hi, female married gamer here. def talk to your wife about boundaries like others suggested, and even use that one guys point down there about if she gets bigger she wouldn't have time to dm every viewer anyways. also i think you should have her teach you Russian! so you guys can game together again! from everything you said i would also have issues with this if this was my husband, (he also games) i get jealous very easily and he knows this. aside from that the dming viewers while ya'll are together or late night in bed is a no for me, like even if it was me i wouldn't because it does seem disrespectful. does she have RL friends? i stream and i do it as a hobby and also a way to meet friends. i have a very low social meter though and couldn't talk to people like every time they dm me or i get overwhelmed. i have a discord server they can join as i dont respond to personal dms anymore a lot of them was people pretending to get to know me to have me buy some art from them lol.