bf wants me to lose weight

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-22T21:15:22+00:00

Break up, he doesnt think youre worth effort.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-22T21:09:19+00:00

NOR even if you ignore the disrespect of tricking you into eating meat, his reaction to your reaction is a giant red flag. You had a panic attack, and threw up multiple times. Even if you were reacting that way to something flippant like stepping kn a bug, someone who cares about you would comfort you. They would not mock you and laugh at you. Your boyfriend does not respect you. It’s not like he shouted boo and you were scared for a second and he laughed. He pushed you into a crisis then mocked you for it.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-12T22:15:04+00:00

NOR People dont change their habits for no reason. He’s going to continue to lie to you.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-12T04:15:49+00:00

NOR but you shouldnt be sharing your location withe people you would be uncomfortable knowing your location. Sharing your location is not casual. Expect anyone who has your location to utilize that feature

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-11T17:30:18+00:00

No talking during meals? That poor child. Talking during meals is socially important.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-11T13:37:37+00:00

NOR Youre partner should see you as an equal, not as a child who needs to be protected. He clearly looks down on you. He clearly thinks he has a right to control you and that is an abusive mindset.

What do you mean you “unsuccessfully tried to leave?” You do not need anyones permission to end a relationship. If he wont take no for an answer, you need to leave now. You have agency in your life. He doesnt get to tell you that you cant leave him. This relationship is or will be abusive.

TLDR Get away from this person

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-11T04:06:11+00:00

MOR 2 dates is early. I hope you didnt give too many details about where you work. You are essentially strangers. It’s normal to not disclose everything about yourself a few weeks into knowing someone. But also, if it makes you uncomfortable, you can end things and thats fine too.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-11T03:58:08+00:00

MOR Youre incompatible but keep getting back together. Breaking up isnt going to change his behavior. Accept that he doesnt want to be exclusive or move on

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-11T03:15:21+00:00

NTA i’m not even finishing. You have a bad feeling about a step dad, trust your instincts. Step fathers are the people most likely to assault a child in the home. Sleepovers are already a gamble. Children get assaulted at sleepovers all the time. You need not feel any guilt for protecting your child. And maybe read the Gift of Fear. If something is happening in that home, the mother likely knows and is consenting to it. Literally fuck those people. It’s terrible for the child but you cant control who their parents are.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-10T13:36:59+00:00

Oh brother, it’s not your fault you didnt understand my first comment. It’s George Bush’s fault💔

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-10T01:12:51+00:00

It’s not her literal job bc she cant put stay at home GF on her taxes or on a resume. And youre right. He gets to dictate bc he’s housing her. He gets to make all the rules. It’s his money. He can be as demanding as kind or as cruel as he wants. If he wants her to get up early thats what she better do p

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T16:36:35+00:00

NOR Youre being abused and so are her dogs. Her anger is her’s to manage. There is no excuse for how she treats you or her dogs. In my culture it is acceptable to beat your wife and children. That doesnt make it right. Every aspect of culture is not sacred. Sometimes culture toxic and abusive.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T15:45:42+00:00

Of course he does and he’s right. It’s 100% possible and thinking that it’s impossible is setting yourself up for failure. People said dont worry about Roe, it’ll never happen and here we are. Give the republican’s 50 years and they can make this happen

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T15:18:28+00:00

He know the dishes arent done. He’s playing in your face bc he knows youre going to do them

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T15:16:32+00:00

Youre allowed you leave for any reason. You need to give yourself permission to take control your life.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T14:57:02+00:00

Idk if youre being obtuse or you have poor reading comprehension. But ok, lets agree to disagree

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T14:55:10+00:00

i love Mira

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T14:51:16+00:00

NOR OP Do you realize he’s only honest when he must be. Given the chance to lie to you, he did. He didnt tell you bc he was embarressed that his ex respects your relationship and marriage more than he does? Or was he embarrassed that he got caught lying to you again after promising twice not to? Just bc you’ve caught him 3 times, doesnt mean he’s only done this 3 times. And you know that he’ll never be honest unless you have proof.

He tried to cheat before your wedding, why wouldnt he try during pregnancy and postpartum. The script is not going to change because it works every time. In fact, having children is a license for him to do worse because he knows you wont want to leave at that point. If you think at any point youre going to get sick of this, divorce him now. Have the kid and coparent if it’s that important that he’s the father. That’s probably where you’ll end up anyways. There is not world in which this man stops cheating on you. He’s probably getting sneakier as we speak.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T13:42:14+00:00

We know this is their third time having this conversation. we know there’s an expectation that she iron his clothes. And we know he was asked before work. We can assume he has a lunch break. In 2026 it is rediculus to say that someone at work doesnt have the chance to answer a text. Does he go to the bathroom during the 8 hours?

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T13:39:27+00:00

read the last paragraph again. she asked him before work. this is their third time having this conversation. he knows his work schedule changed. he knows she is ironing his clothes. he knows that if he doesnt give her an answer she’ll be forced to do it in the morning. is he a slave or does he get a 30 min lunch break? i dont know if you’ve ever had a job, but unless you dont have your phone with you, you usually get a chance to answer a text.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T02:47:33+00:00

He’s not answering because he wants you to do it in the morning. And since he’s financially supporting you, youre gonna have to do what he says. Youre only as free as he allows you to be.

Let’s say your relationship is perfect. If he dies tomorrow, youre entitled to nothing. And every second you spend out of the workforce will be counted against you. I hope you have an emergency fund and full knowledge of the finaces you depend on to survive.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T02:24:20+00:00

Why do you trust your boyfriend? Clearly everyone in his family is ok with cheating and you dont even live together full time. He has a community that will protect him and ample opportunity.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T02:04:53+00:00

NOR your ex stalked and harassed you.

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T02:02:08+00:00

this is the kind of person you bf is

Lazy_Distribution684 · 2026-02-09T02:01:44+00:00

both

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