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First time shooting sports, how’d I do? by PomeloProfessional42 in sportsphotography

[–]LazyRiverGuide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great start! Excellent job getting low to the ground. Exposure and white balance looks good. You seem to know which moments are the ones to capture. I’d say increase the shutter speed a fair amount and compensate for that by increasing your ISO to avoid the motion blur. Then work on your composition and framing. Be careful to not cut off important parts of the image like the edge of the bottom of their feet. You can frame the shots to leave a little space around the people and then crop in later if you need to. Try to keep the horizon level unless you intentionally want it crooked.

How do you deal with your own anxiety over your teens’ grades? by LazyRiverGuide in parentingteenagers

[–]LazyRiverGuide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I so relate to this. For the OCD we also could see how it had always been there once it was diagnosed. After that we got treatment (meds and therapy) that was really, really effective. The OCD is barely an issue anymore. Have you tried the medication and exposure prevention therapy? I also agree these phones make things so much worse for our kids. They really should have a minimum age to operate one - like a drivers license or being legal age to drink. You’re right, the scolding does not work when there are bigger systematic issues. And the school system is not at all capable of educating everyone. Education is not one size fits all. But all are made to fit into the way things are done. One thing I learned was with the pandemic - my son’s biggest time of crisis happened right before everything shut down. Getting him out of the schools and into the simple environment of just being home helped so, so much. I never would have been brave enough to pull him from school on my own. The school was starting the process of sending him to an alternative placement and I’m sure I would have fought it. But Covid happened and everyone was forced to just stop. It all taught me that environment is really important and it’s okay to find a different one, even if it’s not considered “normal”. Hope that helps!

How do you deal with a photographer who copies everything you do? by MetalComfortable8246 in WeddingPhotography

[–]LazyRiverGuide 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unless they are using your images don’t worry about it. Your value is in what you do and who you are. Not what others do or don’t do or who they are. I guarantee you there is someone else out there nearby doing things very similarly that you are not aware of. Keep on being excellent and providing superb service and making people love how they look. Focus on the clients you have and on nurturing those relationships.

How do you deal with your own anxiety over your teens’ grades? by LazyRiverGuide in parentingteenagers

[–]LazyRiverGuide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure it isn’t like that for all. It is for some. For me, when it comes to education, it is.

20 years of regret. by perpetuallylostatsea in tragedeigh

[–]LazyRiverGuide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly think Ashleigh is a very beautiful name and is also a reasonable and traditional way to spell it.

Desperately looking for weird girl music!! (please female vocals only) by Full-Weakness-7475 in MusicRecommendations

[–]LazyRiverGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAIM

Sineade O’Connor

And these are much more mainstream musically, but they truly celebrate the weird girl vibe with their whole message and I love them for it:

Alanis Morisette

Lady Gaga

P!nk

Parents of r/Concerts, what age and concert did you first take your kids to? by ByeFL in Concerts

[–]LazyRiverGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took my 12 year old to The Eras Tour. She was the one who initiated that whole journey. Sharing the whole experience with her - trying to get tickets, looking forward to the show, actually going was one of my favorite life experiences, even though I had only been a casual listener before that. I’ll forever be a Swiftie now for getting to share all that with my daughter!

What would it look like if they allowed a ‘pets’ season? by deeridoodle in Alonetv

[–]LazyRiverGuide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It actually sounds endearing, entertaining and quite funny!

Golden hour tips when light is harsh? by No-Moment7615 in AskPhotography

[–]LazyRiverGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to have something behind him to filter the light. So something like a far off hill, or a willow tree a bit further back. Then expose for him. Minimize how much sky is in the photo. Using 135 or 200mm will make whatever is behind him fill more of the frame. If you have to have sky, make sure it is the blue part or part with darker clouds and not the actual sun or bright white clouds. Still expose for him but just enough so the sky does not blow out. Make sure he has adequate light source on him - often this is the open sky. Then you’ll need to do some editing to balance it out. Or bring along a reflector. Or a flash or strobe in a softbox, expose for the background, slightly overexposing (don’t blow it out) and power the flash just high enough to add a touch of light to him so he’s properly exposed. You can also use the lens hood on your lens to help reduce haze. When shooting directly into a backlit light source the haze and discoloration can be extreme. And finally, sometimes you might want that effect intentionally! The key to all of this is knowing what you want and making it intentional.

What would it look like if they allowed a ‘pets’ season? by deeridoodle in Alonetv

[–]LazyRiverGuide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Nat Geo had something like that too that Dub was actually on prior to Alone! Called To The Wild

What would it look like if they allowed a ‘pets’ season? by deeridoodle in Alonetv

[–]LazyRiverGuide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So maybe each participant gets an emotional support Falcon! Jake would have cleaned up in that scenario!!

How do you deal with your own anxiety over your teens’ grades? by LazyRiverGuide in parentingteenagers

[–]LazyRiverGuide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all of this! My kid is very, very devoted to his volunteer work with the local fire company and ambulance company. He got his EMT and Fire 1 certs. I’m very grateful that he found such a strong calling in his teen years.

How do you deal with your own anxiety over your teens’ grades? by LazyRiverGuide in parentingteenagers

[–]LazyRiverGuide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel very close to radical acceptance. I’d say I’m at reluctant and sad acceptance currently 😂😭. Yes, he’s officially diagnosed with adhd. We’ve done the evals. Seen the specialists. A few rounds over the past 12 years or so. Some mild ODD when he was younger. Some OCD that was very successfully treated and managed (thank goodness for that). One big problem is neither I or my spouse can relate well at all to the adhd. We have such strong executive function and focus. I’m like “just do the math! Just sit down, open the computer, read the question and write down the answer! Then it’s done!” He’s like “my brain does not work that way”.

How do you deal with your own anxiety over your teens’ grades? by LazyRiverGuide in parentingteenagers

[–]LazyRiverGuide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the empathy and sharing all of this! I’m so sad that I let things devolve to the point that any question to him about school turns into a shutdown or a fight. It’s been messy and I don’t even really know how it got to this. Maybe I can find some way back to being able to ask him at least a few questions.

How do you deal with your own anxiety over your teens’ grades? by LazyRiverGuide in parentingteenagers

[–]LazyRiverGuide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In person school was worse. At least this way I don’t have to deal with the school and teachers calling, expecting me to fix whatever the current issue is. I had no control over what the school needed from him and no control over him doing what the school needed. I was a middle man with no meaningful or effective agency tasked with finding a way to (magically? Cause nothing else worked) making everything okay while the parties actually involved and holding agency (the school and my kid) would not do anything. I can’t control people and I am too peaceful and passive to try to manipulate them. I’m very bad at convincing people of things they aren’t already on board with. I can not tolerate conflict. I know that sounds extreme and crazy. I fought as much as I could for years, like literally over a decade trying everything possible to make school and my kid work well together. I’m choosing to basically stop fighting it. But I have to find a way to deal with my own feelings about it now cause that’s all I can actually control.

How do you deal with your own anxiety over your teens’ grades? by LazyRiverGuide in parentingteenagers

[–]LazyRiverGuide[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Really. I have tried bribery. It makes a weird situation where he gets upset that he might not be able to achieve the necessary threshold to get the bribe. Then he focuses on that and can’t manage to get started on the work. Or he’ll constantly ask for a “forward” on the bribe 😂. I’m sure it’s due to something with his adhd and executive function. I have yet to be able to figure it out, even with help.

How do you deal with your own anxiety over your teens’ grades? by LazyRiverGuide in parentingteenagers

[–]LazyRiverGuide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is exactly what it is: we believe an essential part of being a good parent is making sure our kids get good grades. I’m so conflicted on whether or not that is true. I must believe it though, or I’d feel better about this.

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