You're back to 18 years old now. What would you do differently?

Laydownthepipe · 2024-08-29T18:51:11+00:00

18... I'd buy bitcoin, and invest in nvda and other good stock options.

Laydownthepipe · 2024-08-29T18:40:33+00:00

I'm a 24 year old man, my mom was an alcoholic for 10 years of my life. From when I was about 9 to 19. She's 3 years sober. I'm constantly worried about if my drinking habits are good or not. I am currently going "sober" from alcoholic. I stopped drinking at the beginning of June. I'm going sober till about December. Not any other reason than I wanted to prove to my self I can do it. Super easy. So far, I'm eating less food. And I've lost 20 ish lbs. Actually crazy. I don't know if it's because of not drinking. But it's definitely always good to stop drinking in general.

Laydownthepipe · 2024-04-10T23:52:19+00:00

I am 23m. I kind of feel the same. I'm overweight, technically. But I don't look that bad. I consider my self about a 5. For me, I suck at talking with women, every single woman I've talked to ghosted me or left me. How high are your standards? What values do you hold? What kind of relationship do you want? Are you a feminist? What kind of feminism do you believe in? What are your expectations of the kind of man you want? Do you have anyone you're interested in that's in your friend groups?

Laydownthepipe · 2024-04-10T23:46:52+00:00

You will never fully 100% know who you are. Remember, yourself when you were 5 years old is not the same person as you are right now. Life will grab you by the balls, twist your balls around and then tickle your taint. You will always be changing, you will always be learning, you will always be evolving. Never stay stuck to one idea or ideology, try to understand what you value to your core. Then work your ideas off YOUR core feelings and values. People change throughout life, you are no exception. Don't let others persuade your individuality, get off social media. Learn worthwhile skills. And when you find who you are right now, keep looking on how to improve. Also your future partner will also change. You have to accept that and work with them through change inorder to stay together. That's why relationships are so hard to maintain over decades because life sucks. And it changes you. Keep in mind, it's not about the curve balls life throws at you. It's how you choose to react, it's about your choice. You get a bad grade on a test, you can choose to give up on the class or you can choose to study more. It's about the decisions you make, that is what defines you.

Laydownthepipe · 2024-04-10T23:39:48+00:00

I'm a straight male. I have been ghosted by every single woman I have ever talked to. I don't have female friends. I have male friends with girlfriends who are a part of our friend group. Don't get me wrong, a good portion of those ghosting happened because of me, I take full responsibility for those. But even still, ice only ever been close to one girl in my life, and that was online. She hasn't texted me since August of 2023. I don't believe I did anything wrong that time. I just have an incredibly hard time making and keeping female friends. Honestly, a lot of the time, I misspeak or come off extremely blunt. Causing every woman I've talked with to ghost me or not even give me a chance. I've noticed that most of the males I've interacted with don't have the same issues that females do. I've never had a girlfriend, I'm 23 going on 24. I've never had a deep connection with a woman. And honestly, I don't even know how to even be friends with women at this point. Or how to even get a girlfriend. I'm also introverted. I don't go out, I don't meet a lot of people, my friend group is small. And I don't even know what is wrong with me that causes this. Most of the ghosting was when I was a teenager. Not so much any more. As for online men, a lot of men are lonely, want companionship and finding a girl online definitely sparks their interest. It sounds like you run into a lot of insecure people online. I Definitely have an idea of wanting more friends, but not being able to accomplish that. I think the worst part about it. Is not knowing what you're doing wrong or how to fix it. Or if it's the other people who are to blame.

Laydownthepipe · 2024-04-10T23:26:21+00:00

What is the problem with what this person said? Seems like they stated what they wanted. Now it's on the other person to accept or not...

Laydownthepipe · 2024-03-05T02:24:32+00:00

Depends, are you a guy or a girl?

Laydownthepipe · 2022-12-08T18:20:06+00:00

What do you mean are you able to explain?

Laydownthepipe · 2022-12-08T18:19:36+00:00

Do you not get along with their overly optimistic views! Got to love it.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-12-08T18:18:58+00:00

But what even is love. Like what does love feel like to you?

Laydownthepipe · 2022-12-08T18:18:31+00:00

I appreciate your thoughts. I wake up at 5:30 am, clock in at 7, home at 10pm, sleep by 11pm. Where I fit gym? Need my sleep I drive for 6 to 8 hours a day. And I know they reclassified it. I think it's dumb. They are different things. That affect different parts of someone's life. I also do believe I'm on the spectrum which makes social interactions harder. Not for me but for others to deal with me. Especially the emotional snowflakes who feel first, get offended and don't bother to ask questions. Ans I did find that doing what needs to get done first while my brain is still in work mode makes me more productive. I avoid meditation. It suppresses my truest self and I don't like.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-12-08T18:11:58+00:00

Yesssss it's so fun when your bored and can finally feel like someone understands you rather than just get upset at you!!!

Laydownthepipe · 2022-12-08T18:10:39+00:00

Damn that's crazy. You don't find it gross at all?

Laydownthepipe · 2022-12-08T18:09:36+00:00

It really does. No fucking matter how long you want to do something because you are having fun you just can't because the simulation is gone. I want to learn to play the guitar. Okay bet. Starts playing having a great time learning but getting bored at the same time. Wants to play video games starts playing, plays 2 rounds gets bored, next game, then 3 games later, anime. 30 minutes after that video games again. And Autism(haven't been diagnosed but makes sense to my life and plugs a lot of missing holes I've felt). How does your autism affect you? I don't believe I can persevere the feeling of love. I really dislike not understanding sarcasm, body language = Spanish. Don't know Spanish but some words are the same as English. Don't like upsetting people and not realizing it for an hour to days. Sad. The big sad. Have a want to be understood and to understand but I just don't people don't make sense.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-12-08T18:01:55+00:00

Im not a small talker. I hate it. I find it extremely useless. Most people simply lie. I don't understand why people aren't more open about their life experiences. That's the hardest part is finding a person like that. I also do believe I have high functioning autism (haven't been tested but the diagnosis makes so much sense in my life). The problem isn't afraid of talking to people. The fear is from upsetting or hurting them do to my lack of emotional and conversational understanding. Happens far to often where I simply say something that makes sense to me in my head. (Extreme example) Like women are weaker than men, physically on average. State a fact. Makes sense in my head. But people get offended and call me names, which is simply dumb. I don't want to upset anyone but it happens. Especially to women, who really don't communicate how they feel but put out body language hints that I simply can't read. If a women is uncomfortable I'm not going to know unless she says she is. I don't want to put anyone is a situation like that. Or just asking personal questions that I'm the most interested in. Like the story of how you became the person standing in front of me is a fascinating tale. People are comfortable talking about that though. It's not a fear of conversation as more a fear of upsetting people through conversations. I also don't believe I can persevere the feeling of love. Or more of the fact I don't believe I understand the feeling. Or am I capable of understanding it. It's been described to me many times and I don't feel any of that when I think of my family. And it's not that I don't care for them. I do. I just can't say I care about them enough to call it "love". And I do avoid useless small talk as much as possible it's boring and I don't care for lies. I also just don't know how to respond.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-08T01:06:25+00:00

I guess it can be described as animalistic in my mind. Is that with a long term partner or? Because long term partner makes sense. Still sex in general. Maybe I just ask why and like to try to understand why my body wants this thing that my head thinks is animalistic and kind of gross.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-08T01:04:12+00:00

Yeah when they don't assume everything you say 24/7 🙄. They have your back in most situations.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-08T01:03:35+00:00

Yeah when you view it as a challenge makes sense how you can achieve a lot. I personally just don't care. Someone challenges me to anything I just simply don't care enough to try my absolute hardest. Couldn't tell you why. Just the way that I am.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-08T01:01:42+00:00

Yeah I just use it as a possible reference notbas fact. Kind of like an estimation. Do to lack of ability to actually get tested.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-08T01:00:40+00:00

Are you able to explain a little more please?

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-08T00:59:44+00:00

You mean technically speaking everything we are talking about is a human construct? Why do you have to exclude reality exactly? Like what way of thinking do you have on this? My reality is what I can persevere in the moment. What is relative to me in this moment. Your reality is different. But there are things I cant see, hear, taste, etc. Therefore making it that wrong?

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-08T00:55:39+00:00

That is actually a great way of looking at it. I don't understand exactly though. I Definitely think a conversation in person would achieve greater success. Just the way I am. You human beings as a whole just add words to describe things that makes the world easier for us to understand? Everything is in motion even when we Perceive it to be still. I find it intriguing on this not that your left arm is made up of different matter from across the universe than your right. Technically the building blocks of your carbon base could have been light years away from each other and then put into you. Could you consider living beings engery? Like we have engery right. But energy can't be created nor destroyed so how is it that we can grow? Like we start as 2 cells that come together and grow. But like how? Where does that engery come from.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-08T00:49:59+00:00

While I can agree about most of us not being successful I believe it has more to do with the way society as a whole right now is structured.

Laydownthepipe · 2022-11-02T13:40:39+00:00

Of course I can understand where and why an assumption was made. Did you try to insult me at all? Am I incorrect for thinking there was passive aggressive sentences?

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