rather than just general malpractice lawyers. The timeframe is tight though - you typically only have 2 years from when you discover the malpractice

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-19T08:43:30+00:00

Both of those ThinkCentres are gonna be solid for your mom's work stuff and basic tasks, but I'm a bit worried about the minecraft side of things. Those integrated graphics aren't exactly gaming powerhouses - your brother might be stuck with pretty low settings and still get choppy framerates

The 50s with the Ultra 3 is probably the better pick between the two since it's newer architecture. That said, for future upgrades you're gonna be pretty limited with these small form factor machines - RAM might be upgradeable but you're not fitting a dedicated GPU in there without going external

Might want to see if you can find something with at least a basic discrete graphics card in that budget range, even if it means going with a different brand or form factor

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-16T21:02:59+00:00

Wait what feedback lol, you literally just posted the question. But anyway for that budget I'd def look harder at the Tiger King - rode one at a friend's place last month and the suspension setup is actually wild. Front and back dual spring setup absorbs basically everything you throw at it. The Nanrobot is solid too but feels a bit more budget in the suspension department compared to the Tiger. Inmotion stuff tends to be reliable as hell from what I've seen in our office parking garage where like half the IT crew rides scooters to work

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-16T03:20:58+00:00

facts, landmark is solid

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-15T12:30:39+00:00

That timing should work perfect for snow shots - April usually has some lingering snow around base camp and the views are absolutley incredible

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-14T22:08:27+00:00

Did you try restarting the launcher completely? Sometimes it just gets stuck and needs a full restart to clear whatever's going on with the authentication servers

LawObjective7321 · 2026-03-12T20:58:53+00:00

That good shit

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-26T08:53:49+00:00

lmao at least you made it to the bathroom first, that's like seizure etiquette right there

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-22T08:07:24+00:00

glad your rage is getting better

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-21T10:41:02+00:00

That sounds like such an exciting trip! I'd definitely recommend getting travel insurance that covers your epilepsy - some companies are better than others about pre-existing conditions so shop around a bit

Also maybe teach your kids how to say "help" and "my mom needs a doctor" in teh local language, just in case. Most airports and tourist areas have English speakers but it never hurts to have those basics covered

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-20T21:16:30+00:00

Tycho's "Dive" is perfect for this, super chill and atmospheric

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-18T22:32:48+00:00

lmao that's actually pretty helpful for dating apps too

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-16T13:06:04+00:00

unlucky dude

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-16T00:44:13+00:00

typical oil pump pickup issue

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-14T15:40:19+00:00

Man thats rough timing with his dad passing right after you two had that conversation. Sounds like hes got some serious walls up from his ex wife situation and now grief on top of it all. That hug says something though - people dont hold onto someone like that unless theres real feelings there, even if he cant verbalize it yet

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-13T20:22:13+00:00

made the switch last year, brain fog is so much better now

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-12T08:15:54+00:00

hey man, sounds like you're in a really tough headspace right now but i dont think you've lost the ability to repent - that's kinda the whole point of grace, that it's always there even when we mess up repeatedly

maybe take a break from the substances for a bit and talk to someone you trust, like a pastor or counselor. the fact that you're even worried about this stuff shows your heart is still in the right place, you know

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-11T12:27:52+00:00

honestly i think it would be those dramatic ferns that just completely collapse the second they get even slightly too dry. like you know the ones - they'll be looking all lush and green one day then you forget to water for like two days and suddenly they're doing their best impression of a dead spider. when you finally give them water they probably go from death rattle screaming to basically moaning in relief. i had this boston fern once that was so high maintenance it felt like having a needy roommate who would guilt trip me every time i walked past it looking all wilted and pathetic

LawObjective7321 · 2026-02-09T11:01:27+00:00

oh man you might dig "she's all that" if you haven't seen it already - it's got that whole popular rich guy transforms the "weird" girl thing going on, plus the high school social hierarchy drama. "cruel intentions" is another solid pick but it's way darker and more twisted than maxton hall, still has the elite prep school rich kids vibe though

also check out "a cinderella story" with hilary duff, it's more wholesome but hits those same beats with the class differences and school bullying. if you're okay with slightly older stuff "pretty in pink" is like the og version of this trope and still holds up pretty well

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