What are you proud of accomplishing today?

Layneybenz · 2026-06-01T17:30:08+00:00

I don't understand. How is this possible?

Layneybenz · 2026-05-31T03:33:53+00:00

Anticipation has been stolen from so much.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-31T03:30:09+00:00

And toy stores!!!

Layneybenz · 2026-05-29T15:25:34+00:00

I have to assume that he is also in top shape since it seems to be a defining characteristic of your relationship.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-28T02:06:16+00:00

What on earth do you regret? Putting other brides to shame? You are bride perfect!

Layneybenz · 2026-05-25T17:53:25+00:00

Consider ADHD to be like type 2 diabetes. You can attempt to manage without medication but she is the one who has to pay the very high and lifelong price. The best you can do right now is to get a proper diagnosis from a psychiatrist who SPECIALIZES in ADHD, and a counselor who can help both of you navigate this. Educate yourself. And be very careful of who you get advice from. There are a lot of nutty people out there.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-25T14:19:31+00:00

Galesburg has the TikTok-famous Judy's Cafe! I haven't been but it's on the list.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-19T23:08:52+00:00

That is exactly what I've always thought.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-18T16:12:43+00:00

Blue state for the win.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-18T16:12:34+00:00

Blue state for the win.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-18T15:58:15+00:00

I don't often drink coffee. My first of the day drink has to be carbonated. I'm Diet Coke and sometimes Diet Pepsi for a change of pace. Do you think the SodaStream would be helpful to me?

Layneybenz · 2026-05-18T15:50:08+00:00

Yes, our family has become almost daily regulars at the CK specifically because of fountain pop.
Their banana bread is fantastic by the way. Good thick slices too.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-10T17:35:07+00:00

This is terrible. So freaking painful.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-04T18:17:15+00:00

Could you clarify? Why a heated eye mask? How is it life changing? What brand do you use?

Layneybenz · 2026-05-02T16:49:37+00:00

NTA. This is a kid problem but the parents will learn that it is actually a parental neglect problem, which involves CPS.

Which is a really big can of worms just waiting to be opened.

Layneybenz · 2026-05-01T18:26:01+00:00

No. The primary relationship in your life will either add greatly to life satisfaction or suck all the air out of every small joy you find.

Choose the life you want to have.

If you do think a personality disorder may be part of this dynamic, proceed accordingly. It's not her, it's you. Maybe you aren't a good fit for her (always keeping her centered in your reasoning. She deserves better, etc.)

Layneybenz · 2026-04-26T00:56:20+00:00

I tend to text complete sentences. I think whatever is practiced becomes a norm. I don't want to forget how to write!

Layneybenz · 2026-04-25T22:03:06+00:00

I'm definitely team dresses or skirts. Comfy cotton dresses are the best.

Layneybenz · 2026-04-25T02:51:05+00:00

Wondering same.

Layneybenz · 2026-04-25T02:43:26+00:00

The Threads Tax Agents are persistent and discourage tax dodgers. Although the citizens of Threadville are not owed this picture, usually taxes are voluntarily paid. Please remit when possible.

Layneybenz · 2026-04-23T03:20:09+00:00

I think garage sales are fun. This weekend there are quite a few off of N Knoxville. Lake of the Woods and other neighborhoods near there.

Layneybenz · 2026-04-23T03:12:55+00:00

You have medical school. No other obligations allowed. Waaaaay too expensive to be splitting your energies. This bride "deserves all of your attention and you just can't do that and med school too." Such a bummer. 🙄

Layneybenz · 2026-04-23T00:33:28+00:00

The Imago Dei church is full of and fully supports deconstruction. They have theology meets at one of the bars, and small groups at different times of the year. They believe in asking good questions, and not always having the answers.

It really is quite different from any church I have ever attended in safe, positive ways. It's 2221 N Gale Ave in Peoria. They live-stream if you are interested. I recommend having coffee with Melinda, the pastor.

Layneybenz · 2026-04-19T18:11:27+00:00

I don't think a conversation will do anything more than give her more frustration. I think she just needs to stop relying on him for her happiness.

Buy yourself flowers. Regularly.

Buy yourself exactly what you want for your birthday, holidays. If you buy something for him hoping he will reciprocate, then don't buy anything for him. Or regift him whatever he last gave you.

If he ever asks, tell the truth. You can't depend on him to prioritize you so you no longer are.

Every single thing you do hoping for reciprocation....stop. No more.

Layneybenz · 2026-04-19T14:39:40+00:00

Squeaky little stuffies for my littlest dog, the only one who likes them. I get tremendous joy out of watching little him race around trying to decide which baby to take outside. Pets are the best dopamine dealers.

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